The party game 7 Minutes in Heaven is played mostly by teenagers.Two people are chosen to be alone in a dark space for 7 minutes.You are free to do whatever you please during this time.Many players use this time to talk privately or participate in intimate activities, like kissing and making out.No matter how you play the game, you should always respect the limits of others and not do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Step 1: Ready for the game to start.
You will need a small area of your home to play this game.The area is generally dark, but you can choose one that is well lit.It is not necessary to include chairs for players to sit in.Some locations you might consider for your game include a closet, bathroom, or laundry room.If you want the room to be dark at all times, you can remove the light bulb from the fixture.If you've removed the lights from the room, make sure the area is clear and free of obstacles that could be dangerous.You might want to remove the clocks from the room where you'll be playing the game.This may include watches and cell phones.
Step 2: The players need to be gathered.
The game is usually played with an equal number of boys and girls, though it might not always be the case.The game can be played with as few as 6 people.If you're at camp, you might try to play the game with your campmates.
Step 3: Explain the rules to the other players.
You will need to explain the rules of the game after you have your players in the room.There are many different variations of 7 Minutes in Heaven.The rules include selecting two people at random.Two people are sent into a room for 7 minutes.Don't forget to close the door.At the end of 7 minutes, the two people were let out of the room.You can make "house rules" when you play, like "no watches or cell phones allowed in the room" or "the lights have to be on/off".It is possible to make a rule that no one has to go into the room unless they want to.
Step 4: A random lottery is created.
Two people will be sent into a room for 7 minutes in heaven.You can draw names from a hat or spin a bottle to randomly pick two people.If you want to make sure that both boys and girls are sent into the room, you could arrange your lottery by gender.If you want to split your lottery by gender, you can spin the bottle for the boys and the girls at the same time.The person the bottle points to will be sent to the room.You might have one container for girls and one for boys when drawing names from a hat or container.You can pick one name from each round.
Step 5: Go play the game.
There are two people in the room for 7 minutes.You can play the game for as many rounds as you want, though you may want other activities, like a board game or cards, to keep other players occupied while waiting for the two chosen to finish their 7 minutes in heaven.A dramatic alert can add to the atmosphere of the game and help you keep track of time.It's time to come out if you knock on the door when the timer is up.Two new players can be selected with your random lottery.At the end of the 7 minutes in heaven, you may want to know more.When the time is up, you could open the door suddenly.
Step 6: Before playing, set clear limits
It's a good idea to set some personal limits with the person you'll be sharing your 7 minutes in heaven with if there are no rules limiting how far you can go.The other player might misinterpret the signals you are setting and go too far.You could ask, "Can we just talk?"Let's talk first.I might be okay with a kiss, but I don't want to rush into it.If you said, "Kissing is OK, but I'm not OK with other touching," you could establish a firm boundary.
Step 7: As soon as it happens, your voice is uncomfortable.
It's possible that something will make you feel uncomfortable.When this happens, you should use straightforward language to tell the other player that you want to stop.If you are touched in a way that you don't like, you could say no.I don't want to be touched.If you don't tell someone "No," things might go farther than you intended.You shouldn't participate in something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Step 8: Ask the other player if he wants to do something new.
Things like hand-holding, petting, or other touches that might exceed the personal boundaries of the other player are included.You don't accidentally violate someone's boundaries if you do this.It only takes a second to ask if it's okay to hold your hand.Is it okay for me to touch you?
Step 9: You should collect your thoughts.
Take a deep breath and give yourself a moment.In a peer pressure situation, emotions can get out of hand and make you say or do things you don't mean.Pausing for a moment will allow you to better understand yourself in the moment.What kind of person do I want to be?Is that person capable of doing this?You should not participate if the answer is no.
Step 10: Speak clearly about your feelings.
By expressing your personal feelings, you can connect with your friends.It's easier for your friends to identify with you if you bring things from a group context to a personal one.You could say, "I love hanging out with you guys and I don't want to be a stick in the mud, but I really do not feel comfortable playing this game."
Step 11: Excuse me.
If your friends are determined to get you to play, an excuse can come in handy."My throat's been a little sore lately and I don't want to get anyone sick" is not a big fib.I have a canker sore that's been bothering me so I can't play.
Step 12: Suggest a different activity.
Some of the other players might want to play more than 7 Minutes in Heaven, and there are plenty of group games you could play instead.Twister, charades, pictionary, UNO, and more are examples.You may want to support games that are popular in the group.If others want to play a different game, you stand a better chance.