When love works, the two people live happily ever after.At least one person will end up hurt when love fails.You might feel like you won't succeed at love or be happy again if you are that person.Even though this love failed, you can't be unhappy.You can be happy with the single life if you work through your emotions.
Step 1: Give yourself a break.
It's normal to feel sad and out of sorts when love fails.Don't expect to be over your ex in a day or two.Be patient and work through your feelings about the break up.If you give yourself time to move on, you will eventually be happy.Even though the situation is painful, you can still feel grounded in the world, which is normal.Try to find someone new to love instead of rushing into another relationship.Time is needed to get over this.Allow yourself some time to process what you are feeling.It's okay to think about why the love didn't work.People will tell you to get over it.Don't let anyone rush you into getting over your failed love.If you've been without a partner for several months, you may want to put more effort into moving on.
Step 2: Move past denial.
You may not want to believe that love has failed.You don't have to pretend that your love is the same as it was.You have to stop denying that this love failed in order to be happy.Don't act like things are the same when you contact your ex.This will make it harder for you to move on and be happy.Reminders of your ex should be put away.If the background on your phone is a picture of you, then change it.If people ask you about the relationship, don't lie.You don't have to tell them everything, but you should be honest with them.You could say, "We didn't work out, but I'd rather not talk about it any further than that."
Step 3: Accept that this is over.
You might think that if you change certain things about yourself or convince your ex the love can work, you will get back together even though your love has failed.This usually doesn't work.Accept that it is over and you can move on with your life.You shouldn't be thinking of ways to make your love work.If you want your ex to realize how much they miss you, don't try to make them jealous.Look in the mirror and say this is over.It didn't work out and I accept that.Send back your ex's possessions as soon as possible.Don't keep their winter coat in the hopes that you will be back together by the time they need it again.
Step 4: Give your ex a break.
It is natural for you to be angry when you realize that this love has failed.You might want to blame someone.Anger can make you more stressed.You have to let go of anger and forgiveness in order to be happy.If they did something to cause the love to fail, write a letter to your ex.You don't have to give it to them.If you want to get rid of your negative energy, do something physical.Go for a run, swim, or do yoga after punching a boxing bag.If the love failed, forgive yourself.Sometimes we make mistakes.You have to forgive yourself, learn from it, and be happy.
Step 5: Increase your self-esteem.
This relationship did not work out, so don't consider yourself a failure.It doesn't mean you are a failure at love.You will find love again if you remember that you are an amazing person.It might be helpful to improve your self-esteem to help lift yourself up again.You can love someone else if you list all the good things about yourself.Tell yourself, "I am lovable and can be successful at love because I am..."Every day try to add a new reason why you are great to your list and remind yourself that you can be happy.Being able to name how you feel and what you need is a powerful way to reflect on yourself.Give yourself time to really feel.
Step 6: Use the support system.
This is not a good idea and won't help you be happy.One way to remind yourself that you are lovable is to be around people that love you.It's okay to rely on your friends and family to help you recover because they care about you.It is okay to ask someone to be with you, not doing anything or talking, but just being present for support.Talk to them about how you feel about yourself.You could say, "I feel a lot of different emotions because of this love failing."Don't resist their attempts to cheer you up, I feel confused sometimes and optimistic at other times.They want to see you happy.Have fun with them.They can help you avoid texting or calling.
Step 7: It's much harder to be happy after love failure if you don't take care of yourself.
You might feel tired or cranky because you aren't getting enough sleep.Research shows that break-ups can weaken the heart, so treat yourself well.Get enough sleep, eat balanced meals, and participate in physical activity.This will help you with your body and mind.It's a good idea to do something different with your appearance.Try a new hairstyle or wear a flattering outfit.If you want to do something special for yourself, buy yourself some fishing gear or a spa day.
Step 8: Ask for counseling.
You may want to talk to a counselor if you are having trouble sleeping, eating, or completing everyday activities.If you have started using alcohol or drugs, you should see a counselor.Counseling can help you with these things so that you can be happy and loving yourself.After love failure, chemical changes in the body may cause you to feel depressed.In some cases, your therapist may prescribe an anti-depressant to help regulate the chemical changes in your body.
Step 9: Try to deal with something.
It's possible that you need to use specific methods to deal with your love failure.It is possible to reduce stress and be happier in the long-term by using these techniques.Deep breathing techniques can help you think and feel better.Try meditating as a way to relax.For a few moments each day, sit or lie quietly and focus on your breathing, a mantra, or just being present in the moment.
Step 10: Try new activities.
One way to enjoy being single is to do things on your own.When you were in a relationship, you didn't have the time to do your hobbies and interests.You can make yourself happy by doing them.Try an activity or hobby that will help you develop your talent or learn a new skill.Painting, gardening, swimming, yoga, or poetry are all enjoyable things you can do on your own.You can either take an online course on something that interests you or learn a foreign language.Your progress will make you proud.Start a video channel about something you know a lot about.By continuing to live a vibrant life, you're taking back your power and allowing yourself to heal and transform into someone who feels good to you.
Step 11: You can spend time with friends and family that make you happy.
It is possible to meet new people that will turn out to be great friends or even a future love.Make the most of being single by getting out and socializing.Attend events your family and friends invite you to.It is possible to support your loved ones and meet new people.You can volunteer for causes.You will be happy to help your community and meet people with similar interests.Dinner parties or game nights can be organized for friends and family.Guests should be told to bring a guest.
Step 12: It doesn't mean that you should find someone else to love immediately.
It just means that you can spend time with someone that interests you.This will allow you to figure out what will make you happy.It will allow you to tell some epic stories to your friends.If you aren't ready to date just yet, try flirting.There is a cute salesclerk at the grocery store.It's a good idea to compliment the tech setting up your device.It's important to remember that dating someone doesn't mean you're in a relationship with them.If you want to be in a relationship, you should spend time with them.