What do you want to do with your life?Do you just want a short-term relationship?Are you waiting for the right guy?Even if he does, you won't know.The steps you need to take to become a vibrant, interesting, fun person are outlined below.Please be patient and receptive.You will learn a lot by the time you finish reading, even if some ideas are old news to you.Make sure you keep these ideas in mind.Many women have done these steps before you.Before dismissing a tip, give it at least 1-2 months of honest effort.
Step 1: Think about how men operate.
The first thing to remember is how men operate.There are both feminine and masculine people.For ease of use, we say "men and women", but this can easily be applied to a "male or female" version of either sex, regardless of the sex.When we say "men", we're referring to the masculine energy.Men love action.They enjoy doing.They will do it when something interests them.They don't feel guilty about it because it makes them interesting.Men with full lives, fun friends, and great gadgets make them interesting to women.When women dislike their man's friends, they are usually a source of fun for men.
Step 2: Determine the purpose of the relationship.
The purpose of a relationship is the second thing to keep in mind.First and foremost is the person who you enjoy being around.It's very simple.The people no longer enjoy each other.It's not fun to be around people who are not respectful or who you don't trust.People who can make you happy are not always the people you feel chemistry with.
Step 3: Imagine this scenario.
To begin the process, you have to clear the room of distraction and imagine a scenario.Sit back.Take a deep breath.Relax.Allow yourself to breathe and stop resisting.You can go back to your life after taking just enough time to do this step.Imagine the following without fear or doubt.Imagine having all the money in the world, no responsibilities, and anything you wanted.The only work you have to do in this dream is what you enjoy.Imagine what you would do every day.You can have any position you want, from secretary to construction to lawyer to charity work.You can go to France, Italy, China, and Japan.You can play any music instrument you like, participate in any sport, read anything, write anything and do anything you want out in nature.If you had the chance, make a list of everything you would do with your free time.
Step 4: Make a list of the things you want to do.
skydiving, white water rafting, anything at all.There are things you want to do before you die.
Step 5: You really wish you were involved in any of the things you write down.
Step 6: The lists are in front of you.
I could never do that because of time, money, and my mother.People who never really find themselves satisfied have that thought process.Instead, look at those things, go back over them, and circle 10 that bring an emotional response within you, that really appeals to you even if they are not.Say, "I will, and here's the plan!" instead of saying " I can't because..."The "winner's attitude" has been shown many times to produce results.For example, if you want to become President, change it to getting involved in politics or studying politics, or stop time, for example.Accept that you might not get them.You are giving up on yourself if you accept the possibility that you won't try.The keys are the ten items you have written down.Those are talking to you.As you learn to do them, save money, study, work, whatever your plan may be, no matter how long you have to wait for them.The very qualities you need to find a man are what your passions are.
Step 7: The pursuit of the things that inspire you will show a man that you have interests beyond just him, and that will make you interesting.
When you want a man to respect you, having a life is essential.You may not get all 10.You should not take financial risks that you cannot afford to lose for them, but you can commit to doing one or two hobbies each week, even if the process of trying to learn them is embarrassing.You will have one or two which you will work on during your life to achieve, making a commitment to go skydiving or visit Italy no matter how long it will take.If you want, you can do what you're supposed to do.If you find you are no longer passionate about 5 of the 10 things, then you should stop pursuing them.You show a man that you believe your dreams matter by making them a priority.He will respect you and try to help you achieve your dreams because of that.There are experts in every field that can help you overcome the feeling that you can't do these things.Go out and find a book.There are resources to help you.Everyone's favorite excuse is if you think you don't have enough time.Flylady.net is a good place to check out."The Automatic Millionaire," "Miserly Moms," and "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" are books you should check out if you think you don't have enough money.If you feel like you are two shy, make a vow to get rid of it and realize that it is not something you have to live with forever.Get into the habit of breathing, being relaxed, and waiting no longer than 3 seconds to say hello to people.Say "hello" to 10 strangers a week when you go to public places.Gradually increase that to 20.Simple conversations about things that don't involve either of you personally are usually a comment on the environment you're in.You will learn to deal with any personality type and not care too much about what people think of you.Continue to face your fears until you no longer fear them.
Step 8: Finding the right man is dependent on self development.
You might be saying, "Hey, I'm here to find a man!"You're correct.One of the biggest issues on the female side of relationships is the feeling of a void in your life because you don't have a man.Well, guess what?Men can also see that.Men are scared away by the internal void.Men are pursuing their dreams.Many men go through life fulfilled, not needing women, just enjoying sex until they are ready to find a wife, because of that.Women just pursue men instead of their dreams.There is a big gap.It's up to a man to make you happy in your life.That leads to the desperate, dramatic, and clingy behaviors that men run away from and that women hate when they see it in themselves.
Step 9: A good balance can be obtained.
Developing a balanced use of your time and energy is one of the biggest issues in sustaining a healthy relationship.Before you have a partner, you need to practice the habits necessary for a good relationship.Take some time for work, whether it be furthering your career, bringing home the bacon, or taking care of the kids, and have positive experiences with him.Every single week.You owe it to your children to take the time to refresh in order to be a good mother and spouse.You need time alone each week if you need a babysitter once a week or if your husband or friends take care of the kids.It can be cheap or expensive to get a massage.Pursuing your passions is what fills you with energy.You have to make an steadfast commitment to whatever it is.You will miss a meeting a couple times a year, but you need to commit to it.It will give you passion for life and help the men in your life to respect you.There is no need to be emotional about this commitment.Explain that this commit will allow you to be a better wife and mother.Time with friends.Both you and your love need are affected by this.The most important time you can spend is with your girlfriends, connecting as women, in the same way that he needs to connect to men.Don't expect your husband to bear the brunt of your emotions.Women tend to understand emotions best.It is important to be able to connect emotionally with your partner, but it is even more important that you have a safe, open group of friends.The excuse of time is not applicable here.While maintaining a healthy family life and job, people who properly refresh themselves through "alone" time, relaxation, and time with friends have enough energy to accomplish all of this.The book "The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal" can help you with this.Schedule it in so you can accomplish it within 2 weeks.
Step 10: Exercise.
There is one more step.You might avoid the step.It's always hard to do the step you want to.Exercise.Exercise is both a source of energy and agony.It will be something you start looking forward to once you commit to it for a month.Don't think of exercise as a way to lose weight.Instead of a goal of losing 5 lbs this month, I want to walk for 20 minutes 2 times a week.I'll start again if I miss a day or two.If you want more challenge, try interval training, but you will never need to do more than 20 minutes of cardio each week.You can get all the exercise you need with 10 minutes of stretching.Don't let your friend or trainer over-burden you.Don't think about weight loss.Make it consistent and build a habit.Success will say, "I didn't miss one of my eight workouts this month!"Exercise will make you look better.It will make you healthier, more vibrant, and happier.You will be happy to know that you are doing a good thing for yourself.Building a natural sense of self-discipline and confidence is very important.Try to get involved in a challenge course if these are an issue for you.
Step 11: Take some time to fully incorporate it.
You will have to have the strength to say "I'm sorry; I can't do it tonight" once you find a man.I already scheduled something else.Maybe next week?
Step 12: If you want to pursue your passions, commit to it.
It will take some time to develop.It is a lifelong process.You have to get stronger and stronger over time to do it.A woman with a fulfilled, satisfied life who stands by what she does and shows she puts herself first so she has enough energy to love and respect those around her, shows that she values herself and doesn't need a man to fulfill her.Do you want to pursue your passions and dreams?You are worth it.If you want a truly wonderful man, you owe it to him to discover how to make you feel better, so you are a constant source of energy in the relationship.For yourself, and for your relationship, even if you are extremely poor and must find very cheap sources of passion and excitement, make a commitment today to take the next 60 days and focus, each day, on fulfilling each of the steps above, from pursuing your passions to taking time for yourself
Step 13: Continue to give yourself time.
It has been a month or two.You've been working to build a more fulfilling life.You like it.You realize that you have to do well at work, at home and in relationships if you exercise more and get more satisfaction out of your life.You are learning to take time for yourself.You are starting to see a difference in your life - you are more confident, people are respecting you more, and perhaps you're building a larger social network.You kept going despite some resistance from friends and family.You feel like you have more time than ever because of renewing your energy and checking out a couple books.You're a better worker, and you feel like a new woman.Thank you!
Step 14: Do you wish a man in your life were doing something for you?
What do you want a man to do?Do you want to buy flowers?Do you want to bring chocolate?Is it possible to cuddle up with a good movie?Did you enjoy chocolate-covered strawberries and champagne?Do you go to a nice restaurant every month?Do you want to spend a day at the spa?Make a list of how you would like to be treated.A complete list.
Step 15: You need to prove to yourself that you don't need a man.
Without saying you don't deserve it, start to appreciate yourself.It's a good idea to stay within your budget, but save a little for other things.You can take your friends out to dinner.Purchase some chocolate and flowers.Even if you're watching a movie alone, have a glass of wine and light some candles.A friend is invited to fondue.You can learn to love yourself.Continue the tradition of being fulfilled.When a man sees how you treat yourself, he will see that you are worthy of being treated well.He will not accept anything less of himself.He will hold you up.A man who sees that an ordinary night alone for you includes candles, chocolate, and wine will never try to get away with calling watching the game with his friends a "date".He will be sure to treat you well if you decide to do that once in a while.Make sure you are doing this for more than one person.When a man appreciates you for the first time, you shouldn't cry.You should always be grateful and loving when he makes you feel good, but you should also be kind to yourself.
Step 16: Self-sacrifice is a good indicator of divorce.
Learning to take care of your own needs will help you take the burden off of the man and give you more energy to invest in the relationship.Learning how dating works, how men work, and where to find a man is the next step.
Step 17: The whole picture needs to be looked at.
We've created a very fulfilling life, learned to take care of ourselves so we have energy to put into our relationships, and looked at attracting men and the importance of sticking with what you're comfortable with.Techniques for keeping the man of your dreams at your side for life is the final step.
Step 18: It is important to address issues when they arise.
Blaming, being condescending, and other judgmental are useless.Simply stating feelings is enough.Say the works, "I feel."I feel sad and lonely.I am unhappy.Men live to make women happy.They don't respond well to criticism because they feel inadequate.Men would like to be their wife's hero.Allowing them to respond to your feelings, find a solution themselves, and working to make their wives happy makes him a modern-day hero.
Step 19: Don't be dependent or needy.
One of the keys to having your own friends is that you won't be dependent on him.He will know that you have a lot going on.He knows that if he doesn't schedule a date and calls you last minute, you're probably out with your friends, so he calls in advance to schedule dates.You don't want to be alone with him.It is important for him to have time with his friends.He gets time to miss you because of the time he has and the freedom you give him.Since you are busy and he is missing you on his boy's night, you will see enough of him other nights.It is important for a man to contribute to the household, but it is also important that you watch out for when you start to worry.When you feel like you have sacrificed your dreams, instead of setting a curfew, ask yourself, "Have I sacrificed my dreams lately?"When did I last see my friends?Don't make excuses for not having enough time.
Step 20: Mental processing is one of the differences between men and women.
Women need a certain amount of social time with other women to help them process thoughts and feelings.Men need time alone.Without a man of his own time, he can't replenish himself in the way he needs to.The process will take longer if a man is forced to open up.A man is less likely to open up when he feels that he is being analyzed.Before he feels comfortable opening up to a woman, men need to feel safe and have their thoughts and feelings accepted.He still needs time alone, and women need to learn to respect this in the same way that men must respect a woman's need for social interaction with other women.Being able to express thoughts and feelings is important for a marriage to last.
Step 21: You can learn how to express your feelings.
If you want to deal with your partner in a relationship conflict, you should use the word "Regardless" and express your feelings.No one can argue logic against emotion.Taking it out with exercise, talking to friends, or in other ways will make you feel better.Even though you are expressing emotion, your conversation with your partner should be very calm.A man calls at the last minute, asking for a late date.It will lead to a late dinner or a call.You were not waiting for his call as he hadn't scheduled a date, even though you were free that night.You decided to stay in that night to take care of yourself.You want him to go to your house.He wants you to drive to his house.Trust that instinct, even though you feel internal doubt.You can tell he's trying to get what he wants.Is there a response?Don't pay attention.Will you drive over here?He doesn't want you to come to his house.Tonight won't be convenient for me.Maybe we can get together next week.You will stand up for yourself if you don't allow him to disrespect you.He's less likely to be a jerk to you in the future because you won't let him get away with a more minor thing.A true jerk will show his true colors here, but the average guy will say, "Sorry, let's go on a real date next week."Expect your man to treat you well.A man isn't helping around the house.Say, "I feel sad."This is the base emotion, which will lead to compassion."Why?"He will ask."Because I feel exhausted."He says he's working hard as well.I feel exhausted.I feel like I'm being treated unfairly.The focus is still on feelings, which can't be argued with.I took out the garbage last week.I really appreciate that.I feel exhausted.I feel like I do more.He can't argue anymore.He sighs.I would start doing the dishes every other night.Oh!That feels too complicated.Every other night.I would still feel overwhelmed."Ok, every night."Thank you so much!What a great idea!You're the best, sweetie!There is a sparkle.There is a smile.Give him a hug.Thank you.If you want to be a successful parent, you'll need to reward your kid's chores without encouragement.With the same enthusiasm.You should be enthusiastic.Not showing appreciation is a negative trait.Sit back and let him do it.He might do it later than you want.He might do it differently than you want.Don't touch those dishes, and expect them to be done.He wants to be your hero if you kiss him and smile.You don't suggest a solution.He is the one who comes up with it.Even if he loads the dishes in a less optimal way, he still did it and is your hero.This part may seem artificial to some, but it shouldn't be.Researchers have shown how important support is for behavior modification.It's important that you appreciate what your partner does for you because it shows the type of support and affection research has shown to be so important in a marriage.If you are changing your strategy mid-relationship to a more mature way of interacting, do not be surprised if you find conflict increasing before it settles down.Changing the rules can be uncomfortable for him.
Step 22: Don't treat your partner like a child and never try to control him.
Agree or disagree about the way he does things.Don't try to change the man, just accept him as he is.If you can't resist the urge, let him go for another girl who will appreciate him for him, not for what you consider to be his potential.
Step 23: Staying mature, respecting him, and expecting mutual respect are important concepts.
They have been shown to be successful.You can be the stronger emotional force in the relationship if you manage your own energy, time, and emotion.