Most girls prefer to be asked in person.If you think you'd have more success over the phone, then you need to use the best textiquette you can to make it more likely that the girl will say yes.If you want to ask her out on a date, to the school dance, or even be your girlfriend, it's important to be respectful.
Step 1: If you have an idea for a date, come up with it.
If you know the person well, consider her interests when coming up with date ideas.She'll be more likely to say yes if the date sounds appealing.If you said "Let's hang out some time" or "I don't know, what do you want to do", you would be more decisive.If you share the same tastes in music, invite her to an upcoming show or concert.Ask her to meet you for lunch or ice cream.invite her to a homemade dinner if you enjoy cooking.Dates don't have to be about eating; you can go for a hike or hit the bowling alley.Think of an activity that involves talking and getting to know each other.You won't get a chance to talk if you ask her to the movies.If you're going to the movies, take her to dinner before or after so you can get to know each other.
Step 2: Send her a message.
Get the conversation going by welcoming her.If she doesn't know who you are, then you may need to remind her."Hey, this is so and so, we met the other day."Text her something like "Hey, what's up?" if you are positive that she has your number."Hey, how's your day going?"Wait until she responds to your first text before asking her out.She may be occupied and not have her phone with her, so be patient.
Step 3: Ask her out for a date.
It's time to ask her out once you've gotten the conversation going.You might want to ask her what she's going to do on a given day.Ask her if she says she is free.Send a text saying "Would you like to do something with me?"Don't wait to ask her out.You don't want the conversation to go on a topic that makes asking her out seem awkward.It's not necessary to make a lot of small talk when you're texting.It should be short and simple."Would you like to see a movie?"Would you like to go bowling this Friday evening?You should have a place where you can meet.Do you want to go see a movie?You will sound indecisive.It's important to state a time so she knows you're serious.She has an option to do something else.She might want to go out with you, but she's a terrible bowler and she just went to the place you suggested.Make it clear that you have a plan and are open to doing something else.
Step 4: Make a response to her answer.
Make driving arrangements if necessary if she says yes, and iron out the details if you don't.After you have decided on the date, say something like "great, see you on Saturday!"You may be coming on too strong if you continue to text her after.If she starts texting you a lot, you can respond as well.If she says yes, be sure to let her know that you are looking forward to the date.This will make her feel special and she will be looking forward to the date as well.Let her know that there are no hard feelings if she declines your offer.You want to finish things on a good note.
Step 5: Determine if she is interested in you romantically.
If you are used to asking girls to be your girlfriend before going on dates, then look for a girl who is interested in you more than just a friend.It is possible to improve your chances when you ask if she likes you back.Don't ask her out if you have never spoken to her or she is already romantically involved with someone else.There are many fish in the sea.If you want to know if she likes you, try to read her body language and words the next time you're together.Is she nervous in your presence, or excited to see you?These are some good signs that she might be interested.
Step 6: Send a message.
Begin by greeting her with something like "Hey, how have you been?""Hey, how is your day going?"This will help her prepare for the question.The conversation should flow naturally.You don't need to be clever at the beginning or make a funny comment.She will be impressed by your confidence if you don't make a lot of noise.Try to send it at a time when she won't be as busy.If you know she has soccer practice after school, send it a few hours later.
Step 7: Let her know how you feel.
Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her and compliment the qualities that make her unique.Say something like "I've really enjoyed spending these last few weeks with you" or "You really make me feel special."You should only say things that you really mean.You don't need to praise too much.Wait until she responds before asking her to be your girlfriend.How she responds to these statements will help you determine if she's interested in a relationship with you.See if she reciprocates.If she says that she feels the same way about you, you can ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.She might not be interested if she doesn't tell you how she feels.This can come across as insincere and overwhelming, so don't smother her with praise.
Step 8: Do you want her to be your girlfriend?
There are many ways to say this question.Say something like "Do you want to be my girlfriend?"Is it possible to call you my girlfriend?Do you want to be an official couple?Don't wait to ask the question.You can move forward if you ask it sooner.You can ask her "So where do you see this going?"Are you willing to have a boyfriend?These open-ended questions show her that you care about her and are willing to compromise to make her happy.Some of the pressure can be taken off if you don't get the answer you want.
Step 9: It's appropriate to react appropriately.
It's great if she wants to be your girlfriend.Pick a time and place to meet and suggest a fun, simple activity that you can do together, like going to a show or bowling.She can see that you're serious about her and have put a lot of thought into your relationship.If she isn't interested, be nice and thank her for talking to you.You should leave a good note so you can be proud of your reaction.
Step 10: Determine if she already has a date.
You can assume that she is going to the dance with him if she has a boyfriend.If you're not sure if she has a date, ask her out.It is possible to ask her friends if she has a date, but be aware that it is more likely that she will get back to you.If a girl already has a date, don't ask her to ditch it.It will reflect poorly on you and be unfair to the other guy.You have a higher chance of getting a favorable response if you do this early.If we're talking about the prom, you should ask at least a month or two in advance.Give it a few weeks to be safe if it's a more common school dance.
Step 11: First, send her a text.
Text her "Hey, how's it going?" to start the conversation."Hey, what are you doing?"Wait until she responds before asking her out.If she doesn't have your number, you should let her know who you are and how you got her number so she can ignore the text.
Step 12: Ask her if she wants to dance.
You can either send a text saying "Would you like to go to the dance with me?" or you can.By first asking if she has any plans for the dance.Say something like "I'd love it if you came with me, or I think it would be really fun if we went together" if she says no.You can say something about how she can show you how to rock the dance floor if you want to.There's no need to be serious here.
Step 13: The plans need to be made.
If she says yes, well done!You will have to arrange a time and place to meet, coordinate outfits, and decide on transportation.The hard part is over and you can just relax and enjoy the ride.Let her know that you're looking forward to going with her and you think it's going to be fun.She will be looking forward to going with you and this will make her feel special.Let her know that there are no hard feelings if she says no or already has plans.Say something like "No worries, I hope you have fun anyway!" if you want to play it cool.