Awkward moments can happen to the best of friends.Maybe you've all gathered for a party at your house and suddenly no one has anything to say, or someone just said something pretty strange and nobody knows how to respond.Whatever the case, there are many ways to respond to silence that can help alleviate awkwardness.
Step 1: You can have things to talk about whenever you want.
Maybe you just watched a horror film and your friends will want to hear about it.When you're trying to fill an awkward silence, it's helpful to think of some potential conversation topics in advance.Try something like, "I just read that a new pizza place is opening up down the street."Have you heard anything about that?I just watched Scream for the first time.Have you seen it?Politics or religion are not good topics to stay away from.
Step 2: People like talking about themselves.
Ask a follow-up question if there's an awkward silence.Asking open-ended questions instead of simple yes or no answers will move the conversation along.When you were a kid, what was your dream career?What would you be if you were an animal for a day?What vacation would you like to take?Who would you choose to have dinner with?
Step 3: Don't just plan what you're going to say next.
A conversation is a collaboration with someone.You need to listen to what they have to say and come up with a thoughtful response.If you're stuck in an awkward silence, it's a good time to listen to potential conversation topics.Nod along while someone is talking to you.Your friend will be encouraged to keep talking.Keep your phone in your pocket or purse.It's hard to listen when you're checking your phone or texting.
Step 4: Look at your friend's clothes, the room, and other details.
If you've run out of things to say, these can be great conversation starters.You can compliment your friend's sweater or ask where they got their backpack.Take note of your friend's brand new stereo or say something about the song that is playing on the radio.Discussing something like that can give the conversation a fresh start, and others can chime in on how they feel.Rob, I like your Ramones t-shirt.Do you have a favorite album?
Step 5: It might be time for a new start in your conversation.
Wait for the conversation to die down and bring up a new topic if you've spent the last ten minutes talking about the same thing.You can bring up a new topic or talk about something else.Discussion topics include philosophy, sports, movies, art, and local events.If your new topic seems unrelated to the previous one, don't worry.If you've been on the same topic for a while, your friends will appreciate a new topic to talk about.
Step 6: Not all silences are awkward.
Maybe you and your friends just need a break.Take a moment to think about what you've been saying and talking about.Awkwardness is not always a bad thing.Getting out of your comfort zone can make you feel awkward.Maybe you're still getting to know each other, if these are new friends.Awkwardness and feeling vulnerable are part of that process.
Step 7: This can make everyone feel better.
It's possible that your friends are just as lost on what to say as you are."Well, this is awkward" will make people laugh, or at least know it's not just them.Light up the situation."I don't mean to be awkward, but is anyone else having a hard time coming up with something to say?"
Step 8: It's not your job to fill every silence.
Your friends can help you come up with new ideas.Don't put too much pressure on yourself to fill the silence.Wait for your friends to speak before you start talking.Everyone should get an equal chance to share.If you brought up a new topic after the last lull, give someone else a chance to speak.
Step 9: Be confident in your body language.
It makes you seem more personable in conversation.Stand or sit straight as you speak.With this newfound confidence, you will be able to handle awkward situations with ease and not worry.If you feel more confident, you can ask questions or change the subject.It can be difficult to try out these methods if you're not comfortable with them.Say "Thank you!" if you feel awkward when someone gives you a compliment.Don't let the moment turn into an awkward silence.
Step 10: Everyone is ready to stop talking.
You're tired and ready to go home.It's a good idea to just let the conversation end and call it a night.You can end the conversation on a good note by thanking your friends.Say something like, "Well, I'm tired."Would you like to call it a night?I might have to get home soon.Can't wait to see you again!