Through mutual understanding, good communication, and seeking out fun activities to do together, moms and daughters can enjoy a positive family relationship.The mother-daughter relationship is a complicated one, and new tensions often arise when daughters reach adulthood.Conflict between adult mothers and daughters can affect the formation of a peer to peer relationship.There are ways in which mothers can establish healthy and lasting relationships with their adult daughters.
Step 1: You should learn about your family history.
Information about your family's past can help mothers and daughters find common ground.You can create a family photo album or build an extended family tree.Tell your stories to other family members.The conversations will help foster a sense of kinship.
Step 2: There is a new relationship between two adults.
Work on creating an adult peer relationship instead of a parent-child relationship.As children become more psychologically, socially, and economically independent, the nature of the parent-child relationship must change.As mutual friends, communicate not as mother and daughter, but as friends who enjoy common interests and activities.Two friends would calmly and thoughtfully discuss problems, issues, and questions.A sense of humor and affection is required.You can rely on your decades-long relationship to reminisce and joke with each other.
Step 3: It's important to balance friendship and fun with parenting.
No matter the age or stage of the children, consistent parental interest, attention, and approval is critical to any parent-child relationship.Encourage and reassurance your daughter's development as an adult.Research shows that a mother's continued support can foster important psychological development for an adult daughter.
Step 4: The state of your relationship can be examined.
The relationship between mothers and their daughters is more tense than with sons.Intergenerational differences and disagreements over habits, traits, and general behavior often lead to this tension.It is possible to create a healthy relationship between you and your daughter by recognizing these barriers.
Step 5: Understanding and recognition of social change is needed to overcome differences between mother and daughter.
It can be difficult for a mother who didn't work to accept that her daughter will have less time to devote to household chores.In 2010, women made up 45% of the total labor force.Women used to stay home after marriage in order to raise their children.Only nineteen percent of married women with preschool age children worked outside the home in 1960.Older mothers worry that their daughters who work and have families are stressed out.The bond between parent and child can be strained by these opinions.
Step 6: Family counseling is needed to overcome problems.
Interpersonal conflict between mom and daughter can cause disagreements.Even though these are more associated with the earlier teenage years, mothers may still perceive their adult daughters as lazy, lacking respect, or irresponsible.
Step 7: Find your interests.
hobbies and activities that deepen the mother-daughter bond and provide relaxation and fun for both partiesEnjoy fun activities together.Exercising, shopping, trying new restaurants, seeing movies, making crafts, getting spa treatments, or even something as simple as getting coffee together can help mothers and daughters find fun connections.
Step 8: Modern technology will help you.
You can use other methods to connect if you and your daughter don't live close enough.The burden of distance can be alleviated by phone and video calls, texting, and using social media.At a mutually agreeable time, schedule a weekly or daily chat date.
Step 9: Grouping up with other family and friends is a great way to spend time together.
It can be relaxing and enjoyable to attend family reunions, family outings, or doing activities with other friends of the family.
Step 10: Go on vacation together.
Getting away from the daily grind can help both mothers and daughters.Mental and physical health benefits of family vacations include decreased depression and an improvement in heart health.Taking vacations with family members, including mother-daughter trips, help create fun memories, improve resilience to changing circumstances, and allow families to be with each other without the stresses of home.
Step 11: You can find ways to show your love.
Writing notes, giving small gifts, or even saying "Thank you" can improve the relationship between mom and daughter.
Step 12: Creating healthy boundaries is a must.
A sense of respect for the adult daughter's choices is a key part of a functional mother-daughter relationship.Allow relationship change to happen naturally.There are transitions in the mother-daughter relationship.Changes like marriage, moves, and the arrival of grandchildren can cause both mothers and daughters to reexamine how they interact with each other.Don't give out opinions.It can feel like a negative judgement on the part of a mom.
Step 13: On both sides of the relationship, make sure the level and amount of contact is appropriate.
When mother and daughter disagree, work toward respectful communication.This creates a sense of consideration between mother and daughter, rather than the daughter feeling that her mother wants to dictate her choices.Your daughter needs independence.Adult daughters can feel smothered and resentful by mothers who constantly call, text, or show up.
Step 14: You should make room for your daughter's spouse.
Unless there is reason to suspect that a daughter is engaging in an abusive relationship with her significant other, it is important for mothers to nurture and support their daughters close connections with others.Don't get involved in the arguments between your daughter and her partner.If you criticize your daughter's partner, it can become a source of unhappiness and trouble in their own relationship.The couple's privacy should be respected.Understand that the relationship your daughter has with her partner is different from her relationship with you.
Step 15: Keep confidentiality by listening carefully.
The daughters want to know that they can trust their mom.Don't tell other family members or outsiders about a daughter's problems.
Step 16: Help your daughter emotionally and physically.
No matter how old the daughter is, a mother's help is always appreciated.