Being respected is one thing, but commanding respect is another.Some people seem to command respect when they walk in a room.When you consider that other people form an impression of you within 7 seconds of meeting you and that is generally the impression they will take away with them, it's even more significant.
Step 1: Use your body language to express confidence.
The person watching you thinks you feel differently than you do.Body language often doesn't convey what you intended it to be.You might be slouching because you are tired, but others might see it as a sign of indifference.You may be more comfortable standing with your arms folded across your chest, but others will see you as resistant and unapproachable, and keeping your hands stiffly by your side or in your pockets can give the impression that you are hiding something.If you want to show confidence in your body language, you need to stand tall, look ahead, and be ready to gesture when appropriate.If you don't stand still with your hair, clothes, or hands, you will look bored.Staying active and alert will give you more presence.
Step 2: Your facial expressions should be controlled.
Have you been asked a difficult question in a group?If you clenched your jaw, raised your eyebrows or grimaced as you searched for the answer, you probably wanted to come across as knowledgeable, confident, and likable.Did you smile and shake your head?What do the people around you think about that?Take care of how you react.By smiling slightly, not looking down, and avoiding wrinkling your brows, you will keep your facial expression positive and confident.Don't say "I cannot believe the stuff that's coming out of my mouth" when you speak, instead look like you believe in what you're saying.
Step 3: You should not underestimate the power of touch.
We are programmed to feel closer to someone who has touched us.The person who is touched feels more connected.Light touch can make someone less comfortable.It is a force that can create a human bond.A touch on the forearm that lasts just 1/40 of a second can make the receiver feel better and also make them see the person as being nicer.According to a study by the Income Centre for Trade Shows, people are more likely to remember you if you shake their hand.
Step 4: You should match your body language with your words.
People believe what they see when your body language is out of sync.To align your body to support, instead of sabotage, is what it is important to communicate congruently.It is almost impossible to build relationships of trust with mixed signals.When your non-verbal signals don't match your words, the people you are addressing become confused.If forced to choose, they will discount your words and believe what your body says.If someone is talking to an audience about how much he or she welcomes their input, but stands behind a lectern, leans back, or shoves their hands in their pockets, the audience will believe the non-verbal signal that that person is not interested.
Step 5: You are not off camera.
As a leader, you communicate.Your off-record behavior is being closely monitored by people who are leader-watchers.One savvy leader said, "What I do in the hallway is more powerful than anything I say in front of an audience."How can you expect to be respected if you say something to a few people and then later change your mind?
Step 6: Think slowly, lower.
Is it possible that men are more likely to be perceived as leaders than women?They use less and slower movements.Compared with men, women make 27 major movements when entering a room for a meeting.Women who make it to be leaders use slower movements than men.If you want to command respect, slow down and don't wave your hands.
Step 7: A good role model is someone who is good at what they do.
You have to be a good role model for people if you want to command respect.They should be inspired by the way you live your life.You just need to live the way you think an ideal life should be lived.Make time for kindness and generosity in your life and be kind to people in the service industry.You will be respected for your strong character if you live your life with class, dignity, and grace.
Step 8: Don't take advantage of other people
Commanding respect doesn't mean taking advantage of other people.If you want to command respect, you have to be kind to people and respectful of them.Don't exploit people in your office, needy friends or siblings.You will look like a person who doesn't care about anyone else, and nothing will make you lose respect faster than that, because you have people doing everything for you.People will be happy to work with you if you are respected.If you're just using people for money, rides, and favors, they'll catch on quickly.
Step 9: Everyone has the same level of respect.
It doesn't mean you have the right to be mean to the mail carrier if you're the CEO of your company.To treat people above and below you with kindness and care is something you should be grateful for.People will see that you don't give common courtesy to other people if you snap at a waitress or are mean to a new employee.It is possible to rise to the top at your company.Giving the guy who delivered your company lunch an extra tip will earn you more.
Step 10: You shouldn't brag about your accomplishments.
You may be so desperate for other people to respect you that you feel the need to flaunt every little thing you've ever done, from earning your first tennis trophy in middle school to winning the New York marathon.People will be impressed by your achievements if you work hard enough and keep your modesty.Your achievements will begin to lose their luster if you have to bring up all of the great things you've done.It will be worth it once people notice the great things you've done.
Step 11: Praise people instead of gossiping about them.
If you want people to respect you, you have to show them that you care about more important things than hooking up with someone.Say something nice about people behind their backs.People will be impressed that you have good will and aren't scheming or jealous.They will respect you for not spreading rumors and not giving in to gossip.You will not only command respect for being kind, but for starting a positive movement if they follow your trend.It never hurts to compliment someone.If you're in a bad mood, focus on being nice to people instead of snapping at them.If you make people feel good about themselves, they will like you more.
Step 12: Give yourself some time.
You can't live selfishly if you want to command respect.Take time out of your busy schedule to volunteer in your community, help a co-worker understand a difficult task, or help your parents around the house.The act of giving your time, even if you don't have a lot of it, will make people respect you more and make you feel better about yourself.You will lose respect if you are so focused on achieving your goals and impressing everyone that you don't have time to help others.You shouldn't volunteer because people will respect you more.It should be something that happens naturally.
Step 13: It is possible to excel at something.
It is possible to get people to respect you by being excellent at something.You can be amazing at your job, write beautiful poetry, or be the best goalie your college team has ever had.You can make anyone laugh in under a minute, no matter how bad they are.Take it to the next level if you find what you're good at.People will notice if you go above and beyond in some aspect of your daily existence.This doesn't mean that you should brag about how great you are.People will notice if you go about it the right way.
Step 14: Don't change your mind.
Showing strong character and commanding respect is dependent on being a man or woman of your word.If people think you'll go back on your word, how can they respect you?You have to back it up if you say you're going to do something.If you're not sure if you can do it, don't make promises that will make people feel better.The rest will follow if you work on being someone people can depend on.Know your limits.If you only have time for five of them, you shouldn't say you'll do twenty different things.
Step 15: You shouldn't be apologizing for everything.
Being comfortable with who you are is a big part of self-respect.Nobody will respect you if you don't have that.It is time to stop apologizing for not going to your friend's party because you would rather hang out with your family and not meet your boss' unrealistic expectations.Other people will see that you're worthy of respect if you own your actions and don't make excuses.You don't have to apologize for anything.If you admit your mistakes, you will gain more respect than if you don't.
Step 16: Say no.
It's easier for a person with no self-respect to say yes to people than it is to reject them.It is possible to say yes to pet sitting, to give your friend a ride, and to take on more work because you don't want to upset your boss.If you want to have self-respect, you have to say no when you mean it.Unless the situation really calls for it, don't make excuses.You should be comfortable with your decision.You can offer the person who is asking for a favor another alternative if you really feel bad about the situation.
Step 17: You should make your boundaries clear.
You have to let people know where you draw the line.If you always give in to people and do what they want, then they will push you further and further.If you watch your sister's kids for five hours a week but say that you can't help out any more, then she will not take advantage of you.If your team thinks they can get away with asking you to do more work, then they will push you further than you really want to go.People will see that you respect your own value and time if you stick to your expectations from the start.
Step 18: You should hang out with people who are respectful of you.
If you want to have true self-respect, then you have to surround yourself with people who make you feel good, not people that put you down.If the people around you are making fun of you or making you feel worthless, how can you expect them to respect you?If you allow yourself to be disrespected by your friends, other people will think it's okay for them to do the same.It is time to reexamine your relationships.Are the people you spend time with making you feel better or worse?It's time to find people who treat you like you deserve to be treated if they're not with you.
Step 19: Don't ask for something.
People who don't respect themselves beg for help, favors, attention, and a lot of other things that lose their appeal after they are begged for.If you respect yourself, you can ask for help with a difficult task, but you should not ask people who don't want to help you.It's time to cut ties if your girlfriend isn't paying enough attention to you, and instead of begging for it, let her see how much you mean to her by being your best self.People will see you as desperate if you look like you can't do anything on your own.
Step 20: Take care of your body.
You have to take good care of yourself if you want to command respect from other people.You shouldn't let people see you getting too drunk and that you should show up to work or school looking well-groomed andrested, instead of stumbling out of bed after three hours of sleep with your hair sticking up.Take care of yourself both physically and emotionally by eating three meals a day and having time to do the things you love.You are a person who is taking good care of yourself if you're happy and proud of who you are.If you take good care of yourself and show that you deserve respect, other people will give you something.