It can be fun to date more than one guy at a time.To do it right, you have to be fair to the guys and yourself.You should always be open about your relationship and dating status.To avoid hurting yourself or others, be sure to stick to some set boundaries.
Step 1: Tell us what your relationship is.
You should not hide the fact that you are dating more than one guy.There is no point in telling any lies as they will end up tripping you up.You should be aware that you don't want to date someone exclusively right now.You can say something like, "I've had a really fun time, and I'd like to keep seeing you" on your first date.I would like you to know that I am in a relationship with a few other people.If a guy doesn't want to continue seeing you, be understanding and gracious.He has the right to decide what kind of relationship he wants.
Step 2: Don't talk about the details of your other dates.
It's one thing to be clear about your status.It is possible to tell one date all about how great your date was with another guy.It could make your dates think you are trying to make them jealous by going into these details.You should not treat your dates like they are part of a competition with you.You shouldn't play one guy off the other because you're all getting to know each other.
Step 3: Direct questions should be answered honestly.
If one of your dates asks you a question about your relationship, respond honestly.It will be hard to stop lying.It will be almost impossible to make it work when you bring dishonesty into your relationship.If he asks you a question that makes you feel uncomfortable, you can say something like: "I'm not comfortable answering that."I understand if you want to stop seeing each other.
Step 4: You should not ghost your dates.
It is important to be kind to the people you are dating.Within a day, respond to their calls and texts.Say so if you want to end the relationship.This can be harmful if you ignore someone.They may not know that you are done with them.Say something like: "I have had fun seeing you over the past few weeks, but I don't think we're the best fit romantically."I hope you do as well, because I am going to keep seeing other people and going on new dates.
Step 5: You might also be dating other people.
It is safe to assume that the guys you are seeing are also dating multiple women at the same time.You need to be aware of this on the first date.Don't expect many guys to be willing to exclusively date you while you're also dating other men because it's unfair to have expectations for your dates.
Step 6: Tell your dates what you want.
You should ask yourself why you want to date multiple men.You should let the guys you are seeing know your expectations.If you feel like your expectations are changing, tell them.Maybe you want to date multiple guys because you just got out of a long relationship, and you are just looking for something casual right now.It is not the same as looking for the guy you want to marry.I want to keep things casual with the guys I date right now, and I'm not really interested in something long term.Is that ok with you?
Step 7: Dates can be used to gain self-confidence.
Practice makes perfect when it comes to dates with new guys.If you go on a lot of dates, you may notice that you are getting better at making conversation with strangers, being up front about what you want, and feeling attractive inside and out.This benefit of non exclusivity is something to embrace!
Step 8: What do you like about a partner?
You can compare and contrast your experiences with multiple men.Determine which qualities matter most to you in a partner by using these comparisons.If you are looking for a long-term relationship, this is important information.You went on two dates last weekend.One guy took the time to talk to you about your day, and the other guy didn't ask you a single question all night.You like listening to people.
Step 9: Let go of bad matches quickly.
Since you are dating more than one guy, there is no reason to stick with someone who makes you unhappy.Don't work on relationships that are uncomfortable or toxic.When you are dating multiple guys, you may be willing to let go of someone who is making you unhappy.
Step 10: You should give your full attention to each date.
Make sure you live in the moment on every date you go on to fully take advantage of this experience.Don't think about other guys, work, school, or anything else while you're on a date.It doesn't make sense to you or the guy you're out with.
Step 11: Follow the rules about being intimate.
Do you want to have sex with the guys you are dating?You should be open with your dates about the rules.These guidelines can keep you and your dates safe.If you want to have sex with more than one person, you need to be prepared.This is important for everyone.It's important to practice safe sex by protecting against both STDs and pregnancies.While birth control options like the pill or an IUD can prevent pregnancies, you need to make sure the guys wear condoms to protect themselves against sexually transmitted infections.Talk to your doctor or a women's clinic if you need assistance.
Step 12: Touch base to know where you are.
Every couple of weeks, check in with the people you are dating.Ask them if you can see more than one guy.It is a good time to end the relationship if they are not.You can say something like, "Hey Tim, I know we've seen each other a few times, and I just wanted to check in and see where things stand."I am still seeing other people.Are you?
Step 13: If you want to commit to one, stop seeing other people.
If you want to start a monogamous relationship with someone, start on the right foot.To check if they are on the same page, talk to the guy you are interested in a long-term commitment with.If you can't see them anymore, contact your other dates.Before you tell the other guys you want to stop seeing them, it is a good idea to get in touch with the guy you are most interested in.If you don't, you could find yourself completely date-less.If you want to know if someone is ready for an exclusive relationship, say something like: "Hey Patrick, I have really enjoyed the time we've spent together, and I'd like to keep seeing you."I don't want to date anyone else.Say: "Hey! How do you feel about us?"I don't think we're right together in that way and I'm going to start looking for a long-term thing.