During the summer months, you might be thinking about a relationship with no strings attached.With a summer fling, you can have fun without the commitment of a serious relationship.In the perfect summer fling, both of you should agree on an end date for your relationship.Pick the right person and make the most of your time together if you want to have a summer fling.
Step 1: The perfect partner is something you should look for.
Pick someone who isn't attached to you.It will be difficult to separate yourself from your neighbors when the leaves start to turn.You should also avoid friends of friends.Don't look at your normal social group at all.The bar, the beach, a party, and even online are good places to have a summer fling.A person that is confident, energetic, and independent is a good person for a summer fling.It's a good idea to make sure you have a great time without letting him or her down.You will be in the best position to find a summer fling if you are travelling for the summer.You will be surrounded by people who have never met you.You're likely to be hundreds if not thousands of miles away from your summer lover come September, so you have a ready-made exit strategy.There are many options if you're staying.In the nearest major city, beach town, or anywhere close but not too close to home, check out the dating scene.Be on the lookout for people who are visiting for the summer.The Internet may be your best bet if you don't have a lot of people around.Look for people who are interested in casual relationships.Be careful who you get involved with.It's a good idea to make your first date in a public place and bring a friend along.
Step 2: There is a chance of it being a little fling.
Get to know more about him or her.It's great if he or she likes the same things as you.Look for signs that he or she would like to have a casual relationship.You may have found perfect fling material if his or her personality type is prone to impromptu adventures.You can use a summer fling to explore romance outside of your comfort zone.You won't be worried about the relationship's future, so go ahead and try someone whose interests and lifestyle are not in line with your own.Try someone who isn't normal.
Step 3: If your prospect is into you, look for body language clues.
A lot of communication is not verbal.He or she makes and holds eye contact with you more than other people, so look for the following in a potential partner that may clue you in to his or her interest.The two of you talk and his or her pupils dilate.He or she is touching you in a friendly way.When talking to him or her, he or she is fiddling with objects.
Step 4: Don't be afraid to be direct.
It is important to gauge each other's mutual interest as soon as possible, as body language may clue you in initially.A summer fling has a shorter time frame than a typical relationship.Don't expect the other person to make the first move.You should be a little more forward than usual.Plan a date if you find him or her attractive."Hey, you seem really cool!" are some examples of what you might say once you've found the right person.I'm looking for someone to have fun with.Are you interested?If you're travelling, it's a good idea to say "I'm only going to be in town for a couple months, and I don't want to miss you."If you are asked if your offers to "hang out" are platonic, be honest.Don't be coy if he or she asks if it's a date-date.I think you're cute and want to spend more time with you.
Step 5: Don't be secretive about your intentions.
Your partner should know that you don't want a serious relationship.One or both of you will have a major transition at the end of the summer to make the break easier.Traveling back home or going back to different schools are possibilities.It will make for a tense relationship if you continue seeing each other after the break up.When you're still flirting, it's the best time to bring this up.I just want to have fun this summer.I'm not looking for anything serious.
Step 6: Have a great summer.
Try to do as many activities with each other as possible.Go swimming.There is an amusement park.Hike a romantic trail.You can book a cruise.Try to take advantage of the great weather and do as much outdoors as possible.
Step 7: Stay out of harms way.
There is a risk of sexually transmitted diseases with any type of sexual activity.This risk can be greater with a brief, casual relationship.It is a must that you and your partner use a condom.It is possible to prevent condom breakage and reduce transmission risk with the use of lubricants.Discuss his or her sexual history with your partner.It is important to keep your partner's safety in mind when you talk about STDs.Don't feel like you have to do anything.There is no way to prevent STDs completely.Sex will always carry a risk, just like every other part of life.
Step 8: If you can, try to avoid falling in love.
There are no strings attached to the best summer flings.If you fall in love with someone you don't want a long-term relationship with, you will be stuck with emotional baggage.Is there anything that makes you fall in love with a guy or girl?Is there a specific city or type of date that you think is romantic?It's a good idea to avoid that like the plague.
Step 9: You can take your partner to fun events.
You will have a "standing date" for all the fun activities you may not want to do alone.Your partner will make everything you do extra special, whether it's a barbecue or a concert.If you want to meet your family, don't bring him or her to serious occasions.It is important that a fling is low-pressure and without commitment.Do you want to tell your parents that?Depending on your culture, what you call your temporary partner will be different.There's nothing wrong with telling others that you're a couple in places where short-term romances are the norm.It's fine to call him or her your "boyfriend/girlfriend".Refer to him or her as your "friend" in more conservative climates.
Step 10: Go on a road trip.
It's a good idea to head for a place that neither of you have been before.You will feel like you are having a fling when you're away from day-to-day life.Save the road trip for the end of the summer.Before travelling with your partner, make sure he or she is completely trustworthy.
Step 11: Plan your exit strategy.
Ideally, both you and your partner are aware of the impending split when you decide to bring your summer fling to an end.This stops awkwardness in its tracks.You had an agreement from the beginning.If you want to end the relationship, tell him or her the date you'll be leaving town.After packing your bags, move on to the next chapter of your life.Start planning your escape at least a week before you want to split if you can't bring yourself to be honest.If you have to go back home to take care of your family, figure out a good reason to break up.Even though he or she is a great person, you could tell him or her that the relationship just isn't working out for you.It should be simple and clean.Break up in person, not over text or instant messaging.It's just a summer fling if you have trouble working up the nerve.You should choose a partner who can handle it.
Step 12: The summer fling is over.
The person should be reassured that the ending is for the best.You might want to use a typical break up phrase here.You should keep the break clean so that you don't hold onto the relationship.Make it clear that the summer fling is over.
Step 13: If you feel like it could be something more, stay together.
You may fall in love with a summer fling despite your best efforts.Keep the relationship going if the two of you won't be "long distance" at the end of summer.Your partner may share your feelings even though he or she may have agreed on an end date.