A dominatrix is a person who dominates a bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism relationship.While some people become dominatrixes and work with clients professionally, you may just want to role play and have fun.You can act out a fantasy role for your partner.Proper behavior, communication, and procedure is important for fostering a nurturing relationship, but also to avoid any physical or psychological trauma to either party.
Step 1: Decide what you want to do.
A pro-dominatrix can choose not to have sex with their clients.Many of them offer a full range of sexual services.If you are acting out the role with your partner, it's important to know what you're comfortable with.A dominatrix needs to feel in control at all times.It is important to understand the risks of being a professional dominatrix.A person could act against you even if you take all of the necessary precautions.STDs are one of the risks associated with sexual contact.
Step 2: You should be open-minded with the other person.
You need to go into the situation without judgement if you want to be a professional dominatrix.It is possible for your client to come from any background.Treat each client with respect, even though you are paid to be in control.You should be respectful of your partner's desires even if you are with a mutual partner.A client may tell you that they are asking for your services because they want to be in control of their life.You have a responsibility to not judge this desire.
Step 3: Be confident.
You have to take control of the situation to be able to dominate another person.It's important to remember that you are in charge.As long as your partner is okay with it, do not be afraid to say or do anything.If your partner tells you they are uncomfortable, you don't need to be shy about demanding quiet or sitting down.
Step 4: Good posture can be maintained.
Maintaining good posture subconsciously lets your partner know that you are in charge because you hold all of the power.Stand straight and keep your head up.
Step 5: The situation about you should be made.
It needs to be clear that it is all about you.Unless something specific has been requested, do and say what you want.If you have been hired as a dominatrix, this is the case.
Step 6: To mentor you, ask a dominatrix.
If you are acting out with your partner, you don't need this.Having someone show you the ropes can be helpful if you want to become a dominatrix.Your mentor can teach you how to protect yourself.
Step 7: Use verbal communication to practice.
A lot of being a dominatrix is about what you do, but how you say it can be just as important.Give demands and speak confidently in practice.You will get used to it over time, even though it may feel funny at first.If you want to learn how dominatrixes speak, watch their videos.
Step 8: You should have a plan for your time as a dominatrix.
Being a dominatrix has a big role-playing component.You don't want to get stuck in your role if you have a routine.When it comes to time to perform your act, plan your routine and practice it so that it feels natural.There are videos of dominatrixes that you can watch.Ask your partner what they want.These desires can be incorporated into your routine.
Step 9: Purchase accessories and learn how to use them.
There are a lot of accessories in BDSM.Dominatrix accessories include a whip, blindfold, paddle, rope, and handcuffs.You can buy them from a sex shop.Make sure that you and your partner are comfortable with accessories.leash, collar and chastity belt are accessories you can use.
Step 10: You can turn your items into accessories.
Some of your items can be turned into BDSM accessories.You can use a belt, silk tie, or sleeping mask.It is okay if the items belong to your partner.
Step 11: You can use the accessories on the train.
It takes some time to learn to use accessories correctly.It takes practice with a whip to give the desired level of pain on the skin of your client without leaving wounds.Before you use your accessories, practice with them and learn about them.Don't use a lot of power.Getting carried away can lead to injury.
Step 12: It's a good idea to have a safe word with your partner.
The dominatrix will usually be told when to stop or hold back by the submissive.Ask your partner or client to come up with a safe word to let you know when to stop.You can develop a language with them that will allow the act to go smoothly.
Step 13: Be attentive to your partner.
Boss your partner, but be responsive to what they want.Know when to stop if your partner or client is unconscious or in pain.The partner should not be hurt in any way.
Step 14: You should get the attire that you feel most confident in.
A black cat-suit is a mainstay of fetish and bondage culture.It's important to make your suit from rubber latex or leather.You can find sexy, black dresses or lingerie if suits aren't your thing.Your partner may want you to wear a certain outfit.The leather suit is better to use in the bedroom than on a day to day basis.The skintight black bodysuit is an icon in both the dominant lifestyle and fetishism communities.
Step 15: You should invest in high heels.
Dominatrixes wear high heels.These boots are similar to the cat-suit and represent dominatrix attire.There are platform boots and stilettos that can be worn.If you can't wear heels, it's also an option to wear black boots.
Step 16: A corset is worn.
A corset is a close-fitting undergarment that helps shape your body.A bondage corset is used in fetish wear.A bustier is also an alternative.If you want to wear this under a cat-suit, you should wear lingerie or a dress.
Step 17: You can choose other sexy accessories.
Fishnet stockings are a staple accessory that complement dresses and lingerie.Gloves that are finger-less or elbow length can be used.If you want to hide part of your face, wear a mask.