Talking to a crush can be nerve-racking.How do I look? You have a lot of thoughts at once.Do my teeth have food in them?What if they laugh at me?The idea of blurting out the first word of a greeting can bring on a wave of anxiety.It doesn't have to be hard to say hi.All you have to do is prepare and have the right attitude.
Step 1: You should give yourself a pep talk.
Take a moment to collect yourself before you walk up the stairs.Slow and deep breathing will help you relax.To impress your crush, remind yourself of your best qualities.What is the worst thing that could happen?If you don't talk to him or her, you will regret it, and that first spark could be the start of something fantastic.Which characteristics are you proudest of?Can you get along with people?Are you athletic?Do you have a good sense of humor?When talking to your crush, keep in mind the good things about you, and give them the chance to get to know you.It is possible that you feel intimidated by your crush if they are popular or attractive, but for all you know they may feel the same way about you.
Step 2: Wait until the right time.
You might be more nervous if you see your crush surrounded by his or her friends.When they are alone and nearby you can start a conversation without having to worry about being interrupted or met with other judging eyes.When they are less likely to be with a big group, look for your crush between classes.
Step 3: Act natural.
You can create a scenario that will allow you to introduce yourself.If you see your crush talking to a mutual friend you could use the connection as an icebreaker.If you take advantage of the small openings, you will not have to walk up and start talking.Keep your cool, but be enthusiastic.Don't let your excitement fool you.Ask your class to clarify the details of a homework assignment if you have a crush on them.
Step 4: Do it.
At some point you will have to take a deep breath and go for it because the anxious feeling you get before talking to your crush is never going to go away.When it presents itself, seize your opening.If you haven't met before, introduce yourself or ask a question to get them engaged.Getting the conversation started is usually the scariest part, so once that is out of the way you can carry on the interaction at ease.It's often the case that boldness pays off.Unless you talk to the person you have a crush on, you won't know if they are also interested in you.Peace can be made by the idea of rejection.Once you get the ball rolling, your crush will probably be happy to talk to you, but in the event that things don't go as you hoped, just shrug it off.It is better to strike out than never knowing what might have happened.
Step 5: Take some mental preparation.
Before you talk to your crush, think about what you should say.Prepare to answer any questions he or she might ask about you if you have a certain topic in mind.You will have less chance of being caught off guard, as you will be ready to make a good impression during your first interaction.Whatever happens in your first meeting, be ready.Your crush might be tired, busy, distracted or nervous, and these moods can affect the way he or she comes off.
Step 6: Talk about them.
One way to keep someone you are talking to for the first time interested is to focus the conversation on them.It is easier for people to talk about themselves because they know what to say.When you can, show your interest in your crush and let them talk about themselves.This will give you a chance to learn more about them.You would know what he/she is interested in if you knew a lot about them.Maybe give them gifts.They might want to get a steering wheel cover or a shirt with their favorite type of car on it.Make sure you don't mean to them.You want them to know you are nice.Ask questionsIt will make your crush feel like you have a genuine interest in them, and it can also take some of the pressure off of you.You should talk about yourself, but don't steal the floor completely.Try to keep things even, or let him or her guide the conversation.
Step 7: You should highlight your interests.
Listen as your crush talks about his or her hobbies, interests and preferences, and see where they overlap with your own.The two of you will have to talk about things you have in common.Finding common ground can help create an opportunity for a date or more casual hangout.What classes you are taking, movies, music, sports, family and your plans for the weekend are some good topics for finding out what you have in common.
Step 8: Know when to leave.
You should keep a record of how long you've been talking to your crush to make sure you don't hold them up.Unless you really hit it off, your first couple of interactions might not last too long, and it's better if you can lend yourself a sense of mystique and leave them wanting more.Say something like "text me sometime" or "talk to you later" to let your crush know you want to talk to them again.When things start to slow down, look for an opportunity to make a smooth exit and get a feel for natural lulls in the dialogue.Don't say anything.You don't want to bore your love interest.
Step 9: Be confident.
You will not get anywhere if you don't have faith.Stand tallAllow your crush to see the things that make you unique.You should approach him or her with the attitude that you will love and respect yourself no matter what.Your crush will know that you are worth being around when they pick up on your self-assured manner.It's possible to fake it until you make it.If you are having trouble walking up and saying hello, tell yourself that you have done this many times before.It could make you a little cooler.There is a difference between being confident and arrogant.Stay with the latter.Don't act like you have an over-inflated opinion of yourself.This is just as off-putting as being shy.
Step 10: There's a smile.
If you are nervous, don't forget to smile.Smiling and having a friendly face can make you feel more comfortable.When greeting your crush with a smile, keep in mind that they are just as nervous about talking to you as you are, so it will break the tension right away.Smiling can be difficult when you are nervous.If your crush does something cute or amusing, try a light smirk with your eyes open slightly wider than normal to signal enthusiasm, and grin bigger to show a little bit of teeth.
Step 11: It's time to freshen up.
Your appearance is one of the first things your crush notices.It is a good idea to make sure you are presentable before moving.If you want to make a good impression, bad breath, unkempt hair, and messy clothes are all deal-breakers.Before entering your crush's personal space, give yourself a look in the mirror.If you want to make sure your teeth are brushed, your clothes are clean, and your hair is well-groomed, just tick off a short mental checklist.
Step 12: A positive attitude is what you should keep.
The effort that you put into approaching your crush is more important than the result.Everyone has to deal with rejection at one time or another in their life.The excitement and satisfaction of finally talking to someone is bigger than the fear of being turned down.If the guy or girl you are interested in doesn't return your interest, it's not the end of the world.It may sting a little, but don't let it get you down.If you get turned away while trying to talk to your crush, you may still reach a breakthrough in building confidence that you need to try again next time.