A girl asked you out and you turned her down.You want to give things a chance after changing your mind.When you open the lines of communication, pay attention to how she behaves around you and her reaction.Ask her out on a date if she seems interested.
Step 1: Communication lines should be open.
At this point, you don't know how she feels about you.She is not interested if she does not respond or take a long time.It is possible to be honest when reaching out to her."Hey, sorry for telling you no when you asked to hang out," you might say.She may still be interested if she responds to your messages.She may not be interested if she doesn't respond in a day or two.Pay attention to the way she responds.She may not be interested if she only responds with one word answers.
Step 2: Look at her body language.
If you can, try to spend time with her.If she still loves you, her actions can let you know.Fronting, proximity, touching, and eye contact are things you can look for.When she speaks with you, fronting refers to the positioning of her body.This is a good sign if her body turns towards you.She stands close to you when you talk.She is likely interested if she stands within 18 inches of you.Take a step closer to her when you are talking.She is interested if she stays in the same spot.She might not be interested if she takes a step back.When you talk to her, touching refers to how she touches you.Does she touch your arm or shoulder?She is more interested if she is touched.It's a good sign to make direct eye contact with you and stare for a few seconds.
Step 3: She should talk to her friends.
Her friends will know if you have a chance.They know what happened between you.If you like her, let her friends know that you made a mistake.Ask them if they think you have a chance.Do you think she will give me another chance?I made a mistake and I really like her.If her friends say that she is not interested, ask them why and get feedback.Ask them what you can do to change her mind.Her friends will tell her that you asked about her.This could help your case.
Step 4: Make sure she's alone.
Go about your attempts quietly.Don't ask when other people are not around.It will be easier on both of you.She will not feel pressured to say yes if you are rejected in front of her.Can I talk to you for a second if I'm around other people?You can tell her that you want to meet up with her by sending her a text message.
Step 5: There is a good opening line.
Don't try to impress her with a joke or grand gesture.Don't be complicated and just be yourself.She might be very skeptical if you still want to date her, because you already rejected her.Openly acknowledging what happened and assuring her you are really interested is the best way to address it.When I told you no, I was pretty nervous and didn't know how to respond.If I hurt your feelings, I apologize.I want to know you better.Are you free this weekend?If you want to ask her over the phone or through a text message, it is best to do it in person.
Step 6: She can be asked to a specific activity.
Inviting her to a specific activity shows you are trying to get to know her and will take some of the pressure off of you.Skaters, concerts, mini golf, and bowling are some of the good activities.Pick an activity that she will like.How she asked you out will affect your conversation."You know how you asked me earlier to go to a movie, and that didn't work out?"Is it possible to see the "Transformers" movie next Tuesday?I would like to take you.
Step 7: If she doesn't accept you, be nice.
No matter what her answer is, be respectful and polite.She may still be hurt by your decision to reject her.You want her to think that you are nice.If you end on a good note, she is more likely to reconsider.You can say that you understand if this happens.The offer is always on the table if you change your mind.She now loves you because she changed her mind.She doesn't want you anymore after you rejected her.She may take you back if you are polite.It may be time to let go if she still rejects you or has moved on to someone else.
Step 8: Discuss past events.
You need to think about the past before you start.Why did you turn her down in the first place?What did you say to her?Are you kind or rude?Does she think of you in a negative way because of how you responded?She may be more open to going out with you if you let her down gently.It will be more difficult if you were on the harsher side.If she asked you out while you were with your friends, you looked her up and down, laughed and said "I don't think so", your chances of her accepting a date are pretty slim.List the reasons that you didn't want to go out with her in the past.Have any of these things changed?Did you change your perspective on the reasons?
Step 9: Determine your motives.
Do you want to go out with her?If she will say yes, do you want to go out with her?List the pros and cons of the situation to figure out your true motives.The things that you like about her should be included in your pros and cons.You might like her if the pros are longer than the cons.You may be trying to stroke your ego if the cons are longer than the pros.
Step 10: Do you want to be honest with her?
You probably hurt her feelings if you let her down easy.She might have difficulty believing that you really want to go out with her.Tell her the reasons you turned her down and let her know that you are serious this time.If you were rude, you might say, "I'm sorry for how I handled things the first time."I realized I made a mistake when I thought about it.Maybe you weren't comfortable with her asking if she could take you out.It caught me off guard, and I was not used to it.Let me take you out and give me another chance.