Do you prefer to see an attractive guy and then run away?Are you all shy about messaging after finding a cute guy on OKCupid?You've liked him and he's liked you back, but there hasn't been any more interest?Break the ice with some online banter.
Step 1: If you want to find someone compatible, browse the network.
The right-swiping "Like" function on mobile apps is particularly easy for streamlining this process.It's a good bet that you'll have more in common with someone who is over 85% on OkCupid.
Step 2: You should indicate your interest.
You can tell them you've noticed their profile by hitting the star.If he likes you back in 2 days, chances of talking will increase.
Step 3: His profile can be read.
Don't judge a book on its cover.If you want a good time, you have to have the same thoughts.Do you think you would click based on your sense of humor, taste in music, food and age?Is there anything you two can talk about?If you don't want to appear obsessive with profile viewing, you can browse OkCupid anonymous.
Step 4: There are red flags to check for.
Does his profile mention exes?Do you like animals that he dislikes?He may harbor sexist views or resent his family.You don't want to date or hook up with someone who carries negative energy or unresolved baggage, they could impose it on you!
Step 5: Write a message.
If you don't want to appear desperate, give it a day before you message him.Write a message with a few lines.Ask where he likes to go and what his hobbies are.If you respond to something from his dating profile, you will stand out.Share your dislike for grilled cheese or animals.Ask him what he thinks of a movie.Ask him about his hometown, places he's traveled, books or TV shows.If he wants to know more about you, he should reply with a longer piece of text.It's probably time to move on to another online interest if answers seem generic and messaging slows down.
Step 6: The question should be popped.
Ask him to leave.You should be messaging back and forth with a day or less between messages, and you still want to see him.It's time to plan a meeting.You can ask him directly, depending on your personality.Do you want to discuss this with a beer?What are you doing this weekend?Would you like to get breakfast?Want to play the role of Lavigne in Complicated?I want to see this movie and have dinner after.Mention the idea of getting together in passing and see how he responds if you prefer him to make the first move.I like eating breakfast at any time of the day.I would be down to see a Cubs game.Make sure you really mean it.
Step 7: Wait a second.
Sometimes a guy needs time to read your profile and figure out if you two would get along.Sometimes a guy is too underdeveloped for online dating and won't respond.Don't try to get an answer from him at this point, there's not much you can do.
Step 8: Go on a date if he says yes.
You can arrange to meet up or hang out.If there's nothing to say about the venue or the music, ask him tons of questions about him.
Step 9: If he hasn't already, send a follow up text.
People appreciate knowing if the other party is still interested in them.Are you still interested in him?Say you had a great time at the meeting and made a joke about it.It is hoped that texting will lead to chatting and the planning of another date.It was great to meet, but you don't feel a connection.The online dating experience would be a lot less offhanded if everyone leaves on the same page.
Step 10: Ask your friend what they think about your object of interest if you know them well.
If your friend is already dating someone, he should be a good judge of character.You can ask them to set up a hangout for you all.Your attempt to meet him won't be obvious.
Step 11: It shouldn't be a problem if you've already met.
If you feel daring, send him a message with a friend request saying "Hey, just thought I'd say hi as I notice we have a lot of mutual friends."
Step 12: Start talking to him!
Send him a message a week later asking if he'd like to hang out with you and your friends.When he seems unaware of you doing that, look at him and throw tons of eye contact.His interest should be tickled by that.
Step 13: To show you're interested in him more than a friend, get him alone.
If you're at a hangout with a lot of friends, sit next to him and have a one-on-one conversation.If you're at a house party, ask if you can buy him a drink or make him one.Ask him how you know your friends and what they do.
Step 14: You can ask him out online or by text.
Send him a two-liners saying it was great to see him and asking if he would like to have coffee or lunch.Keep it casual.If the two of you are already flirtatious, you can set the tone by saying "great!"It is a date.
Step 15: Be prepared to be rejected.
He would tell you he's not interested if you were a mature and caring person.Assume it's a "no" if he doesn't respond.It's foolish of someone to avoid answering questions they are afraid to answer, and you shouldn't waste time waiting on his interest.Commend yourself for taking the leap!If he says he's busy or maybe without an explanation, you should take it as a sign that he is letting you off nicely.The ball is in his possession.If he wants to hang out more, he'll reach out.A rejection would be better than an insincere date.