It's even harder to be a good boyfriend as a teen because you and your partner don't have a lot of dating experience.If you learn to communicate and stay attentive and affectionate, you will be a great boyfriend in no time at all.
Step 1: Don't try to be someone else.
It is tempting to change things about yourself in order to be more appealing to someone else.They deserve to know the real you, and you deserve someone who likes you for who you are.They like you if you're already dating that.To be a good boyfriend, you don't need to be perfect.There is no such thing as perfect.
Step 2: Even if they don't like them, keep up with your own interests.
It's normal to like different things.It's great to share things, but you and them will likely have different interests.Set aside time for what you care about and encourage them to do the same.This will make your relationship better in the long run.While your friends are doing something else, you can enjoy your favorite game.They might like going to live concerts if you find them too loud.They could enjoy concert outings with friends.
Step 3: They should be able to see your emotional side.
Even if you feel embarrassed, don't be afraid to show your emotions.To have an honest relationship, it's important for you to be real around them.This will show them that you trust them.You can cry when you're upset or talk to them about how stressed you are.
Step 4: Don't try too hard to impress them.
You might think that showing off at school, scoring a major win, or getting a nice present is the only way to win their heart, but that's not the case.A person who is with you for the right reasons won't need flashy reasons to be your partner.It's okay to give them nice things, but not go too far.It's okay to bring flowers before a date, but not every day.It's normal to show off a trophy you won, but don't try to impress them with it.
Step 5: Wear clothes that make you feel good.
Staying true to who you are is a big part of being a good boyfriend.If you think your partner wants you to wear clothing that you don't like, choose something that suits you.If you want to show your partner that you care about how you look, you don't have to look like a pop star.If that's what you normally do, just shower, shave, and wear well-fitting, unwrinkled clothes.They'll think you're not important to them if you look sloppy around them.Before you pick them up on a date, it's important to look nice.It takes a lot of effort to look nice.
Step 6: Don't be a jerk.
It can be hard to be a gentleman when you're a teenager, but you should try to treat your partner with respect.Part of being a gentleman is being attentive to your partner's needs, from opening the door for them to hanging up their coat if they come over.Open the car door if you pick them up.Before you, let them walk into the room.Offer them your coat if they look cold.Pull out their chair for them to sit down.
Step 7: Eye contact is maintained.
Eye contact shows you are listening to them.They may think that you are disinterested and don't care about what they have to say.You should nod along while they're talking to you to show you care.
Step 8: If it's not about you, don't take what they say personally.
Don't make it about you when they vent about something, whether it's about your life or your relationship.They are telling you their feelings.Don't try to read into the things that are not there.Save their feelings for an appropriate time.After they're calmed down, it is a good time to share your feelings.
Step 9: Be honest.
If you want to be a good boyfriend as a teen, you have to honesty with your partner.It doesn't mean that you have to tell them every thought that runs through your head, but it does mean you should be able to let them know if you're upset because you did poorly on the math test, or are in a bad mood.tact is part of honesty.Inform them in a kind and sympathetic way so they don't get mad at you, if you have to be honest about something.If you did have another partner, don't lie about it.You don't have to talk about your past with your partner, but you should not lie about it.If you think the girl in your gym class is cute, you don't have to tell your partner.They will break their trust very quickly if they discover that you've been dishonest.
Step 10: It is possible to compromise.
Learning that you can't always get what you want is part of being a good boyfriend and good son.If you want to see the new Bond movie with your friends, you have to learn how to pick your battles and make sure that both people in the relationship are happy.It's better to be happy than not.Let them get their way if you think your partner really wants something.Don't be immature.If you and your partner are arguing about something, make a list of all the pros and cons of each decision.You can get perspective on the situation with that.Make sure both people are willing to compromise.If your partner always ends up getting what they want, it's not a real compromise.You can learn to take turns.They can pick the movie tomorrow, but you can choose the dinner place tonight.
Step 11: Say you are sorry.
If you make a mistake, you need to say you're sorry.You might think that admitting you're wrong will make you look worse.If you acknowledge that you've made a mistake and even apologize by giving them flowers or a sweet note, they'll like you more than if you don't.It can be very embarrassing to say you're sorry.It will feel more natural if you apologize when you have done something wrong.You should sound like you mean it when you say you're sorry.If you need to, take your partner's hands and look into their eyes.You're making time to apologize.They won't take you seriously if you just say "Sorry" or send a text message.
Step 12: Don't fight with no reason.
It's important to have disagreements from time to time and to work together to find a solution to the problem, but constantly fighting for no reason is a quick way to ruin your relationship.Teenagers are prone to fighting because they don't have a lot of experience compromising or having serious discussions with people they're romantically involved with.If you find yourself shouting or raising your voice, take a few deep breaths.You won't resolve anything if you're angry.If you think your partner is starting a lot of fights, talk about why it is happening and how it can be changed.If you're annoyed by something and want to fight, ask yourself if it's worth it.Don't let your anger build up -- if you're really mad about something, it's better to communicate about it than to avoid it, and wait for weeks until you feel like fighting.
Step 13: Understand their moods.
Teenage girls can be prone to mood swings due to their cycling hormones, and because of the natural confusion that comes with growing up.If you want to be a good boyfriend, you have to pay attention to their moods and understand when they're happy or upset.You should understand how they're feeling as you get to know them better.If they're upset about something, you can ask why.They will feel worse if they don't want to talk about it.Give them love and affection if they're sad.If they want to stay in, ask how they feel dealing with their mood.They might just want to be with you.Don't say that you're in a bad mood."Is something wrong?"I'm worried that you're upset.I would like to talk to you.They may be annoyed and defensive if you accuse them of being in a bad mood.
Step 14: Do them what they want.
If you want to be a good boyfriend, you should be attentive to their needs.They might offer to buy them lunch in the lunch line while they study, because they have to cram for their Spanish exam.Offer to pick up their homework if they stay home sick.If you can drive, offer to give them a ride.If they need help, they may not admit it right away, so be attentive and see if you can help.It's important to have a give-and-take balance.They should help you out if you give them favors.They might be taking advantage of you if it's a one-way street.
Step 15: Be supportive.
You should be aware that your partner is their own person and that you should support them as they try to reach their goals as well as when they deal with any conflict in their life.If you know they have a big test coming up, then you should either give them space to study or help them.If they're really passionate about soccer, tennis, or some other school sport, then you should cheer them on during their big games.If they're having trouble at home, make sure to be extra attentive and ask if there's anything you can do.They do not want to talk about it.Ask about their interests.If you know they're passionate about painting or playing the violin, you should support them by letting them talk about how much they mean to them.
Step 16: They should pay attention to their friends.
It's important to pay attention to your partner and their friends.If your friends love you, they'll tell them how lucky they are to have found an amazing guy like you.If they don't like you because you're rude or ignore them, they'll tell them that you are a jerk and that they should break up with you.They should be friendly with their friends.Ask your partner how they're doing, even if they aren't around.You can discuss their interests with them and get to know them a bit.Don't give up on them.Make sure to greet your partner when you approach them with a group of friends.Tell your partner that you don't like their friends.They mean a lot to them, even if they're a little annoying, and if you admit this, you'll be making a rift in your relationship.
Step 17: In front of your friends, don't ignore them.
This is important.If your partner is hanging out with you and your friends, you should still pay attention to them and let them know that they're important to you.If you ditch them as soon as your friends show up, they will feel like a burden or a last priority.If you are hanging out with your friends, you should include them in the conversation.Don't leave them hanging.Help your friends get to know each other.It will be hard to have a good time if your friends are shy or awkward.For your friends and your partner to talk about, bring up some common interests.
Step 18: Know when they need more space.
When your partner wants to be left alone, you should notice.If it seems like your partner wants a night out with their friends, don't be put off, space and privacy are necessary for a healthy relationship.Your relationship may be getting too intense if you're always around.Take some time apart from your partner to realize how much you miss each other.They may start to feel that you're controlling or domineering if you are always around.They should be allowed to do their own thing.Be cool if they want to be alone.If you look upset or hurt, they'll think you're not good.They should leave some room in their schedule.Don't try to plan your weekends so that you have less time for your friends and family.
Step 19: Affirm them.
It's natural if you don't compliment your partner.If you're a teen, this may be your first relationship, and you may feel awkward about telling your partner that they look nice or that you like their outfit, but you should compliment them.This will let them know that you like them, and that they mean a lot to you.You should compliment them more if they change their appearance.It doesn't have to be only when they're all dressed up that they look attractive.Let them know if they look cute in a tank top and shorts.Just compliment them at least once every time you see them.You can compliment an aspect of their personality, like their sense of humor, or you can tell them they're great at French, if you compliment their looks.
Step 20: Give them love.
If you want to be affectionate, you should put your arm around your partner from time to time, hold hands, or even kiss them when you meet them.Even if it's just a gentle squeeze on the hand after class, you should give them a sign that you like being around them because you don't have to put your hands all over them.It's a good idea to learn to cuddle.You can spend some time hugging them, stroking their hair, or showering them with kisses.Put your arms around them.People like this, they feel safe in your arms.They want you to be as affectionate as possible.Make them feel like they don't have enough room to breathe or that they are getting groped in public.It's a good idea to take it easy on the public displays of affection.The couples that are the most comfortable with each other don't need to make out in public or hold hands 24/7.You can show affection in public, but only if they are comfortable.
Step 21: They should be asked if they are ready to take the next step.
Don't try to pressure them.It will make them very uncomfortable.By asking them, you can do this.Whenever it seems natural, you can try something new.If they are not comfortable, stop and read both their verbal and physical reactions.Don't rush them.They should be allowed to work at their own pace.You could jeopardize how safe they feel with you if they say they don't want to.
Step 22: Give them gifts that are small.
Gifts are a great way to show your love for your partner, no matter how small or silly they are.If you're a teen, you don't have to save a lot of money to get a diamond necklace.Give them a teddy bear, a bouquet of flowers, or tickets to the movie they want to see as a special gift.The gesture counts more than the actual gift.A gift shows you've thought about them.
Step 23: Leave them with nice notes.
You can use sweet notes to let your partner know that you've been thinking about them.At the end of a romantic date, leave them in their locker or hand them to them.You don't have to say much in the notes, just tell them that you've been thinking about them and compliment them.If it feels forced, don't leave the notes.They'll love it if you show your affection this way.You can text them, for example, "I love you" or "Thinking of you".If you're apart for a period of time and can't leave notes, this is better than nothing.
Step 24: Make time for romance.
Making time for just the two of you to hang out, go on a date, and talk about how much you like each other is a part of being affectionate.If you want to make your relationship move forward, you should try to have a date night at least once a week.You can choose where you go and what you do.Maybe they want to play mini-golf one weekend and then go to the beach the next.If you're alone with your partner, show them a lot of affection.Even if you're watching a silly movie, you can have a romantic time at the fair.Make time for the guys, but don't make your partner feel like they're the last priority.
Step 25: Some interests should be pursued together.
If you want to be a good boyfriend and make your relationship last a long time, then you should find some interests with your partner.You should find an activity that you both like to do, like playing tennis on weekends, or trying every sushi restaurant in town, even if it's hard because of your busy schedules.You can find new shows that are popular with you and your partner.It doesn't matter what you do, what matters is that you're building more interests together, which will give you more to look forward to and to talk about throughout the course of your relationship.
Step 26: Keep it fresh.
If you've been with your partner for a while, things can begin to fall into a routine, and you may feel like your relationship is losing that special spark.It is important to keep things interesting by finding new ways to compliment your partner, going to new spots during your date nights, and pursuing new interests together.Be flexible.Pick them up after school and drive them to the park.You shouldn't do the same thing every weekend.Even if you see the same movie in a different theater, make sure you try at least one new thing together.Don't forget about your looks.Even if you've been together for a while, you should still look good.They might think you don't care anymore if you slack off in this department.
Step 27: It's important to maintain some independence.
It's never a good idea to spend all of your time together with your significant other if you're in a teenage relationship.It's important to remember that teenage relationships are less likely to last than adult relationships or even college relationships, so you shouldn't invest 100% of your time in each other.While both of you still remember who you were without each other, your relationship can continue to grow and strengthen.Continue to spend time with your guy friends.Don't abandon them completely to hang out with your partner.Don't let your partner ditch their friends to hang out with you all the time.Don't stop pursuing your interests because of your partner.Even if your band doesn't like the music, keep practicing.If you and your partner are always together, you won't have a chance to look at the bigger picture.Being apart helps you think about what you have and what isn't working.
Step 28: Don't move fast.
If you're a teenage guy, it's likely that you have strong hormonal impulses and want to make out with your partner whenever you can.You have to make sure that your partner is ready to take this step if you want to move a little further than kissing or go all the way.Don't force your partner to do more than they want to.They will regret it later if they feel forced to.Your partner may think that you're not in the relationship for the right reasons if you keep moving too fast.Sometimes, let your partner make the calls.They should tell you what they want instead of telling you you want more.You should not move too fast in the bedroom.Don't talk about college until you've been together for a long time and feel serious about each other.
Step 29: Text back.
When you don't reply to a text, they may get paranoid and say "Sorry I took so long, I had to help my mom" or something like that.It's important to take care when you text.If they see you texting someone else, they will be very jealous.This doesn't preclude you from texting others.If you are going to text another person, make sure you don't flirt with them and that you're taken.If your partner catches you texting someone in a friendlier way, they'll drop you faster than hot coal.
Step 30: Remember how lucky you are.
That other person you just glanced at is not worth it because they are attractive, good-looking, lovely, and kind.Don't forget how much you mean to your partner, they will probably do anything for you.Let them know that you care.Sometimes they want to be treated like the only person who matters, and you can show them that by telling them so.Sharing ideologies can be fun if you don't disagree with their ideas.Don't talk about their fault.Don't ever talk about their flaws or faults, your opinion is very important to them, and by saying mean things you could really damage their self-esteem.Make sure they are aware of their good qualities.This may be something you need to point out if your partner is bossy and controlling.
Step 31: You should be there for them.
Help the person out if they are in trouble.When your partner needs help, back them up and always be there for them.Try to help them sort out their problems if they are sad.They have to put in effort as well.