Our parents have an impact on who we are and the decisions we make.Tough love is offered when we aren't living up to our potential.Every child owes a debt of gratitude and respect to their parents.Being a "Perfect" daughter is one way of providing that, but it also means being a daughter who is perfect for the people who raised her, respecting their values and making meaningful contributions to the happiness of her parents.
Step 1: Be realistic.
You can be good if you don't have to be perfect, as the U.S. author John Steinbeck said.Albert Einstein made mistakes but learned from them.Don't let being perfect undermine your self-esteem and become the enemy of all the good things you can do.It can diminish an accomplishment or task completion just because it is not perfect.Depression, troubled relationships, and decreased life satisfaction are all linked to Perfectionism.
Step 2: Ask first.
If you don't know if something will upset your parents, ask first.It's a good sign that your parents will be upset if you don't ask.Ensure you've thought through the possible outcomes of what you are asking to do and anticipate the concerns your parents will have when you ask.Don't get upset.If your parents are resistant to your suggestion, remember to stay cool-headed and present facts and examples that show why you should do something and how you are capable of handling any outcomes.If your parents say no, always honor their wishes even if it's not what you want.
Step 3: Take care of your responsibilities.
Negative tensions can arise when you wait until you have to be told again and again that you will do something.Expectations should be set early.When I am free, I will complete all the tasks before having to be asked for more time.Anticipate needs and fill them.Garbage runs on certain days.Is guest expected over the weekend?Without being asked, you can take out the garbage, clean your room and other rooms in the house.
Step 4: Be respectful.
If you agree with what your parents are saying, remind yourself that they have your best interests at heart.You are too young to have access to some of the insights they have.Don't back talk because they are looking out for you.Establishing yourself as respectful and trustworthy can be undermined by back talk.
Step 5: Don't forget to take care of yourself.
Maintaining a healthy appearance and caring for your body are ways to demonstrate respect for yourself.It is reassuring for your parents to see that you are well-cared for.Keep your surroundings clean.Take a bath or shower daily.It is possible to wipe off sweat and grime with a soapy wash cloth.It's a good idea to wash hair every few days.Take care of your hair and wear clean clothes.Clothes need ironing.It's best to wear a belt with pants.It's important to keep your hair out of your face.It is a good idea to eat regular, healthy meals.If you want to maintain a more even blood sugar, you should spread your meals out over the course of the day.Make sure you eat enough to be healthy even if you choose a meal plan.It's a good idea to go to bed at a reasonable hour.Teens between the ages of 14 and 17 need a lot of sleep.Anyone over the age of 18 needs between seven and nine hours.
Step 6: Take help.
Sometimes we need help to reach our goals, even if we want to show our parents how successful we are.Don't accept help from your parents in the form of advice if you're too proud or egotistical.You should show gratitude for the help your parents give you.
Step 7: You should be patient with your parents.
We can let our ambitions guide our actions when we are young.It can be hard for parents to adjust to rapid changes that we take for granted.When you get married, get a job, move to a new place, it can remind them of their own mortality, or make them lonely when you were just down the hall.Help parents adjust to your own changes.Allow them to ask questions while you talk with them.If they can't always do it, help them understand.Acceptance and trust are just as powerful as understanding.
Step 8: Be true to yourself.
Being true to yourself means that you are happy, learning, and growing.Being successful and coming into your own is what makes a parent happy.You are actuallyizing the person your parents raised you to be when you are true to yourself.Being true to yourself can create tension with parents.If your parents want you to attend church with them, but you are not religious, let them know that.You can still be true to your values if you attend the church.The Skeptics Bible can be used to start a conversation about the contradictions and inconsistencies in religious scriptures.Are you worried about coming out to your parents?If you are living at home with your parents, you may not want to share your sexuality at that time.If you are living away from home and worried about talking to your parents about your sexual orientation, speak to a therapist about the best "coming out" options.
Step 9: Have a happy life.
Parents want their daughter to have a happy and safe life.Your parents want to be a part of that life and help secure that happiness.They would like to share in your relationships, help raise possible grandchildren, and enjoy watching their family grow.
Step 10: Go ahead and pay it forward.
Take the advantages, kindness, support, and generosity you have been shown by your parents and give it to others.That could include your own children, your spouse, friends, and other family members.Big Sisters offer support and life guidance to at-risk young women.When you help others, you show your appreciation for the upbringing your parents gave you.
Step 11: It is necessary to balance individuality and closeness.
It can take some adjustment for a family to grow and gain new members.Remember that your partner loves you for who you are, and that you shouldn't try to be someone else.Look for opportunities to connect with his or her family.
Step 12: You should be open to new family relationships.
Although every family does things differently, many accept new members by immediately treating them as a sibling or child.Sibling relationships are like living with a best friend for most of your life if you are an only child and have never had siblings before.Everyone wants to get along, have fun, and take care of each other.Accept that hugs, jokes, and some teasing will come with being a new sibling, but that it is coming from a place of love and welcome.It is possible to reciprocate in turn.
Step 13: Give yourself time.
If you have just married into a new family, you should plan for at least an hour a day of "Me" time."Me" time is when you say "I'm going to have a quick nap" and then take a break and think about the events of the day, releasing any stress that may have built up.If you want to ask questions, you can even ask your partner to join you.These quiet moments may not be necessary as you and your partner's family get to know each other.
Step 14: Tell the truth.
A degree of honesty can be achieved by the relationship between a parent and a child.tact can be important in maintaining peace, as your partner may be able to tell their parents anything, but remember that they are getting to know you.Break difficult truths with respect and kindness and never lie to your partner's family.
Step 15: The boundaries should be set.
When we start a relationship with a partner's family, we usually want them to like us as much as possible.It is equally important to not sacrifice your personal comfort for someone else.Do your partner's parents want you to come for the holidays when you both want to stay home?If you and your partner agree, be kind, but firm, in letting the rest of the family know that you will be delighted to join them at a different time but can't make the requested date.This may cause disappointment at first but, in the long-run, establishes reasonable expectations and mutual respect.
Step 16: Agree to disagree.
You will never agree with a partner's family on some points.This isn't a sign of failure or incompatibility.Think of it as a challenge to love and be tolerant in spite of differences.Do you know that your partner's parents have different politics than you?I have never been entirely comfortable talking about politics.If pushed, gently remind others that you respect their beliefs and feelings, hope they can respect your feelings as well.
Step 17: Be willing to change.
Maintaining healthy family relationships involves compromise.Accepting that your partner's family has completely different holiday traditions may mean that Aunt Margaret will always make macaroni and cheese for special occasions, even though you always made it.It is possible that you need to adjust how you observe your own traditions, since you should never give up all the habits and rituals that bring joy and meaning to your life.If Aunt Margaret always makes macaroni and cheese, ask your partner what kind of dish you could make that could become a family staple.It is possible to have your own Christmas tree and cookies for Santa at home, but still enjoy lighting the menorah and having noodle kugel with your partner's family.
Step 18: Allow yourself to be Empathized.
Welcoming a new person to the family can be a lot of work.It can remind your in-laws that they are old, that their child lives far away, or that there may be limitations on how much family time can be spent together.If you want to understand what families go through when a new person is added, try to give in-laws the benefit of the doubt before becoming upset or angry.
Step 19: Be aware.
Think about your relationship with family, as well as your own personal life.What aspects could be made more enjoyable?Here are some exercises that can help you be a better daughter.You show a lack of concern for the people impacted by the outcome when you complete tasks without a commitment to success or improvement.Show love, care, and respect by attempting to complete all tasks successfully.Look for new ways to make positive changes and let your parents be proud of what you've accomplished.This could be anything from planting flowers in your parent's garden to asking your supervisor for a promotion.A commitment to being a better person for yourself and others is demonstrated when you make a personal effort to bring happiness to yourself or the people who care about you.
Step 20: It's important to communicate.
It can be hard to make a call when you don't talk to your parents.It is convenient for both of you to reach out to your parents as often as possible.For younger adults, this could mean daily check-ins via text.Try to text or call your parents more than once a week.An important message doesn't have to be it.It could be as simple as seeing your mom's favorite flower and wanting to say "hi" to her at work.First you should reach out.Don't be the one waiting for a call or text.Make time to talk to your parents.If you live away from home, invite them to come visit.We offer reassurance by reminding our parents of their importance.
Step 21: Listen carefully.
When parents tell us to listen, it's more than just nodding.You can show that you are learning through active listening.This is more than just a gesture of respect.It ensures that you can act on what they tell you.Restate information shows that you are attentive and gives you the ability to clarify things you don't know.Nod your head, offer subtle "encouragers".Say "uh huh" or "I see" to keep your parents talking.Before you ask a question, summarize the information into your own words.This helps you remember what was said, but also allows for your parents to say "That one part is not quite right, let me explain again" in order to offer correction.If something strikes you as a good idea, say "I agree that this is good, because..." if you are less certain of another part.Can you explain it again?Your parents might be willing to listen to suggestions or alternative ideas.When in doubt, ask questions to clarify or draw out information.Make sure you understand what you have been told and how it will affect your behavior.Tell your parents that you appreciate them taking the time to teach.You should always show your gratitude for and appreciation of your parents.
Step 22: Stay in the moment.
It is tempting to remind our parents of mistakes they have made, unless it is important to our health or protection, and resist the urge to dwell on the past.Thank you.Forgiveness is not a free pass.It does not mean that mistakes are ok.It means that you are willing to move on despite your mistakes.Like you, your parents are not expected to be perfect.Fix disagreements quickly.The longer a disagreement lasts, the more difficult it can be to reconcile.When we don't resolve issues with those closest to us, we build a pattern of behavior that will continue into future relationships, even those with our own children.If you want to be a better person, daughter, and mother, you need to repair damaged relationships quickly and develop conflict resolution skills.