How To Be a Popular Transgender Person in High School
People say it's impossible to be popular if you're trans.It isn't.It is possible to make a large amount of friends.You will hopefully be able to thrive as well as survive your time in high school with a few tips.
Step 1: Straighten your back.
Stand tall and everyone will see that you are happy.Imagine if you looked flawless and carried yourself that way.If you find yourself slinking back to un confident body language in the halls, remind yourself how attractive you are, and then walk away from it.If you don't feel attractive, it's okay.You should keep telling yourself you are.You will eventually believe it.You have the ability to shine.
Step 2: Cultivate confidence.
It's a good chance that you've learned to be quick and smart in order to protect yourself.It is possible to put forth a calm, confident appearance by using quick thinking.You'll draw people in if you use your humor to diffuse tense situations.People who are funny are drawn to others.The most attractive people tend to choose partners who are funny and kind rather than worry about looks.
Step 3: Look for new people.
Random acts of kindness can be practiced.Look at each person as a potential friend, and react in a positive way.When you treat people well, they will treat you well as well.
Step 4: Not everyone will be your friend, that's okay.
Your personality isn't going to "click" with everyone.This isn't a bad reflection on you.Don't assume it's because you're trans.It's all right if you don't end up with the traditional crowd.Most people in high school don't like that group.There is no need for it to be pushed.You can be popular in your own way if you find other interesting and fun people.Some jerks are legit.Try to remember that the behavior of mean or inconsiderate people is about them, not you.Focus on people who care for you, because they are not worth your time.
Step 5: Ask people questions to get to know them.
Ask people questions to keep the conversation going about what they like.Listen to them because you want to hear what they have to say.Ask follow-up questions if you want to keep the conversation going.When you leave a conversation, try to mentally summing it up.You could say, "Woah!"It seems like your puppy is a lot of work.You are more likely to remember the details later if you ask how long you have to train it.
Step 6: There are good things in your life.
Focus on the positives, such as the sweet girl you talked to, your success in Spanish class, or your father's kindness.Staying afloat during the negatives can be helped by reflecting upon the positives.You can remember the good things if you list a few things you are grateful for.
Step 7: You can get involved in your school to meet people and have fun.
You can find a group centered on your interests.Volunteer, play sports, and attend school.You can make new friends if you meet people who share your talents and passions.Your focus should be on having fun and enjoying who you are.You can join the group at your school.If your school does not have one, you should ask a teacher to start one.
Step 8: Don't be angry with yourself for staying in the closet.
Safety, acceptance, and other concerns are all valid reasons not to come out.You don't have to educate anyone about what it's like to be LGBTQ+.If you don't mention that you're trans, that's fine.
Step 9: People are focused on themselves and not on you.
It is more likely that you are the only person who is analyzing you at school.The majority of high school students are absorbed in their own lives and not thinking about you as much.Try not to think about what other people are thinking.It is likely that no one will notice or care if you do not match up to your gender expectations.
Step 10: Most of the time, people will keep their thoughts to themselves.
If someone notices something different about you, they won't say anything.It's not likely anyone will point it out or ask you about it if you are a girl with a deep voice or a shorter guy.Do not listen to what people have to say.Some guys tease each other.If you're a trans guy, you might be on the receiving end.If you feel comfortable with teasing, you can shrug it off.If someone makes comments that bother you, explain that to them, and ask them to stop.You could say, "Hey, I know you're just kidding around, but I'm self conscious about my size."It hurts my feelings when you make fun of me, and I would appreciate it if you stopped.
Step 11: Self care can help you feel better.
You might feel like you have to pretend to be someone you aren't in order to pass.It will be difficult at times.Taking good care of yourself will help you get through the difficult times.You should eat a healthy diet, exercise and sleep.Stress relief can help you stay calm.You could journal, exercise, or talk to a friend.
Step 12: Accept people and open up to them.
If it makes you more comfortable, choose just one person to reveal your secrets, and take your time in deciding when to take people into your confidence.This person can help pave the way to being honest with your group and be a bridge to understanding between you and them.
Step 13: Don't feel pressured to answer the questions.
Nobody has taught high school students the difference between sex and gender.They may be a little awkward at first, but this is new to them, not because anything is wrong or bad about you.Your friends and loved ones will ask a lot of questions.Don't feel like you have to keep anything private when you give them the best answers you can.It can be tiring to educate people.It's important to come up with a "script" that you can rattle off whenever and to have a website URL that people can check out in order to learn more.
Step 14: Look for people's second reactions, not their first.
It can be shocking to have their ideas of gender overturned.Give them some time and take a deep breath.They will show their true colors once they have a little time to process.They probably do support you and are worth your trust if they realize that they overreacted and apologized.It probably won't happen if they're still not accepting you after a week.It's more about them than you, because they don't have the strength to accept you.Some of your friends may need to unlearn things they have been taught by their parents.It is possible that this will take some time.
Step 15: If someone is rude or cruel, don't take it personally.
There are people out there who ignore the feelings of others and treat people in a different way.Try to remember that their actions are a reflection of them, not you.It's their loss if they don't appreciate how wonderful you are.Some people won't like you because of who you are.Sometimes people get scared or angry when they see someone who is braver than they are.Feel bad for people who are rude.They may be jealous of you because you are so confident in yourself.
Step 16: Take a lot of time to relax.
Spending a lot of time with people who make you happy is important to your emotional health.hobbies help you feel at peace
Step 17: Don't feel pressured to be a spokesman for the community.
It's not right to expect you to be an ambassador of trans people when you're so young.No one is entitled to anything from you.You are free to make your own educational or anti-discrimination efforts.Make sure you don't hold yourself to impossible standards.You shouldn't expect yourself to be a happy person all the time.Some interactions need to be educational.Give yourself a break if you find educating others exhausting.
Step 18: You should immerse yourself in positive media.
If you're okay with R ratings, watch Orange is the New Black and immerse yourself in the stories of trans people.Representation can help to see fictional people like you.Don't just look for artists.A lot of people post good work.
Step 19: Make friends with people of the same sexual orientation.
Also look for other people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or queer.There could be a club at school, a local support group, or a website.There is a place where you can meet other people like you.They can understand you in a way that cis gender heterosexuals can't.You're not alone if you support each other.