People who enjoy wearing diapers are called diaper lovers.A diaper can be used for convenience, sexual pleasure, or as a preference over regular underwear.It can be difficult to realize that you are a diaper lover.You can explore your love of diapers and accept yourself.
Step 1: You are not the only one.
You may feel weird to know that you enjoy wearing diapers.Many people share your affection for wearing diapers.You are not the only one who has these feelings and behaviors.There is nothing strange about you.You may be surprised to know that communities exist.You can meet other people with the same feelings and behaviors.
Step 2: You can learn about your feelings.
You may feel weird or ashamed about wearing a diaper.Accept the positive feelings you have about being a diaper lover, such as pleasure, excitement, and satisfaction.If you are overcome with guilt, shame, and fear about wearing a diaper, look at these feelings as well.It may be easier to ignore the emotions than it is to move closer to them.If you learn to be comfortable with yourself and your feelings, you won't have to worry about what people think.You can acknowledge all of the positive and negative feelings you have about wearing a diaper.How does wearing a diaper affect your self-perception?Fear of others finding out or feelings of guilt or shame are some of the negative feelings that may come up.It is possible that you are experiencing a lot of self-criticism.If you want people to understand you, it is important that you understand yourself first.Journaling is one way to confront and work through these feelings.You can get some distance from your emotions through the process of journaling.Writing down how you are feeling can bring clarity to your thoughts and feelings.
Step 3: Accept yourself.
Accepting parts of yourself that are difficult to accept is part of full self-acceptance.Don't judge yourself for wearing diapers if you have negative feelings about it.Allow yourself to experience self-compassion if you are having a hard time dealing with your love of diapers.When dealing with shame, you can say, "I feel ashamed because society looks down on adult diaper wearing, but I don't have to conform to societal expectations."If you can, treat yourself like a dear friend.You would show your friend the same care and affection for yourself.
Step 4: Deal with shame and guilt.
It's possible that you're feeling a lot of guilt about your lifestyle.Guilt is the feeling that something you've done violates a moral code.Shame can come from self-disapproval or the disapproval of others.There is no need to feel bad about being a diaper lover.You will be able to accept yourself if you can work through these feelings.If you feel guilt after eating an entire cake, that's your brain telling you that this behavior is harmful.To put it another way, shame is the feeling that you have done something wrong, and guilt is how you feel about it.It's not healthy to experience guilt over your identity as a diaper lover, because what you are doing is not hurting you or anyone else.If guilt exists to help us learn from our mistakes, what you must learn is how to change your mindset and accept this part of you.Accepting that you have no control over the feelings and behaviors of others is one way to heal shame.The choice to be open and understanding, judgmental and closed off has nothing to do with you.You may begin to feel less shame once you stop taking other's behavior personally.
Step 5: Act on your feelings.
You may think that wearing a diaper or deviating from the norm is shameful.Stop suppressing the urge to wear a diaper.It can be very damaging to suppress your emotions.It is possible to experience the pleasure of wearing a diaper.If you are worried about other people discovering your diaper, you can choose to wear it in private.
Step 6: Make friends.
There are communities of diaper lovers and adult babies on the internet.Join a community that values the same things as you do.Being a part of a community of diaper lovers can help you realize that you are not alone, if you have previously felt misunderstood or feel the weight of carrying the secret of being a diaper lover.Some people don't want to be part of a community.It is up to you if you want to engage with other people who also wear diapers.
Step 7: Understand the factors that unite diaper lovers.
The lifestyle of diaper wearing and infant behavior is desired by many adults when they are young.Men are more likely to wear a diaper.There are diaper behaviors such as wearing a diaper and messing with it.Most diaper lovers are male and employed.Some diaper lovers express a different gender than the one assigned at birth.
Step 8: There is a difference between wearing an adult diaper and acting like a baby.
You don't necessarily want to act out infant or baby behaviors if you wear a diaper.Babies like to be treated like adults, such as taking a bottle, playing with toys, and sleeping in a crib.Some diaper lovers enjoy wearing a diaper and live a normal life.It is up to you to decide if you want to act as an adult baby or not.Some people use diapers to have sex.The behavior is not tied to the baby lifestyle.
Step 9: There are features of incontinence associated with wearing a diaper.
When faced with increased incontinence, you may first experience diapers.It is possible that you will begin to enjoy wearing diapers and explore their role in sexuality or pleasure.It is okay to wear diapers even if you experience incontinence.
Step 10: Decide if you want to talk about your diaper.
You can tell people that you wear a diaper or not.It is up to you to discuss wearing a diaper.If you are in a romantic relationship, you might want to tell this information before the discussion becomes too much.You can keep the diaper on yourself or tell friends and family.Don't tell a partner that you have a diaper on.You may be surprised that many people are willing to engage in behaviors and lifestyles.
Step 11: Talk to your partner.
It is important to share a diaper with your partner if it is an important part of your identity.If you enjoy diaper wearing during sexual activity, this is true.If it is important to you, tell your partner, but don't leave it hanging.Let your partner know that you want to talk about something important to you.It is important for me to be transparent with you and let you know who I am.You should be open to answer any questions your partner may have.You should appeal to your partner.Say to your partner, "I know you enjoy being sexually adventurous, and this is a new adventure to practice together."You may want to start small and work your way up, such as wearing diapers around the house, then bringing them into more intimate settings.Clear communication is important to make sure you both feel comfortable.
Step 12: You can use discretion in your appearance.
Diaper lovers and adult babies are not in the open yet.People misunderstand the feelings of diaper lovers.It is up to you if you want to wear diapers in public or at home.It depends on whether you use a diaper for comfort or for sexual reasons.If you want to discreetly wear a diaper in public, wear loose clothing to hide the diaper bulge and keep diaper-wrinkling noise to a minimum.It's a popular option to wear diapers to bed.
Step 13: When you have visitors, have a hiding place for diapers.
If you prefer to keep your diaper out of sight, plan ahead.The diapers will not be found if they are kept in a safe spot.This could include the washer/dryer, your bedroom, or a secret spot in your home.If it makes you feel more comfortable, you should tell a good story about why you want to own them.