It is possible to make a woman feel special by giving her a compliment.Too many guys don't know how to compliment one another.They can either state the blatantly obvious or they can overcomplicate to the point that they become meaningless.The art of giving a compliment can make you appear romantic and smooth to the ladies.
Step 1: What do they value in themselves?
Think about what the woman likes about herself.She might do that more for other people than herself if you try to go beyond noticing her clothes and makeup.Think about something that she cares about.She may be proud of her ability to play an instrument.She wants to be a good mother someday and you can see that she is good with kids.These are nice things to compliment.Say something like, "You are so loving and gentle with everyone, even when they make it really hard."That is wonderful.I wish there were more people like you.
Step 2: She values things in others.
Think about how she talks about other people.You've probably seen her compliment someone before.Look for phrases like "I wish I..." since this tells you what she wants for herself.Think about when she showed that quality in her day to day life.Many women do occasionally show the qualities that they admire but don't think they have.You will earn a lot of points if you show her that she can be the person she wants to be.Say something like, "I think it's hilarious that you don't think you're smart like him."You can say something like, "Don't worry about being patient like Gina."You are also very understanding and patient.Look at how you dealt with Frank!
Step 3: She works to improve.
She works really hard to improve her character and she should be praised when she succeeds.She has to work really hard on this, but if you compliment her on her behavior when she does, it can be really uplifting.You know how hard it is to become a better person.Say something like, "You really kept your head in that meeting."After she stays cool while your boss grills everyone, I think I could have.
Step 4: Go beyond beauty.
It is difficult to compliment beauty.Many women like to be praised.It can have a lot of negative consequences for both of you.She is used to people telling her she is beautiful to get what they want from her.She will not always be pretty as she ages, creating self-doubt, and it can also have long-term consequences, in that she might think you only like her because she is pretty.When you are together for a special occasion, use the compliment about her beauty in a way that makes sense.Say something like, "Andrea may be the bride but you're the most beautiful woman in the room to me."
Step 5: It's a good idea to compliment something new.
It will show her that you care enough to pay attention to her.It is not expected that men will notice a change in her hair or earrings, so when you do you are pretty much hitting a home run.This means that you have to pay attention.Say something like, "I don't really get shoes but there's something about those shoes that says you're going to own this room today."
Step 6: Let it happen naturally.
Compliments are more meaningful when you just speak what you think, reacting to the situation that you are in.It shows her that you don't have time to plan it or pull a stock compliment from a pickup artist website.It shows her that you are honest.Tell her that you admire her when you see her doing something.It can be dangerous.You have to think about how this compliment would sound.Try to see the compliment from her point of view in half a second.Does it show that she had done something wrong before?Does that make her sound weak, dumb, or negative?You don't want to screw up in this situation if you learn how to truly hold respect for her.
Step 7: Specific is the best way to describe it.
She has beautiful eyes and her hair looks nice, but don't compliment her on that.Specificity is your friend, because it tells her that you are more than just giving a compliment.Say something like "Your eyes make your face look so bright and happy" or "I love it when you put your hair up like that because I get to see so much more of your beautiful face".
Step 8: Your compliment should be unique to her.
When you compliment her, try to be creative.It is nice to compliment hair and eyes, if done correctly, but it is still a compliment that is taken out a lot.You are not the first person to tell her she has nice hair.You can show her that you are not just trying to get a girl by saying that she is the one with your attention.Try to get a compliment like "I love it when you talk because your voice sounds like home to me" or "You are so elegant, you remind me of Hepburn".
Step 9: She controls things.
It is important to compliment things that she has control over since it can lead to tension and self-doubt in the future.A woman who only ever received a compliment of "You look beautiful" will come to identify a big part of her worth as being "beautiful"She might experience bad self esteem as she ages.You do not want that!She can control a number of things, including her education, determination, skills, accomplishments, and personality.She can't control things like her eyes, skin color, and overall beauty.If you compliment a woman on something she can't control, you're like a compliment to your neighbor's new job.It is more difficult to be flattered, because you didn't have anything to do with it.
Step 10: Don't make sexual comments to a woman you're not with.
Do not.Don't do it.Say something like "Hey sexy girl, you wanna get with this?" is not going to help your case.Sexual comments are not good.When she's not your girlfriend, don't compliment or comment that you want to have sex with her.Women are constantly having to wonder if a random guy is trying his best or if he is a potential rapist.You should not leave that question open in her mind.
Step 11: Don't use the word "Chesy" if you want to avoid it.
It can sound cookie cutter and a lot like you are trying too hard.This is due to the fact that real cliches like comparing her to a rose or a moon are insincere.They are done because they have nothing to do with your lady.If the context is right and you really, really mean it, you might say that your smile is like a summer day.It's a good idea to avoid any compliment that sounds like it came from a romance novel or a guy at a gross bar.It is hard to make them work.
Step 12: Don't use denigrating language.
You want to be careful about what you say.They will say something about your personality that you might not have intended.When a woman hears someone compliment her, she starts to wonder if she is the next person to be put down.Don't say something like, "Don’t worry about Becky getting all the guys."I think you look better than her, but I wouldn't worry about it too much.You have to give yourself a chance to shine, because a good guy is looking for everything.
Step 13: Make her feel appreciated.
On a planet of a couple billion people, it is not hard to feel like a drop in the ocean.You will warm her heart if you compliment her in a way that makes her feel special.This can be a great compliment.You will need to rack your brain on this one, because who she is will have an effect on what you say.Say something like, "Have you ever heard of the pay it forward thing?" if she has done a lot of volunteer work.You probably don't give yourself a lot of credit for what you do, but every positive difference you make makes the world a better place.I think you are doing a great job.
Step 14: It's a good idea to be careful when talking about weight.
It can be difficult to compliment a woman on her weight loss.Women and men are sensitive about their weight.Some women may have lost weight for bad reasons.She may have cancer.If you know that it was an actual effort on her part, then you should only compliment her.If you want to compliment her, don't compare her to how she used to look.Be respectful of her feelings.The weight loss has had a bigger effect.The best way to compliment her actual effort at getting healthier is to say "You look so healthy and energetic today" or something like that.She has done something that is truly admirable.You are my inspiration to make positive changes in my life too.I hope I can be as committed as you are.
Step 15: You don't have to compliment her to get there.
It is possible that your compliment will have a positive outcome for you.A date, sex...even a deeper connection.Sometimes a compliment is not the best way to achieve what you want.Only about half of women will be happy with the compliment you just gave them.Many women have negative associations with particular kinds of praise because they have to deal with a lot of street harassment.Sometimes a compliment is the wrong thing to say to a girl.You may get further with an honest conversation.Just talk to her like you would any other person and let your personality catch her eye.
Step 16: Save praise.
You don't want to compliment it too much.Save the compliment for the beginning of a date and keep it to a minimum.You think your heart might burst from how wonderful she is, right?It is a good time to compliment her.She is clearly beating herself up about something.That might be a good time to point out that she has stronger qualities that will carry her through.The point of a compliment is to make her feel good.When it is really important to make her feel good about herself, she should save her compliment.
Step 17: You should be completely genuine.
Women can tell when you aren't being genuine with your compliment.If you are trying to compliment a girl you have never met, how can you know that she is worth it?You need to really mean it when you compliment her.You have to believe that it is a good thing.She will be really flattered by your earnest belief, even if it is a little trite.We feel good when kids compliment us.Kids don't know how to flatter people in a way that makes them happy.Even if the delivery sucks, they mean it when they compliment us.
Step 18: Don't be disrespectful.
If you give a girl a compliment that makes her think that you don't care about her, you'll be more likely to score with her.This will only work with women who have low self-confidence.They aren't the kind of women that you want to date.When you compliment her, be respectful.A rule of thumb is not to say anything to her that you wouldn't say to your mother or sister.If your mom hit you on the head for saying that, then you shouldn't say it to other women either.
Step 19: It's a good idea to compliment her at the right time and place.
If you compliment your coworker on her dress right after she gives an important presentation, you are telling her that all that hard work she just put in didn't catch your notice and that she is what she looks like.The principle behind choosing when you compliment a woman is shown in this example.At a time when she won't get the impression you just want something out of her, any compliment on any topic needs to be presented.You need to pay attention to the context.The wrong subject for the setting can kill a compliment.
Step 20: Show her something.
Don't try to get a compliment by showing your affection or admiration.Actions might save you from a bad case of foot-in-mouth.Show her through actions if you are worried that you will screw up the delivery of your compliment or that your words will offend her.If you see her buying a sandwich for a homeless guy, you can take her out to a fancy restaurant or sit her down and cook her dinner.You don't have to take actions like this every time she does something wonderful, just like verbal compliment, save them for when you think they really matter.