Having a crush on someone is both exciting and frightening at the same time.If you feel bad for someone, you should let yourself feel it.If you don't want them to know you have a crush, act normal around them.If you want to make the first move, turn on your flirt.They're crushing on you too!Pick yourself up and remember that there are plenty of other crushes in your future if they aren't.
Step 1: If you want to show you're interested, copy their body language.
A popular body language technique is to mirror how the other person stands, moves, and talks.It shows that you're in sync with them.Lean in if they're leaning in.If they take a sip of their drink, you should too.They won't know what you're doing.This works with tone, pitch, and words.If they're using a sarcastic tone, mimic that.Lower your volume if they're speaking softly.Mirrors should be simple and natural.Don't copy what they do.Try and mimic their body language.They'll notice something is off if you move every time.
Step 2: If you want to keep your crush a secret, act normal around them.
Even if you're freaked out on the inside, keep your actions calm and collected outside.It means talking at a normal pace and volume, remembering to breathe, and carrying a conversation.Just be yourself!If you're usually quiet or reserved, don't suddenly start chatting nonstop.Try not to get tongue-tied or silent around your crush if you talk a lot.You will end up being mean or hurting your crush if you try to hide your feelings.If you know they're self-conscious about their weight, don't say something like "WOW, you look like you've gained a few!"If you are struggling to act normal or nervous around them, try taking a few deep breaths to calm your nerves.The sensation of the air in and out of your nostrils is what you should be focused on.
Step 3: If you can't hide your feelings, give yourself some distance.
It's best to spend less time with that person if you think you have a crush.If they can detect your romantic feelings, things could be awkward for you.You don't want to run into them outside homeroom if you go to the party or change your hallway route.You can still give yourself space if you're in the same class.If you want to ask someone else to be your lab partner, sit at a different table.Don't make it obvious that you're not close to each other.Don't run away if you see them walking towards you.Keep walking and smile back.
Step 4: Spending time doing things you enjoy will distract you.
If you spend more time alone at home, you will be more focused on your crush.Take your mind off your feelings and find fun ways to fill your time.If you want to teach yourself a new hobby, for example, make plans with different friends so your weekend is completely booked.It will make you a more cultivated person if you focus on yourself.Win-win!If you still find yourself checking your phone while you're with your friends or doing another activity, try disabling it so you don't get notified if they text you or unfollow you on social media.
Step 5: If you don't want to talk about it, journal your feelings.
Maybe you don't want anyone to know about your crush, but you also want to keep it a secret.Write down your emotions in a journal.What you like about your crush, how they make you feel, what you wish would happen are all things you can note.Don't hold back, your journal is only for your eyes.Write whatever comes to mind, as long as your thoughts flow freely.If you want, you can type out your thoughts in a Microsoft Word document on your laptop or phone.You can journal as often as you want.You can either set aside time every day to do it or write when the inspiration strikes.You could just journal after a run-in with your crush.
Step 6: If you feel comfortable, tell your friend about your secret crush.
If you don't want to tell your crush you should open up to a friend who you trust.You have to stay between the 2 of you if you want to tell anyone else.Let the gushing begin.Start the conversation with something like, "I have something important I want to tell you but you have to promise not to let anyone know, okay?"You can have these conversations in a private place, like in your bedroom or the car.You do not want anyone to hear who isn't supposed to.If your friends have a reputation of being unable to keep things to themselves, don't tell them about your crush.Who you tell is up to you.Talk about your crush to your parents or siblings if you're worried about accidentally spilling your secret.They can give you advice on how to deal with crushes of their own.
Step 7: It is fun to fantasize about having a crush.
It isn't all bad to crush someone.It can be very exciting.You can dream about the perfect date with your special someone if you allow yourself to feel the butterflies in your stomach.You can embrace your new romantic side by listening to love songs, watching romantic movies, or reading sappy poetry.Schedule time to think about your crush as silly as it sounds to prevent it from consuming your time and life.Set a timer for 20 minutes before bed.Turn your attention to something else after the 20 minutes are over.
Step 8: Put things in perspective by coming up with a list of their flaws.
When you have a crush, you tend to start thinking of them as the perfect person, which makes your obsession even worse, and it makes it hurt even more if they reject you.Think about whether they are into horseback riding like you are or if they dated your best friend last year.When you feel like you're getting carried away, keep the list on your phone or write it on a piece of paper.Regardless of how picky or insignificant those characteristics seem, the "flaws" can be whatever makes them less than your ideal person.You prefer someone taller than you if your crush is exactly your height.
Step 9: They can talk about themselves with a lot of open-ended questions.
It's important to keep the conversation going when you're flirting.People like to talk about themselves.Ask your crush questions about what they did last weekend, who their favorite band is, and how they like to spend their free time.Don't forget to ask questions that require more than a "yes" or "no".If you could be an animal, what would you be?"Would you like to be a cat?""What do you think about the book we're reading?""Do you like the book?"Don't ask a lot of questions.A lot of questions will feel like an interview.When it feels natural, ask them questions about the topic of the conversation.Ask if they love pizza, for example, "What are your favorite pizzas?"Instead of asking "What's your favorite song?"
Step 10: If you're too shy to ask them out, drop hints.
You are not the one who will make the first move.You can include signs in your next conversation to get them to do the asking.If the two of you are talking about your favorite movies and you mention one that you're looking forward to seeing in theaters, say, "I really want to see that but none of my friends will go with me."If they do not pick up on your hints, don't be discouraged.It doesn't always work, that's the thing about being subtle.It works both ways.They might want you to ask them out if they're dropping hints about hanging out.
Step 11: Before asking them out, have a specific date, time, and place in mind.
It's vague and likely means that it won't happen.They can either say yes or no if you know exactly what you want to do.If they aren't free at the time that you suggested, give them another chance.If it seems like they're blowing you off, take the hint.Say "How about the following weekend?" if you want to go bowling on Friday and they say they're busy.Say something like "Okay, well just let me know the next time you're free!" if they are still busy.
Step 12: They can be invited to a group outing or party.
Ask them to hang out with you and your friends or go to the football game with a bunch of people from English class if you aren't ready for a one-on-one date.It allows them to see you in your natural state, surrounded by your friends.Ask "Hey, Sarah is having a pool party Saturday" if your friend is throwing a party.Do you want to go?You might not get much face time with your crush on group outings.If you want to get drinks for everyone or chat away from the group, it's a good idea to pull them aside for a few minutes.It is very subtle to invite someone to a party or hangout with a bunch of other people.If they don't know you're interested in them, increase your flirting during the event to make it clear.
Step 13: If you're feeling brave, ask them out.
Even in the world of dating and crushes, with great risk comes great reward.If you are 99% sure they're into you or if you simply are ready to go for it, you can ask them on a date.Sending flowers, writing "Will you go out with me?" in chalk on their driveway, or serenading them with a romantic song are some examples.It will make you stand out and prove how much you like them.You can get inspiration by looking up promposals online or using the #promposal hashtag.These are usually very over-the-top.Adapt them to fit you.They might say no.It could be embarrassing if you ask them out publicly.
Step 14: The 5-year rule reminds you of what's important.
If you're asking yourself if a little crush will make a difference in your life, the answer should be no.It is a very small blip in the scheme of things.You have to accept that it's not meant to be, even if you think you lost the love of your life.Instead of asking "What will matter in 5 years?", focus on your education or career.If you think your rejected crush will matter in 5 years, ask yourself why you feel that way.Do you think there's no one else for you?You can list the reasons why your thinking is irrational.
Step 15: Put the positive Affirmations where you can see them.
It's hard to not feel like you weren't good enough for your crush.You can remind yourself of how awesome you really are by writing down uplifting quotes on sticky notes.Hang them on your bathroom mirror or closet door.It's a good idea to change the background of your phone.You will see it when you get a text message or check the time.You can find positive thoughts with a quick search on the internet.You can use the quotes on your board to refer to when you're feeling down.
Step 16: You have to surround yourself with people who love you.
Don't withdraw if you want to take time for yourself and cry.Your friends and family will be there to support you.Spending time with people who care about you will make you feel better about yourself, and will distract you from the sting of rejection.Say yes if your friends ask you to join them for a night out, even if it's the last thing you want to do, or call your mom just to talk.If you're struggling, ask your friends and family to write down some of their favorite things about you in a list and look at it whenever you need a confidence boost.Don't use socializing and activities to completely avoid your pain.There is a balance of social and alone time.
Step 17: If you can't move on after 4 to 6 weeks, you should get professional help.
It is normal to be sad or hurt after being rejected, but it is not normal if you are depressed.If you want to move on, you need to make an appointment with a therapist or Psychiatrist.If you have a chemical imbalance like depression, a Psychiatrist can prescribe medicine.You can find a therapist by contacting your insurance provider.They will give you a list of doctors who will only require you to pay a small copay.You should get help if you're feeling suicidal.You can call the emergency room or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline.