When you don't want to have sex, you should never have it.It is possible that you feel pressured to have sex by your spouse, partner, friends, or stranger.With clear communication, an understanding of your feelings about sex, and strategies to handle it when the pressure is too much, you can successfully deal with being pressured to have sex.
Step 1: Be direct and firm.
It is the best way to deal with being pressured to have sex, whether it is a stranger or someone you know.Doing this makes it clear that you don't want to have sex and want them to stop pressuring you.Phrases like, "I don't know about this" or "Maybe we should not" are not good.Your meaning can be misconstrued.You could say, "When I say no, I mean it."Don't try to change my mind.I will let you know when I am willing.When you ask me to have sex so often, I feel pressured and uncomfortable.Please stop.Keep saying no if they keep pushing.The technique is called the "broken record"The person can't continue pressing if they look like a jerk.
Step 2: You can say no with your body language.
Your body language says something different when you say something.Use your tone of voice, posture, and other non-verbal signals to stop them from pressuring you to have sex.Your message will be clear if you tell them and make sure their actions match your words.Stand straight and tall.Relax your shoulders and hold your head up.This posture will make you feel more confident.If you have to, take a couple of steps back and put some space between you and the person.The person has eyes.Speak using a clear, calm, firm voice without smiling.
Step 3: Leave the situation.
The person doesn't stop pressuring you even when you say "no"Leave the situation as quickly as possible in these cases.Leaving can lower the intensity of the moment and give the other person a chance to think rationally about what they are doing.Go to the bathroom or get a bottle of water.Keep a distance between you and the person if you go back to the situation.Lying isn't usually recommended.If it is the only way to get away from someone who will keep pressuring you for sex, then lie.You might look at your phone and say that you have to leave.My mom just told me to come home.
Step 4: Don't be vague about what you want.
If you play hard to get when you want sex, your partner may think you're trying to force it, even if you really mean no.The pressure to have sex can be eliminated if you are clear about what you want.Make sure your actions are in line with what you say.When you continue to kiss the person, you send mixed signals about what you want to do.If you want to have sex, you should be clear about it.If you don't know if you want to have sex or not, you should be clear about that.Make sure that you are on the same page by talking about it.If you enjoy playing hard to get, talk to your partner and set up a safe word to use when you don't want sex.
Step 5: Have a good conversation.
It's a good idea to talk to your significant other or friends to handle their pressure.Tell me what your feelings are.Speak honestly and listen to what they have to say about it.If you have this conversation, it will clear up any miscommunication and help you deal with sex.Try to have the conversation in a place that is private and quiet.Turn off your electronic devices or put them on vibrate.Don't just talk.Listen to what the other person is saying.Let them explain how they feel about the situation.Make sure you ask questions to understand what they are saying.You may want to come to an agreement for what you do when your partner wants their needs met and you aren't in the mood and vice versa.It's important to be clear about your expectations.
Step 6: Tell your reasons.
You don't have to give a reason.If your significant other is pressuring you for sex, it will help if you explain to them why you don't want to have sex.You're letting your partner know why you made the decision.You could say to a friend, "I don't feel like I'm ready for sex at this point in my life" or "My religion is important to me."I want to get married.If you have a sexual relationship with your spouse or partner, you might say, "I'm not feeling very sexual because of all the stress I have."The person should stop pressuring you once you have explained it.If you don't give a brief explanation to a partner you care about, they might feel confused and rejected.
Step 7: Increase your self-esteem.
It will be easier for you to have sex if you feel good about yourself.You will be less likely to think that having sex will make you look cooler or that your spouse will love you more.Make a list of all the good things about you that don't involve sex and tell yourself, "whether I have sex or not, I am an attractive, cool person."You could say that you are caring, good-looking, and athletic.You can spend time with people that make you feel good.
Step 8: Understand how you feel about sex.
When someone pressures you to have sex, it's important to understand what your personal beliefs and feelings are about it.It will help you explain to someone why you don't want to have sex.What sex means to you should be in a journal.When you think it's okay to have sex, tell me what your feelings should be.There are reasons you don't want to have sex right now.If you are not comfortable with your body right now, don't write 'I'm too busy'.If you have been ridiculed or shamed in the past, you might be avoiding sex to avoid rejection.How you feel about sex has been influenced by your beliefs.It is possible that your religious or spiritual beliefs affect how you view sex.
Step 9: Know what you can and can't do.
Think about where you draw the line with sex.It's important to know your boundaries to deal with being pressured to have sex.You can communicate your limits to others if you are clear in your mind.There will be no confusion or misunderstandings.Put a check next to those you are okay with doing on a list of sexual and intimate situations.You might be okay with kissing, hugging, and cuddling, but don't want to do anything after that.You could say to your partner, "I like it when we hug and cuddle."I want to keep doing that.I am not ready to move past that.
Step 10: Sexual harassment can be exposed.
If you have already told someone you don't want to have sex and they continue to bother you, it may be sexual harassment.You should tell the person to stop.You should tell someone who is in charge.It can be considered harassment if the person is making sexual comments that make you feel uncomfortable and you have told them to stop.You could tell the person that what they are doing is sexual harassment.If you can, avoid the person or leave the area when they come around.If you limit your contact with this person, you can deal with them.Say to your boss, "I need to talk to you about someone that is bothering me."I believe it is sexual harassment.
Step 11: If you have been sexually assault, report it.
If someone pressures you into having sex or doing something sexual when you don't want to, you should report it.Whether it is a stranger, your spouse, or anyone else, you have the right to say no and to have your wishes respected.If someone coerced you into a sexual act, tell someone.If you say no this time, the person should stop.It doesn't mean that you always want to have sex.Tell someone you trust what has happened.Ask them to be with you when you report it if you are nervous about it.As soon as possible, report it to the authorities.It will be easier for the authorities to investigate.A crisis or trauma counselor can be reached.They can help you deal with what happened and move on.
Step 12: Tell someone you have been a victim of sexual abuse.
Sexual abuse can be considered when someone pressures you into sex more than once.If someone makes you have sex when you don't want to, tell them you trust them.Don't try to keep what's happening a secret.The best way to stop it is to tell someone you know what's going on.They can help you stop it.You can learn how to recover from abuse by seeing a therapist or counselor.