It can be hard to sort out how you feel in a relationship.This is normal if you are struggling with mixed feelings towards a partner.Take some time to think about how you are feeling.Are you attracted to this person?Are you willing to commit?Do you feel close?Be aware of what you're feeling and why as you move through the relationship.Consider your own feelings if you're still torn.Is there a reason you're not happy?What can you do to change it?You should be able to sort out some feelings in a relationship with a little time and reflection.
Step 1: Allow things to progress slowly.
It's important to have patience if you're unsure of how you feel.If you're uncertain how you feel, don't push for a premature commitment.If feelings are mixed, it's important that you let things develop at their own pace.You should maintain your own schedule.If you don't know how you feel about someone, you should not sacrifice your own time and needs for that person.Keep up with your hobbies and social obligations as you figure out your feelings.Do not worry if you haven't settled into relationship status yet.You shouldn't try to push for commitment when you're unsure of how you feel, and there is no shame in being in a relationship gray area for a while.You should take care of yourself as well.Get adequate rest and eat right.Take care of yourself.
Step 2: You should keep busy with your own interests.
You want to be yourself with this person.You should keep up with your hobbies and interests.This person might fit into your world.This can help you decide if the romance works for you.Make it clear what you value.If you like to stay in on Fridays, invite your partner over.You can see how he or she fits into your world.You should keep up with your own interests.Don't stop going to the book club if your partner invites you somewhere else.Make sure your partner supports your interests and allows you to have fun.This is a good sign that this relationship can fit into your life.
Step 3: Try to have fun.
It is important to have fun in a relationship.It's difficult to stay with someone if you don't have fun.You and your partner need to enjoy each other's company.Try to have fun with your partner.See if you feel more secure.This may be a bad sign for the relationship if you're having trouble having fun.Pick something you both enjoy doing because the definition of fun varies from person to person.If you both love comedy, you can go see a show together.It is possible to invite your partner to social events with your friends.See if your partner's presence affects the group in a positive or negative way.Does your partner make socializing more fun?Does he or she fit in your world?
Step 4: Sex can fuel feelings of intimacy.
If you're having mixed feelings, you may want to try to calm them.Sex is often used to force feelings of intimacy.Sex won't lead to feelings of emotional intimacy with another person.Sex will not cure your feelings.
Step 5: Take a break
A break can help if you can't figure out how you feel and you've been with your partner for a while.It is possible that you need to experience personal growth outside of the relationship.You may want to reignite the romance eventually.Set clear boundaries if you decide to take a break.Make it clear to your partner that you won't be allowed to pursue other relationships or have sex during the break.You should decide if the break has a set end point or not.Before getting back together after a break, be careful to assess your feelings.You should tell yourself how you feel.Do you miss the person?Do you feel sad for them?Is it possible that you have grown as a person while they were away?Getting back together is a good idea if that is the case.It may be a good idea to move on if you felt freer and happier in your partner's absence.
Step 6: Discuss your feelings with someone.
It may be a good idea to be open with your partner if you're in a serious relationship.If you want to avoid the relationship ending, set aside time to talk out the problem and try to find a solution.Before you have a relationship talk, let your partner know."I've been grappling with some confusing feelings, and I'd like to talk tonight when you get off work."As you express yourself, focus on the present moment.Bringing up things from the past will confuse you.Focus on how you are feeling right now.I have been having mixed feelings about our future.I would like to know how you are feeling about this issue.You should listen as much as you talk.Allow your partner to express his or her feelings to you.If your partner feels the same way, the two of you will have to assess the relationship's future.Try to understand what your partner is saying.If necessary ask clarifying questions.Leave the conversation with an idea of what to do next.You can decide to take a break.Maybe you want to see a therapist together.You can decide to end the relationship.
Step 7: Eventually, make a decision about the relationship.
You will have to make a decision after awhile.If you want to continue to pursue this relationship, you need to consider whether your feelings are genuine.If you find that you aren't invested enough, it may be a good idea to try to befriend someone else.Mixed feelings can occur in healthy relationships.If you decide to move forward, don't be alarmed by uncertainty.
Step 8: Consider the attraction.
Most romantic relationships rely on attraction.You'll become intimate with someone if you're in a relationship.Think about the level of attraction you feel for this person.Think about how you feel about the person.Are you attracted?Do you think it's compatible?There is a chance for a romantic relationship here.The deciding factor should not be mutual attraction.It is sometimes similar to romantic attraction when friends feel mutual attraction towards one another.You may miss a friend when he or she is gone.You should try to determine if the attraction you feel for this person is physical or romantic.Do you enjoy laughing and smiling with this person?Are you looking forward to dates and getting together?Do the two of you share the same interests and passions?This could be a good place to start a romance.Evaluate whether the fun you have together feels romantic if you're having mixed feelings.People make each other laugh and have fun.This relationship may be better for friendship if you don't feel romantic during fun times.
Step 9: Do you feel close?
You should begin to feel close to that person as you spend time with them.You should be able to talk about your feelings with this person.This person may not be a good romantic partner for you if you're struggling to feel close or close to someone.
Step 10: Common goals are what you should look for.
It is important for a romantic relationship to have common goals.This helps differentiate a relationship from a friendship.Friends may not have the same goals.If the two of you are compatible, a romantic partner should have the same goals.Think about longterm goals.Do you and this person have the same ambitions?Do you think there will be a similar future for marriage and children?When it comes to navigating a romantic relationship, these things are important.It's possible that you're having mixed feelings because of your views in these areas.This relationship may be better transitioned into a friendship.You should think about your beliefs as well.Do you have the same views on politics, religion, and moral values as this person?Some shared values are important in a relationship.This may be where the mixed feelings are coming from if you and this person disagree a lot.
Step 11: Do you like the person?
In a romantic relationship, you tend to have a lot of thoughts about another person.They may be put on a pedestal and see their quirks as charming.They have superior skills, intelligence, and personality.You don't get as enchanted with a person in friendship.You may be better off being friends with this person if this type of infatuation is absent.
Step 12: Accept emotions can be difficult.
People need to reconcile their feelings completely.You may feel like you don't need to have many feelings towards a person.Mixed feelings are not uncommon.Most of the relationships you have will have some degree of mixed feelings.It is possible for mixed emotions to reflect maturity.You are able to see both good and bad qualities of a person.You love your boyfriend for who he is.He's so unpredictable that you find yourself annoyed.Accept that there will be mixed feelings in a relationship.This is a good sign if you still want to be with someone.You want to be with another person even though you're not perfect.
Step 13: Take a look at your fears and feelings.
There may be reasons for you to be prone to mixed feelings.You may find that you doubt yourself frequently if you have a lot of underlying fears.Have you ever been rejected by an important person?It's possible that you have a fear of rejection.It's possible to protect yourself from getting invested with frequent mixed feelings.Are you a person who is afraid?If you don't feel good enough for love or commitment, this will affect almost all of your actions.You may be afraid of getting involved in a relationship.
Step 14: Pick out your own needs and wants.
To assess whether a relationship is right for you, you need to know what you want.You should know what you want from a partner.Do you know if this person can provide that?Think about how you react to events in your life.How can you be supported emotionally?What do you need from someone else?It is possible to make a list of attributes that are important to a romantic partner.Should this person be able to fulfill these romantic attributes for you?