Even though you love your parents a lot, they annoy you sometimes.If you have a fight with your parents, calm down before you talk to them again.It is easier to tell your parents when something is wrong if you talk to them often.Spending time with your parents is a good idea to improve your relationship.
Step 1: You can feel better if you spend some time alone.
Go to your room, sit outside, or go for a walk after a fight.Think about what happened and how you feel about it.This gives you time to process your feelings.Light exercise can make you feel better.You could do yoga in your room.
Step 2: Take deep breaths.
An argument with your parents can cause your heart to race.You can relax this response with deep breathing.Place your hand on your stomach.Slowly pull air out of your lungs.Under your hand, your stomach should expand.For a few breaths, do this.Hold your breath as you count to 5, then inhale to a 5 count.Slowly exhale to a 5 count.Pick up and repeat 5 times.
Step 3: Meditate.
It helps calm your mind and body.Stand in a comfortable position.Close your eyes and concentrate on your breath.Bring your thoughts back to you.Count your breaths to keep your mind from wandering.If you like, repeat a chant to yourself, such as "peace," "calm," or "relax."
Step 4: You can use your journal to process your thoughts.
It is normal to feel upset, frustrated, and angry after a fight with your parents.Journaling can help you make sense of what happened.Write down what happened and what you think about it.You can keep your journal on your computer.
Step 5: When you are both calm, pick a time.
It is difficult to have a good conversation when you are upset.Wait until you and your parents are able to cool down.Discuss how you feel and what you need from them.It is helpful to have a time to talk.You could say to your parents, "I really need to talk to you."It is best to wait until another time if you know your parents had a bad day.
Step 6: Listen to it.
It might be hard, but do your best to listen to your parents.Try to figure out what their main reasons are for feeling that way.This will help you understand what you need to do.Try to remember what your parents said when you stop talking.It sounds like you think I am dating someone who is too old for me, or that I will fall behind on my school work if I go out on the weekend.
Step 7: How do you want your parents to understand you?
It seems like your parents don't understand you when you're in.If you have a hard time opening up, this might be true.To help your parents understand you better, tell them how you feel.Discuss what you hope they will do to help.I feel overwhelmed with school right now.My friends are hanging out without me because I can't go to parties.I know you worry about me, but I am old enough to make responsible decisions.You could say, "I know my grades have gone down a lot this semester, and I'm just as upset as you guys."I have been depressed for the past few months, so it is hard to concentrate.I have trouble keeping up with my assignments.I don't know where to start when it comes to making positive changes.I am worried that you will punish me instead of helping me.
Step 8: When your parents say something upsetting, respond calmly.
It is important that you keep your cool when your parents say the wrong thing.They are more likely to listen if you don't yell or snap at them.Let your parents talk if they are being mean or rude.You should calmly state how they made you feel.If you failed an important test, your parent will yell, "You should be embarrassed by this grade!"It would be very sad to hear that you are being so lazy.You could say, "I feel really bad about this grade, and it hurts my feelings that you would call me lazy."I studied hard for the test, but I didn't understand it.They might say, "You're going to get with this loser and ruin your future, but it hurts my feelings that you think that way."Please don't assume the worst of me because I'm a smart person.
Step 9: You should try to see things from your parents point of view.
It is possible that your parents are trying to keep you out of trouble.It can make them strict, which is annoying.Think about how you would feel if your parents were unreasonable.Look for positive motives for their decisions.Your parents will not let you go to a music festival with your friends.If everyone you know is going, that can be frustrating.They are only making that decision because they are worried about getting hurt at the festival.Your parents might annoy you about your schoolwork.They are just trying to help you succeed in school and set yourself up for a bright future.
Step 10: You have better communication if you talk about casual topics with your parents.
If you have been arguing a lot, it might be hard to talk to your parents.You can talk about easy topics with your parents if this is the case.Try to have a conversation with them every day.You will be able to communicate with them better with this.Let's say that you and your parents enjoy watching sports.You can discuss the team's performance or which players you like the best.Tell your parents about your pet.Talk about what you are watching, studying, or doing over the weekend.
Step 11: You can build your parent's trust by following the rules.
Your parents set rules to help keep you safe.Do your best to follow your parents' rules.It will help build trust and show them you are reliable.Your parents will be more willing to change the rules if they trust you.
Step 12: Your parents will know you are reliable if you keep all of your promises.
It is important that you follow through on your promise to your parents.Call to tell them where you are, complete your chores, and do your homework are all included in this.Do what you say so your parents can trust you.For example, if you tell your parents that you will clean your room, they will stop nagging you.It's important that you clean it.They think you need to be pestered more to do things.Something might prevent you from fulfilling your promise.Go to your parents and tell them what's going on.If you talk to them first, they will understand.
Step 13: Make sure you check in with your parents.
When they don't know where you are, your parents worry about you.It is a habit to text or call your parents when you are not at home.Let them know where you are and that you're okay.This may make them feel more comfortable.If you are going to see a movie, you might take a photo with your friend in front of the theater.Text it to your parents to let them know you are going to the movies with Alex.Text as soon as the movie ends.
Step 14: When you make a mistake, tell your parents.
Everyone makes mistakes, so you might feel scared when you mess up.Tell your parents what happened.Talk to your parents when you realize you messed up.Tell them what you plan to do in the future to make things better.I am going to lose points because I forgot that my research paper was due today.I feel like I have been working too hard to keep my grades up.I submitted my late paper and am going to keep a planners so this won't happen again.
Step 15: You should spend quality time with your parents.
When you are a teen, it is normal to drift apart from your parents.Spending more time with them can help you feel more comfortable talking to them about problems, and it might show them you deserve more freedom.You can build a strong relationship with your parents if they do fun activities with you at least once a week.Go bowling, play mini golf, or watch a movie with your family.