It's important for parents and caregivers to know if a child is upset, fearful, or confused when they are unruly.Handling an unruly child takes skill and planning, but you can work with the child so that she learns self-control and you feel more calm.The child's behavior is the problem not the child.Make sure that unruly children feel appreciated and that you see them in a positive light despite their disruptive behavior.You should never hit or spank a child, and you shouldn't shake or hit a baby.
Step 1: There should be a set of family rules.
The first thing you should do is to create rules around the behaviors that are causing the most disruption.The rules for the child can be developed by the main caregivers.If your child spends a lot of time with another person, you should work with that person on the rules.Make sure the rules are easy to understand.The rule could be worded "no hitting" for a child with physical aggression.
Step 2: Provide your child with alternatives to bad behavior.
Replacing undesirable behavior with something new will help children learn to control themselves.You can try a variety of alternatives depending on what you're working on.Think, choose.Stop the current activity, reflect on what you are thinking, and consider consequences for yourself and others before making a decision.Personal time-out.Before you return to the situation, leave the room and take a few minutes to calm down.Talk about how you are feeling.You can tell a person how you are feeling by naming your feelings.Deep breaths.If you're overwhelmed by feelings, take several deep breaths.
Step 3: There are meaningful rewards and consequences.
Rewarding the child when they follow the rules is important.The consequences should be small and not involve hitting the child.The consequences should be appropriate.Positive reinforcement of good behavior is very powerful.It doesn't need to be expensive toys or outings.Spending time with a child playing a game is an inspiring reward.Every child is rewarded with praise from you.Minor consequences should be kept in mind when it comes to consequences.It is possible to assign an additional chore or docking allowance for older children.A brief time-out for younger children would be more appropriate.
Step 4: Take the time to discuss the rules with your child.
You don't want the child to have a hard time figuring out what the rules mean.Don't focus on the bad behavior of the child.If you want your child to come to see you instead of hitting someone, tell them that you feel angry.If you can role-play with your child, they will become upset and exhibit bad behavior.
Step 5: You can model the behaviors that you want your child to do.
Showing children how to behave is one way to help them understand.If you and your child agree that taking a few minutes alone to calm down is the best way to avoid hitting, then you can do this yourself.
Step 6: Make sure the rules are followed right away.
If your child breaks a rule, move to the consequence immediately.You are less likely to see a behavioral change in your child if you wait until later or only enforce the rule occasionally.When children follow the rules by using replacement behavior you have worked on with them, you should praise and reward them immediately.Changes in a child are not seen by parents who do not enforce the rules consistently.
Step 7: Talk to all caregivers about the rules.
If your child spends weekends with another parent or after-school person, you should talk to that person about the system you have created with the child.Consistency will help your child be more successful.
Step 8: Understand the facts.
In young children, temper tantrums are normal.They can last for a few minutes or for hours and can be difficult for the child and the caregivers.A child having a bad day can scream, yell, and cry, but also roll around on the floor, run around the house, or pound the wall with fists.There are many reasons why temper tantrums can be caused, from being tired or hungry to not knowing what words to use.
Step 9: When a tantrum starts, stay calm.
It is important for you to stay calm when your child gets angry.It will make the situation worse for both of you if you become upset.It is common for children to have tempers and this will pass.
Step 10: Don't argue or yell.
Don't give in to the child's wishes.When the child needs to learn how to recognize and express the feelings he is having is when you should teach it.It won't work if you argue and yell.Even though it can be frustrating to be around a child's temper, arguing and yelling just creates a power struggle.Being calm is the best.
Step 11: Make sure your child is okay.
Children can put themselves in danger when they have a temper.Make sure your child doesn't hurt herself.Keep an eye out for the child.It's important that no one else gets hurt by the behavior of the child nearby.
Step 12: Talk calmly to the child.
If the child is old enough to comprehend, then you can explain to them what you want them to stop doing and how you would like the kid to change their behavior.
Step 13: A child should be moved to a quiet place.
If your child isn't able to stop, you can tell them to be quiet for a minute.The time out period should be ended once the child has achieved one minute of silence.
Step 14: When the tantrum is over, show your love.
It is important for children to be loved after they have had a bad day.You should stay calm and express your love for the child, while also praising them.The child should be given something easy to do if the tantrum was caused by something.If the child got upset after trying to color a difficult picture, remove that picture and choose something simpler for them to work on.
Step 15: There is a way to prevent tantrums at home.
Spending time with your child talking about how to recognize emotions is a good way to learn about what causes a child to have a temper.It's important that your child has toys that are appropriate for their age.You can talk with your child about expressing their feelings in a positive way.
Step 16: It's a good idea to prevent tantrums at home.
If your child is tired, don't go out if you are out.You need to have snacks with you as well.Talk to the child about what is happening so that you can include them in what you are doing.Even if it is standing in a long line at the bank, help the child feel that he is participating in what you are doing.
Step 17: Talk to the child's primary caregivers.
Children are not always able to control their feelings.Talk to the child's primary caregivers about what to avoid, what rules the children are accustomed to, and how you should enforce the rules when their usual caregivers are not there.It's important that the rules are enforced consistently by everyone who takes care of the children.Find out what the child is expected to do and how the parents want you to handle it.
Step 18: Don't be a parent.
Even if you prefer to do things differently than a child's parents, you should follow their rules.Children need to hear consistent messages about what is expected of them, and they need consistent outcomes when they break the rules.They become confused and will act weird more often.Giving in to a child's demands, including things like eating too much candy or not going to bed on time, can upset parents and confuse children.If you don't use good boundaries for your children, their behavior will go downhill quickly.
Step 19: Children are encouraged to engage in activities.
If you are taking care of children for someone else, be sure to spend time with them doing something fun and interesting because boredom is a common cause of misbehavior.Children are less likely to become unruly if they are busy.It's a good idea to find out what the child enjoys doing.Children can engage in arts and crafts projects, games and playing with toys.
Step 20: Children should be kept from being hungry and tired.
Hunger and fatigue are the root causes of unruly behavior.You should know the nap schedules for younger children and have appropriate snacks and meals on hand.When children have enough to eat and go to bed on time, they behave better.
Step 21: Use positive discipline to stay calm.
If a child behaves badly, it is important for you to stay calm, and to bend down so that you are on the child's level.Tell the child what is wrong with them.Tell the child what you would like them to do.Remember to use the rules and consequences that were discussed with the child's parent.Don't hit a child.Don't hit a baby.
Step 22: A child is very upset.
distraction and comfort are the next options if the child is not being reasoned with.Hugs, favorite toys, teddy bears, snacks, and new activities can help the child feel better.