It can be difficult to not care what others think.There are many steps you can take to become more confident, form your own opinions, and develop your style.Don't assume that other people are watching and judging your every move, and try not to put too much stock in their opinions.Use the facts and evidence to form your opinions.It is better to make decisions based on your values than on what others think.No one has the final word on style because taste is subjective.
Step 1: Accept who you are.
Accept aspects of yourself that you can't change and be yourself.Don't change who you are just to please others.You can make a list of all the things that you like about yourself.Since they may think of things you don't, you can ask your friends and family to help build your list.Think of specific steps you can take to improve.When someone makes a statement, I should pause before responding and think about what to say before saying it, so keep this list on your mirror or closet door.It should be read at least once a day.Accept that you can't change who you are.If you wish you were taller, that's not something you can change.Try to think of things that are nice about being shorter, like the fact that you won't be bumping your head.Think of things that other people would envy and want to copy.
Step 2: Rather than fearing embarrassment,visualize successful outcomes.
Try not to think about what other people will think if you do something wrong.If you find yourself reliving embarrassing moments, remember that you have accomplished something.Break down your goals into smaller pieces.If you want to be more confident when having conversations, break the goal into small parts: maintain eye contact, listen to the other person, nod when they make a point, ask them questions, and offer honest responses based on your own experiences.If an outcome doesn't go according to plan, try to learn from it.Write down what you would do differently next time.No one is great at everything, especially on the first attempt, so remember that everything is a learning process.
Step 3: You don't want to second guess every step you take.
Don't assume that everyone is judging everything you do.If you get lost in a cycle of self-doubt, remember that anyone worth your time has more to worry about than you do.Mistakes serve a purpose and are a necessary part of growth.When you start to overthink or second guess yourself, do your best to notice.You should stop over-analyzing.Learning from your mistakes is a good thing if you focus on positive growth.
Step 4: Don't let someone's negative judgement define you.
Don't view a negative judgement as a permanent fact and keep a balanced perspective.If you think there is truth in their judgement, use it as an opportunity to improve and not define you.Someone might say that you have a bad temper.If they don't know you at all, brush off their judgement.If they think you have a temper because you spend a lot of time with them, consider why.If you want to keep your cool, you need to develop strategies like counting and slowly breathing.
Step 5: Consider if the person judging you has good intentions.
If a person expresses an opinion of you that way, you can decide whether to take it to heart or brush it off.Do this person have my best interests in mind?Is this something I can work on to become a better person, or is it just a judgement that is meant to insult me?If someone you don't know says, "You never pay attention - you're so dumb," you would want to brush it off.Consider if you can empathise with the person's self-esteem issues.
Step 6: You can get the facts from multiple sources.
Try to find multiple sources when forming an opinion on a news topic.Try to include perspectives that challenge your own beliefs in the articles you read.If you want to gather your own information, try not to agree with what someone else thinks.Your parents might have an opinion on a story.If you search online, you can find articles on the subject from multiple news bureaus.You can form your own opinion after reading a few perspectives on the topic.
Step 7: Decide if a person is aware of a topic.
Don't get too concerned about what someone thinks, consider their expertise and how they express their opinion.If your teacher wrote a thesis about a historical event, you should value what they say over someone who doesn't know anything.Is someone informed about a subject speaking to you in a clear, thoughtful way?Are they just attacking your opinion for the sake of disagreeing with you?It is possible that someone has a personal motivation for feeling one way or another.
Step 8: faking an agreement to please others is not a good idea.
If you put time and thought into forming that opinion, don't be afraid to have an opinion that goes against the norm.Try to balance evidence with your instincts instead of conforming to others.Accept that not everyone will think the same way as you do.If you prefer dogs over cats, don't pretend to like cats more just to please your friends who think cats are better.Even if your friends prefer cats, you should form your own opinion.You should not compromise your core beliefs just for the sake of popularity, because it can be healthy to challenge them.A healthy dose of doubt can deepen your faith in the long run if you were raised in a religious tradition.It doesn't mean you should change your beliefs just because someone criticizes them.It is okay to disagree with people.You can respectfully listen to their opinion and express it in a non-challenging manner.Before moving forward, it is important to consider your goal.
Step 9: You need to get in touch with yourself.
When you're around a lot of people, there are similarities and differences in how you act.Try to think of what makes you who you are.Honesty, loyalty, and humor are character traits that are important to you.Ask your friends and family members to help you think of things.Take some time to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses.It is possible to develop an appreciation for what makes you unique.
Step 10: You can make decisions based on your own values.
Instead of doing what other people think is cool, make choices that are consistent with your priorities.If your friends want to go to a party and get drunk, but you have a soccer game the next day, then soccer is really important to you.It's important to be well rested and prepared for your game, instead of going to the party just to look cool.Do not feel like you have to defend yourself.
Step 11: You should represent yourself in ways that make you happy.
Think about how you can incorporate your interests, likes, and dislikes into your lifestyle choices.If you want to create a style that makes you happy, focus on it.If you like to mix and match patterns in your wardrobe, don't be afraid to wear what you love just because of what one person might think.Even if someone suggests you use trendier items or go for a more minimal look, decorate your apartment or room with knick-knacks that have sentimental value.If you can't stand the amount of stuff, then skip out on decorative objects.Go with what will make your space the best for you.
Step 12: To get in touch with your own style, create an inspiration folder.
If you want to find inspiration for your clothing style, check out fashion magazines.Put together a digital or paper "look book" or inspiration folder by saving or cutting out images that motivate you.Use your new library to assemble looks that make you feel confident.Signature items like a particular piece of jewelry, scarves, funky hats, or pattern can help put a unique stamp on your style.Think of an item or aesthetic element that makes you happy and expresses something you love about yourself.An anchor necklace and nautical stripes would be a unique touch if you love sailing or boats.
Step 13: You should remember that taste is subjective.
Remember that style opinion isn't the final word if someone says something about your taste.You might not like everything about their decor or fashion.Imagine how boring it would be if everyone wore the same clothes.It is great to dress in a way that expresses your individuality, but remember to consider degrees of appropriateness for every situation.Dressing professionally or in accordance with the dress code at work will probably earn you more respect than wearing a tee shirt and ripped jeans.
Step 14: Don't make judgments.
Staying connected with people is possible through social media.People have a lot of opportunities to judge your lifestyle choices.If you don't want people to criticize your clothes or image, share fewer selfies on social media.People who make you feel bad about yourself can be unfollowed or unfriended.