Extroverted people can experience shyness as well, which is why many people associate shyness with them.Being shy makes it hard for people to express their feelings.People who experience shyness because of fear of rejection and humiliation can't express their true feelings.There are ways to express yourself.
Step 1: You should get to know your crush.
Sometimes people don't know their crushes very well, because they develop them based on perception.To determine if you want to attempt a relationship with that person, you need to know your crush first.mutual friends to introduce youIn social group settings, have a conversation with him.Hobbies or interests are things that you have in common with him.
Step 2: Limit your interactions with your crush.
It is important to have other people around as a buffer while you get to know him.If you are suddenly overcome with shyness, there are other people who can talk to you.If you realize that your crush is not the type of person you want to date, being in a group setting gives you a way to distance yourself.
Step 3: First, be a friend.
If you want to express your feelings to your crush, you need to be his/her friend first.As you get to know each other, take information about him to build your friendship.Accept offers to hang out with your crush or attend an event where he will be whenever possible.Accept one offer and attend if it is difficult for you to put yourself in social situations.Stay as long as you can, without causing yourself too much stress.If you want to become more comfortable, practice this again, maybe once every few weeks.When you find something that reminds you of him, share your stories with him.You could say, "I saw that your favorite band is going on tour soon."Do you plan to go to a concert?Creating small talk, even when you feel shy, gives off the impression that you are friendly and personable.One tip is to prepare a mental list of recent events or experiences that you feel comfortable discussing, like a book you read or a restaurant where you ate.
Step 4: Do you want to tell your crush about your feelings?
You might feel more comfortable expressing your feelings in one way than in another, because each person is unique.Take some time to think about how you want to do it.You can tell him in person, which will give you the chance to see his reaction and overcome your fear of being vulnerable.He will know that you are serious.If you want to express your feelings in a letter or note, you can think through what you are going to say and save yourself embarrassment by not telling him in person.It's a good idea to bring it up in a phone conversation so you don't have to be in person.It stifles a bit of the awkwardness by not showing facial expressions or reactions.Writing in an email will allow you to think out what you want to say and put yourself out there without anyone else knowing.Let him know in a text message, but keep in mind that this will limit how much you can type in one message.The pressure of a face-to-face conversation can be avoided if you plan out what to say.It runs the risk of him not taking you seriously.
Step 5: Listen to what you have to say.
Once you have decided on the way in which you want to express your feelings to your crush, you need to practice it.You want to express your feelings in the way that feels most comfortable for you, even if you are writing a letter, email, or text message.Practice speaking what you want to say to yourself in the mirror, or have a trusted friend or family member pretend to be your crush.You need to practice so that you can say the words.You can rehearse by writing drafts of what you want to say until you find the right words.It's time for me to admit that I have stronger feelings for you than just friendship; you've been a great friend to me.I have to admit that I like you more than a friend.I've felt that way for a while.I want to take our friendship to the next level.
Step 6: Decide when you will tell your crush.
Giving yourself a deadline will help you stick to it.Prepare to have the conversation, mail the letter, send the text message, or whatever you planned to do in Step 4 to tell your crush about your feelings.It's a good idea to mark it on your calendar or agenda.It could be called "talk," "email," or "your crush's initials" so that no one will know what it is.If you start to have second thoughts, you could ask a trusted friend or family member to encourage you to do it.Get that person to encourage you to follow through and give you the tools you need to do it, such as putting the computer in front of you, or pulling up a new text message for you.
Step 7: Body language can be used to let your crush know how you feel.
When you spend time with him, use body language to hint at your true feelings for him.Body language allows you to communicate your feelings in a way that doesn't require words.Practice using body language with a trusted friend or family member to become more comfortable.To talk to him, lean in.When communicating, keep your body open and face him.Do not cross your chest with your arms.Keep it brief by gently touching him on the hand, arm, or shoulder.If he returns the same body language, watch it.
Step 8: Tell your crush about your feelings.
When you decide to tell your crush how you feel, be sure to follow through.You don't have to be afraid to have a "crutch" to help you through the conversation, such as tapping your fingers on your leg or clasping your hands together.If you are talking in person, having some kind of movement like this will help to calm your nerves.If you're going to tell your crush in person, find a place that's semi-private.If you need to leave or need a distraction, think of a place where other people will not be able to hear your conversation.If you chose one of the options, send your letter, email, or text message.If you are talking in person, make eye contact and say what you want to say.It doesn't have to be lengthy.Doing so efficiently is the best way to express your feelings.While telling your crush, be yourself.Put your personality into the language that you normally use.Being who you really are will calm your shyness.
Step 9: If your crush doesn't like you, be prepared with an appropriate response.
If your crush doesn't share your feelings, you need to say something to end the conversation and let him know that you will not hold a grudge.Being rejected is an important experience to have if you want to overcome shyness and social anxiety.That's alright.I hope that we can continue to be friends now that I have told you.Can we still be friends?I need to get going after this talk.I'll talk to you later.Thank you for talking with me.I'll catch up with you later, because my friend is waiting for me.
Step 10: You can find your voice.
It's important to find your own voice before you can overcome shyness in social interactions.You can identify things that make you unique.You can make observations of trends in what you write about in a diary or journal.You have the power to express yourself creatively.Write stories, poems, or songs, create paintings or drawings, take photographs, and play musical instruments.
Step 11: Do you know what causes your fear?
shyness is a personality trait and there is something that causes it.Take some time to identify what makes you shy.Is it a fear of being rejected?Are you afraid to offend someone?Is it difficult to ask for a raise for your benefit?Is it fear of being humiliated?Is it possible that you are afraid of being criticized?Is it a person who makes you shy?What is the reason?
Step 12: The worst-case scenario should be visualized.
Think about the worst-case scenario for any social situation that causes you anxiety.What will you do if that happens?How will you overcome that fear?What can you do to avoid the worst-case scenario?Who is to blame for the worst-case scenario?
Step 13: You can communicate and express your feelings.
People practice how they will act in a social setting.This helps build confidence.You can practice with a family member or close friend.If you want to see your facial expressions, practice by yourself in the mirror.If you want to say something, write it down and rehearse it.If you want to study how characters overcome social anxiety, watch movies or read books.
Step 14: When you begin to feel overcome with shyness, you need to develop a breathing exercise.
If you want to handle shyness or anxiety, you need to practice a breathing exercise.It will calm you and allow you to focus on the task at hand, which is expressing your true feelings.Inhale for a count of four through your nose.Hold the breath for a while.For a count of six, exhale the breath.Inhale for a count of four and exhale for four more.The nose should be used for your inhalation and exhalation.As necessary, repeat.Try to make your exhales longer than your inhales.This is a simple trick that can help you relax.
Step 15: Group settings are a good place to interact socially.
If you can't express yourself socially, getting involved in group interactions will be helpful.If you freeze up, there are more people involved in the conversation.You can practice expressing your feelings by talking to several people.It's easier to talk to people you trust if you spend time with them.There are ways to express yourself.If you have an interest in music, then talk about it.You are not talking about yourself to your conversation partner.
Step 16: Say what you're feeling.
Get into the habit of saying what you really feel as you practice and become more comfortable.It will help you to overcome shyness and build your confidence, and it will become a learned behavior for you.Let your friend know if they say something that offends you.Your former shy self needs to know if a line was crossed.Focus on using "I" statements so that he understands your feelings, and set goals for speaking up in certain situations.Set a goal to speak up for yourself if you find yourself being quiet and shy in the same situations.You could say that you are good at drawing.I would like to take on the illustrations.Continue to practice those goals.Continue speaking your mind.Give an opinion on where to hang out or what movie to see first.As you become more comfortable sharing your thoughts, take on more challenges, like letting a friend know when you are hurt.The most important thing to do is practice.