It's crucial that you understand what a perfect boyfriend means to you.Think about your values and goals.You can put yourself out there by getting involved in causes you care about, asking for help from friends you admire, and looking in all the right places.Learn to recognize the many forms of perfectness.
Step 1: The qualities that matter most to you are ranked.
Someone who is reliable, affectionate, and fair is what most people want.It's possible that your partner is flexible, creative, smart, energetic, organized, etc.Think of people who make you happy.Write down their qualities.Are you looking for these qualities in a partner?This is the time to be selfish about what you want.It's not what other people want.Evaluate your personality.Most people are happy with someone of the same personality, so rank your own qualities as well.
Step 2: List your goals.
In the next few years, think about what you want to achieve.How do you see your boyfriend fitting into this plan?Goals may include: work or school related accomplishments, working toward greater mental stability and happiness, starting a family, traveling, etc.Someone who won't impede any of these goals is what you'll want to find.If your goal is greater mental stability and happiness, but you meet a really handsome, smart, work oriented guy who neglects his own happiness and mental health, you might want to pass.Imagine the ideal length of the relationship.Do you want to have a good time this summer?A good boyfriend for the rest of the school?A future husband?You need to know which of your goals to protect.
Step 3: Take a good look at what you have.
A degree of sacrifice is involved in relationships.What are you willing to give up?Do you have a close relationship with your family?Is there an independent living space?Are you in a great friend group?Are you not willing to move?Do you need to agree on a political or religious issue?As you search for your perfect guy, this will guide you.If you want to stay in your hometown, it's a good idea to date someone who is also from there.If you want to be able to prioritize your career, you need to find someone who is equally career focused and willing to take on a more supportive role.
Step 4: You can check out your friends' friends.
Some of your friends know some guys you'll find perfect.You can spend time with your friends and organize activities for them to attend.Ask your friends to set you up with guys you like.Before you ask someone out, make sure they are one of your friends' favorites.
Step 5: You can get involved in activities that interest you.
Attend events that you are passionate about to find someone perfect for you.You'll meet people you have at least one thing in common with.Social spaces include gallery openings, poetry readings, concerts, protests, and religious gatherings.You should talk to several new people at every gathering.If you make friends, they will introduce you to eligible men.
Step 6: It's a good idea to check for stability.
You won't be able to tell if he's perfect for you right away, but do yourself a favor and look for a stable person.Look at how he treats others.If he's nice to you, but very critical of others, he might also be verycritical of you.He's probably a terrible boyfriend if he complains about his exes or refers to women as "hysterical".He's trying to manipulate you if he criticizes you.He talks about himself.Do you think he brags a lot?Is he telling stories in which he's the hero or the victim?These are not normal signs of instability.Don't be fooled by "too good to be true."He's probably manipulating your view of him if he seems perfect.
Step 7: You should look for interest.
If he seems stable, check to see if he's interested in you.You need to see signs of compatibility if he isn't attracted to you.Is he asking you questions?He's trying to learn about you if he does.His feet and hips are visible.Are they pointing at you?Are you in a group?These are unconscious signs that he's most interested in you.
Step 8: Ask him to leave.
If you're attracted to him, and you think he's stable, ask him out.Asking him if he wants to get a meal is one of the ways to ask him out.You can wait until he asks, but make sure to talk to him, smile at him and flirt with him while you wait.
Step 9: Notice how he makes you feel.
If you think you have found Mr.Check in with your feelings.How do you feel talking to him?It's good to have exciting and tingling feelings.It's important that you leave the conversations feeling good about yourself, like you are a good person who deserves to be happy.Are you capable of being around him?Strong?These are great signs.These are bad signs if he makes you feel nervous.
Step 10: Take note of his qualities that you didn't expect.
There are things you really like about your partner that you didn't put on your list.He may have a way of always being down for fun or he may be open with his emotions.If you meet someone who becomes the "new perfect", you'll be happy.
Step 11: You should settle for someone who makes you happy.
"Perfect" doesn't mean perfect.It means perfect for you.Look for a boyfriend who shares your values, has the qualities you most admire, makes you feel good, supports your goals, and treats you well.That's perfect.