Who is your favorite person?When he or she doesn't want you to know, it can be hard to tell who has been secretly sending you gifts.You need to use all the clues to find them.Look at any gifts they have sent you.You should ask around to find out who is crushing on you.Keep an eye out for potential admirers, and be aware of the people in your life.Be careful and be patient.If you want to talk to your secret admirer in person, try to be tactful and respectful of his or her privacy.
Step 1: Take the time to read their note.
If you received a physical note, like a handwritten letter in your locker, you can consider clues like the location, timing, handwriting, and tone.You will need to consider clues such as the screen name or email address, the tone and content of the message, and the timing if your admirer has approached you online through an anonymous email or chat message.Look at the handwriting on the note.Take the writing of people you know and compare it to the handwriting.Think about the person who sits next to you in English class.If you get an email from someone you don't know, look at the email address or screen name.The person may not have used a personal account to send you the message, but you can draw clues from the name he or she chose.
Step 2: Consider the gifts your admirer has given you.
Maybe you got a bouquet of flowers, a bag of candy, or a mix CD.Clues from the gift can be used to figure out who gave it to you.If your secret admirer gave you a plate of cookies, they like to bake them.Think about the people you know and whether or not they like baking.If you got a mix CD from your secret admirer, they probably cared about music.Consider the music lovers in your life.Keep an eye out for people who are always humming or have headphones on.Some of your admirer's favorite songs are included on the mix, so you might be able to identify him or her by her music taste.Ask the clerk who bought the item if you have a secret admirer.
Step 3: When and where your admirer contacted you should be considered.
Who would have been able to send the message at that time?Who would've had access to the place where you found the note or gift?The circumstances should give you a better idea of how your admirer works.It's a good chance that your secret admirer went to your school and saw you use your locker.If your secret admirer left a gift at your house, he or she could either know who you are or find out your address from someone else.If you suspect that a specific person is your secret admirer, but they were home sick from school on the day you found the note, then that person may not be the admirer.A friend may have been asked to place the note.The note may have been planted a day or two before you found it.
Step 4: Get more information when you respond.
Try to strike up a conversation if you received an anonymous email or chat message.If someone left a handwritten note for you, it's a good idea to leave a note of your own in the same place.You can communicate with your admirer via chat or email.Ask questions.If you don't want to be pushy, try to get your admirer to reveal his or her true identity.Personal notes should not be left out where anyone could find them.It reduces the chances of your admirer actually finding the note, but it also opens up the possibility of someone else using that information to mess with you.
Step 5: Look for patterns.
How do your admirers write?How often do you get in touch with him or her?Does he or she have quirks?You might be able to identify him or her by the figures of speech, unique spellings and references.Think about people that you know.Your admirer is giving himself away by using words that he uses in real-life conversations.Does your admirer say a lot of things?He or she may say "awesome" a lot during your chats or use the word "totally" to emphasize points in a handwritten note.Think about people who use that phrase a lot.Do your admirers make spelling mistakes?Do you know anyone who makes those spelling mistakes?A friend of yours always misspells "definitely" as "definetely."
Step 6: Look around you.
Is anyone talking to you more than usual or looking at you in a flirtatious way?Is someone who looks awkward around you trying to hide it?Try to notice if anyone is looking in your direction.If that is the case, pay more attention to them.Look into their eyes and smile.If the person shows any more signs of attraction, he or she could be your admirer.
Step 7: Ask people you know.
You can create a web of information to find your secret admirer.If your friends can give you clues, reach out to them.Even if they don't know who you are, they might have heard gossip that points you in the right direction.Some friends might give you unreliable information, gossip about your situation, or even forge "secret admirer" notes of their own if you tell them you have a secret admirer.Ask your neighbors if they saw the deliverer after someone left a note or delivery at your doorstep.Ask for the deliverer's physical appearance.
Step 8: You should confront your admirer.
The best way to find out if you have a secret admirer is to ask.Asking and being wrong may be better than not knowing.If your admirer is keeping her identity a secret, she will probably shy away from talking to you directly.Don't confront this person in public.You should be gentle, tactful, and open-minded.When you ask, look at their eyes.If you can see any changes, please let me know.Do you think the person's pupils are getting smaller?Is there any sign of blushing or flushed, or the maybe-admirer moving his or her head slightly?The person is telling the truth if they keep denying that they are your secret admirer.Do not push them.Keep looking.
Step 9: Be courteous.
Asking "Do you like me?" is not necessary.I've been finding really sweet notes in my locker this week, with the most beautiful drawings on them.Do you know anything about that?If you can get a face-to-face answer to your suspected admirer questions, you might be able to identify him or her.Ask the suspect if he or she uses the social media site that your admirer added you to.Ask the suspect if he or she likes drawing.
Step 10: Your secret admirer's privacy should be respected.
Why did your admirer keep his or her identity a secret?It is possible that your secret admirer is hiding their identity because they are not free to admire you openly.They can be shy, have strict parents, or be in another relationship that they are not prepared to ruin.You may not want to be too forward when confronting your admirer.It is possible that your admirer will reveal his or her identity to you if you are patient.Do you really want to know?It's possible that you want them to remain secret so that they don't burst the bubble.A secret admirer in the background can be reassuring.
Step 11: Accept or reject your admirer.
There may be a bit of tension once you have a secret admirer.Your admirer has made his or her feelings clear, so now it's your turn to reveal whether or not you feel the same way.You should get to know each other if you like your admirer.Wait for them to ask you out or ask them out first.It's time to back off if you're not interested, and you need to be clear about your feelings.If your secret admirer is not who you had in mind, be kind and turn them down.They will admire you more for being honest.It's better to be direct and straightforward.They should not play with their emotions.
Step 12: Don't get emotional.
If you find a secret admirer, you will fall in love and live happily ever after.You don't know anything about them right now.Someone that you don't want to get involved with is your secret admirer.He or she could be playing a prank.Don't take it too seriously until you know who you're dealing with, but do your best to find your secret admirer.There's a good chance that your secret admirer will get over their shyness if you are patient.You may be the object of their affection, but that doesn't mean you have to go look for them.Don't build up a fantasy in your head.If he or she doesn't turn out to be the person you expect, your feelings will be hurt.