You can't make people be nice to you, but you can make them feel good about themselves.The golden rule is to treat others the way you want to be treated.
Step 1: Be yourself.
People are more likely to warm to someone who is genuine.Staying authentic even in the face of fads and trends is part of being yourself.It's normal to experiment and try new things at any age to discover your likes, dislikes, and what makes you feel good and comfortable.
Step 2: Speak softly.
People think braggers and conceited people are less nice than humble people.Your friend will think you are nicer if you appreciate others more.To impress people, we try to make them like us.When asked, speak honestly and genuinely about yourself, but try to keep the focus on the other person, which will make him feel valued.You should be able to summarize what your friend is saying.He will appreciate that you are really listening.
Step 3: His name should be used.
The sweetest and most important sound in any language is a person's name and using it is the fastest way to build a relationship.It makes him feel important, valued, and respected when he uses someone's name in a conversation.Ask the person to help you pronounce the name.He will thank you for taking the time to ask.
Step 4: Live with compassion.
Being kind to others and open to the world draws other people towards you.Showing vulnerability may help someone bond with you on a more intimate level.Accepting is a show of acceptance.The nicer you are, the easier it will be for other people to see.Have good manners and be polite.Don't try to fix other people.Your friend will appreciate you asking questions when he hears his problems.Start with "how" or "why" to get him thinking.
Step 5: Be giving.
Random acts of kindness can be practiced.Studies show that being altruistic will make you feel better about yourself, even if no one is looking.There are many ways to practice kindness.Donate clothes to the homeless.Keep seniors company by sitting with them.Let someone get on the freeway.Pay it forward with coffee.
Step 6: Look happy!
Put your friend at ease by having a friendly expression.A genuine smile that doesn't look forced is what you should have.
Step 7: Don't lean in.
A body posture that suggests you're interested in someone lets him see how nice you are.Sit with your arms at your sides.It looks like you are being guarded and closed by crossing your arms.
Step 8: Listen carefully.
Be present in your conversation, ask questions to show you are interested, and your friend will feel like he can really relax and talk to you.People really want to be heard.Asking about the people you are with makes them feel special.It's like a detective game, where the goal is to pick up clues as to who the other person really is.The person you are talking to will warm to you if you take more interest in him.
Step 9: You should make eye contact.
Good people make eye contact about 75% of the time.You don't want to stare, but show that you're interested.You can see between his eyes and the bridge of his nose.
Step 10: Ask how others think of you.
You can ask a friend how you appear in social circles if you are open and friendly.It's possible that you're giving off the wrong vibe.You might think that your active-listening face shows you paying close attention, but an outsider may think you look angry.It is possible to come from a place of generosity and friendly but still think that your friends can't do enough on their own.Unless you ask, you might not know this.If you hear your friend tell you that you come off completely different than you imagined, be prepared.
Step 11: Self-respect is practiced.
If you respect yourself, people are more likely to like and respect you.Be assertive, nice, authentic and confident.
Step 12: Be nice to everyone.
According to the theory of indirect reciprocity, someone else will be nicer to you if you are nice to one person.Someone else will notice your kindness, form a higher opinion of you, and you will feel good about yourself.Being nice to everyone doesn't make you a bad person.You don't have to be mean to people if you say no.When saying no, be assertive and firm.Explain the reason you are declining someone's request, but without elaborate explanations.
Step 13: If you think you're being unfairly treated, stay nice.
Remember that your perception is only a part of the situation if you think someone is being unkind.If you misinterpret his actions and act negatively, you will get more negative vibes.If you think your co-worker is taking credit for your idea, be nice to him, even if he forgot to put your name on the contribution list.The person might not be acting kindly towards you.If you have reached an impasse that you cannot mend, you can still be nice and respectful.
Step 14: You don't have to make other people like you.
You have to accept that some people might not warm to you for a variety of reasons, and you can only do so much to change that.Many first impressions are based on competence and warmth.
Step 15: Do not try to do everything for everyone.
It is important to learn the difference between being kind to people and doing things for them.You don't have to be perfect all the time.Quality time with others is more important than doing things for them.They will respect you more.
Step 16: Don't stay with toxic friends.
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, he is not the best person for you and won't change his behavior.Stay with supportive friends who make you feel good and let the toxic friends go.If this person makes jokes at your expense, puts you down, or makes you feel sad in their presence, consider whether you are happy or sad.He might not be a good choice of friend if you feel unhappy with him.Don't initiate contact with this person, and put your effort into your friends.When you can't avoid seeing this person, be friendly, polite, and kind.