You always have a choice in bad relationships.Family and friends will help you through the process.You will find a happier relationship if you end the relationship.
Step 1: You should be your true self.
People change when they get into a new relationship.You start watching football because your boyfriend is into it, or you watch drama movies because that's all your girlfriend wants to watch.There might be a problem if you feel like your life is changing.Do you compromise your values, opinions, or clothing preferences for your partner?Take a moment to remember who you were before the relationship and how you are now.
Step 2: Listen to the concerns of friends and family.
If multiple people close to you raise concerns, it may be time to listen.
Step 3: Make your own decisions.
Big decisions should be made by both people when a relationship is mutual.You need to think about why you are going where he wants to go.If your girlfriend never wants to go to parties, go out for dates or always makes you stay in, you need to consider if this is the kind of relationship you want.Make sure to account for the possibility that your girlfriend is dealing with something that makes it hard for her to go out.
Step 4: If you want to control behavior, watch out.
Your significant other shouldn't be in control of every aspect of your life.You should still be your own person in a relationship because you will want to be around your partner.This is a warning sign if your significant other restricts who you hang out with or how much you see your family.If you and your girlfriend are too dependent on each other, you may be in a codependency relationship.When 1 or both partners base their self-esteem on the other person, it creates an unhealthy dynamic.Controls on behavior include telling you what type of clothes to wear, limiting the music you listen to, and deciding who you are allowed to be friends with.
Step 5: The trust in the relationship needs to be measured.
A relationship is dependent on mutual trust.It's easy for a relationship to turn bad without it.A lack of trust is caused by constant questions.Trust issues are related to jealousy about hanging out with others.
Step 6: You should notice how important your partner is to you.
Constructive criticism from your partner shouldn't be a constant in your relationship.You shouldn't be the butt of jokes when you are with your partner.This is a sign of a bad relationship if you are hearing criticism about your appearance or personality.An unhappy relationship is caused by constant criticism.When you are in a relationship, you should feel good about yourself.
Step 7: You're in a bad relationship.
To get out of a bad relationship, you need to know that you are in one.It is easy to ignore the signs of a failing relationship, but no one should suffer like that.Everyone deserves to be happy.You should write down the warning signs that are happening in your relationship.To get a clear picture of what is happening, review the list.To hear someone else's view about your concerns, talk to a close friend or family member.It is possible to get out of a relationship and make a change.
Step 8: Go to a place after the break up.
Ask a trusted friend or family member if you can spend time with them after you end a relationship.It will make you feel better about your decision if someone is close to you.It is important to let someone know your plans if your relationship has had a history of abuse.When you leave the relationship, you should have a safety plan.Having your things ready to go, getting support from loved ones, anticipating a change of heart, and resisting the urge to stay are some of the things that should be included in this.
Step 9: A plan of action can be created.
You need a plan in place to end a bad relationship.It is possible to hold yourself accountable by creating a plan of action.Specific implementation intentions or if/then statements are the most successful plans.I will call a friend to hang out if I start to miss my ex.
Step 10: It's a good idea to have a time to talk with your partner.
When you are going to end the relationship, prepare yourself.Large social gatherings can cause embarrassing scenarios for a break-up.If you want to avoid confrontations, meet in a quiet public space.
Step 11: Tell your partner that the relationship is over.
Be direct and blunt.It is best to be clear about your intentions when you end a relationship.To help you process what is happening and show you mean what you are saying, tell your partner how you feel in person."I have been unhappy with our relationship lately, and it's time to end things between us." is a good example of how to use " I" statements to avoid putting the other person on the defensive.Deliver the message in a calm, direct voice so your significant other knows you are serious about the decision.You should not meet in person or alone if you are afraid of your partner having a violent reaction to the relationship ending.A phone call is the better option.
Step 12: It's a good idea to put distance between yourself and your ex.
You have to stay away from the person you left after a relationship ends.It can be difficult to leave a bad relationship, so make it easier on yourself by ending contact with the person.Remove your ex from all social media accounts.Remove your ex's phone number from your phone.You will not see your ex when you go to different places for entertainment.If you want to create distance, ask your friends not to talk about your exes.
Step 13: You should surround yourself with people who are positive.
It is important to surround yourself with the right people after you get out of a relationship.You need to be around someone who will remind you that you did the right thing.
Step 14: Let go of your regrets.
You can fall into the trap of dwelling on what you could have done better when a relationship ends.No matter how much you think about the past, it won't change.Rather than regretting it, learn from the relationship.To stay positive and to move in the direction you want to go, try to focus on what you need to do.Be kind to yourself.Don't think about the reasons why the relationship went bad.If you focus on the past, you won't be able to think about the future.
Step 15: You should forgive yourself.
You don't have to feel bad about a failed relationship.Many people beat themselves up for not seeing the signs of a bad relationship, but this kind of thinking will make you feel worse.Say it aloud or write it down.You can learn from a failed relationship if you remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes.
Step 16: Remember who you were before the relationship began.
When you have been in a bad relationship, it is easy to lose track of your true interests.You have time to rediscover your interests.You should take a class in something you enjoy learning about.You can join a club.Pick up a hobby that interests you.
Step 17: Ask for help.
It can be hard to process a break-up alone.Ask for help from friends or family and talk to people who are close to you.If you need help, ask for it.Professional help gets people back on their feet when they find themselves in the same place.After a bad relationship, use your family and friends for emotional support.
Step 18: Contact the local authorities for protective orders.
Get in touch with the local police to request a restraining order if you're being harassed by your ex.If you feel threatened, reach out to shelters.