There are many things we want in this world.We can accomplish some of them by ourselves.Parents or co-workers can help us sometimes.Learning how to ask for what you want is the key to achieving your goals.
Step 1: Understand what your values are.
Make sure you know what's most important to you in order to live your life the way you want.Things that are consistent with the values are what you want.You could lose something important in the process if they aren't able to accomplish them.Conflicts are not always apparent at first glance.It will take a lot of time if you want to start a business.Spending a lot of time with your family may conflict with one of your values.
Step 2: Make your goals specific.
Broad goals like "Make more money" or "get healthier" are good starts, but you'll want more detail.Success can be defined with clear measurable signs of progress.This can give you a sense of how you are doing, and the steps you need to take to get there.If you want to get healthier, pick a specific benchmark like "be able to run a 10K" or "lose 20 pounds."
Step 3: Write down what you want to do.
You should include your reasons for wanting it.This can remind you of what you want, and make your desire seem more concrete.It is possible to clarify if this is something you really want, or if there is more.
Step 4: Tell yourself that you're worth it.
Many people don't ask for things because they think they're not good enough.Think about what makes you feel this way.Clarifying your fears can allow you to get what you want.Don't worry about what other people want.It's okay that your life, boundaries, and desires are different from others.It is important to know what you want and how it is unique to you.
Step 5: Try a new thing.
There are things that you didn't know you wanted.If you are open to new accomplishments, jobs, and experiences, you will be able to change your perspective on the world.Take a class, explore the outdoors or listen to other people's suggestions for new things to do.You can find a new hobby or life goal that you haven't considered before.
Step 6: Get over your doubts.
Many people doubt their abilities and don't go for things they want.Make sure your doubts don't stand in your way by identifying and questioning them.
Step 7: Save money
New purchases, skills, or even a new job can cost money.Look at your expenses and figure out what the costs are for what you are trying to do.If you are considering a big purchase, or looking to do something else expensive, putting aside just a little bit of money every month can get you there.It is possible to get better saving/spending habits by doing that regularly.Don't just look at the cost of what you want.Take a look at what you are spending money on.If you can cut out things that are getting in the way of your goals, you should.
Step 8: A plan can be created.
Determine the steps you will need to take to see what you want.Make sure your plan looks for ways to get around any potential trouble spots.You have doubts that you can't explain away.Money, time, your abilities, or help from others could be related to the roadblock.Chunks for getting what you want.It can keep you on track if you accomplish smaller tasks in a reasonable time, rather than trying to get through one big one all at once.If you want to lose weight, you can set a goal of losing five pounds in two weeks.Crash dieting and trying to lose twenty pounds in the same amount of time is worse.You should have clear deadlines in your plan.A specific time frame can keep you focused on what you want.Staying on track to the end result will be helped by this.Follow the plan.Many people give up too soon.Even if things don't go your way, stick to your plan and push on.
Step 9: You should learn to accept failure.
Sometimes you won't get what you're looking for.Instead of seeing that as a reason to stop, think of it as an opportunity for something different.If you are saving for a big purchase, the item you want may not be available until later.Maybe there is something better you can buy.It's best to wait until a better item comes along.
Step 10: Ask for assistance.
Unless you tell them you want something, they won't know to ask.If it is a friend or family member, people want to be helpful.You can ask in person.It's better to ask the person directly, instead of sending an email.It is more difficult for them to turn you around.Specific details should be given.Give the details of what you want when you ask for it.Have specific deadlines instead of ambiguous words.A specific request shows the other person that you put a lot of time into considering what you want, and how they can help.
Step 11: Be enthusiastic.
This is something that you want to do.Let the other person know that.Enthusiasm will make it harder for them to turn you down.They will want to help if you are excited about the idea.
Step 12: Decrease the amount of work they do.
You don't want to ruin someone's project.That makes it less likely that they will be willing to help.Don't be afraid to emphasize how little they have to do, and keep your requests simple and straightforward.Ask for the information that will allow you to do the task on your own.If your goal is to improve your performance at work, the other person's help might be telling you where to learn more about certain programs.
Step 13: Make a deal.
Promise something if someone is doing something for you.If it involves money, it can be simple like owing a favor.Sometimes it can be as simple as offering to buy lunch for friends at work.In a work setting, you can always offer to help with some of their work.If you are a kid or teenager asking your parents for something, you should have something to offer them.You can make a promise like doing chores around the house or getting better grades.
Step 14: Prepare for resistance
Others will reject or need convincing to accept your request.Prepare some responses to the other person's objections.It's a good idea to start with their doubts because they might be similar to the ones you had and worked through.Don't be afraid to ask why if you are turned down.Ask for more details if the answer is vague."What can I do?" is a question like that.It is a good way to find out how to turn a no into a yes.You don't want to insult the person.They did not help, but that doesn't make them a bad person.It will make people less likely to help you in the future.
Step 15: Say thank you.
You should be thankful if someone gives you something.Mention what the other person did.It's a good way to get people to help you in the future.In a work setting, a formal thank you note can be appropriate.Remember to keep it brief and sincere.