It is normal to want to avoid the person who hates you.Having a girl gossiping about you, provoking you in social situations, or being mean to you is a big deal.It's important to get to the root of the issue in dealing with someone who hates you.If you want to escape volatile situations, ignoring a girl who hates you is a short-term solution.Have you mistreated an ex-girlfriend or are you being bullied?Understanding why someone is being bullied is crucial to dealing with the problem and moving forward in a positive and constructive manner.
Step 1: She can unfriend her on Facebook.
Cyberbully is as harmful as real life bully.People can easily spread rumors on your social media profile.If you unfriend the girl on Facebook, she won't be able to blow up your page with rude comments or photos.She will see that you are not interested in further communication when you remove her from your profile.If you want to unfriend someone on Facebook, go to their page, click on Friends, and then click "unfriend." This goes for all forms of social media.Don't follow her on any of the social media platforms.
Step 2: Walk away.
Bullies like to feel in control of their actions.They want to provoke a specific reaction from you.It will show the bully that you are not willing to let her have control over your life, and will keep you from engaging in a conflict.Don't make eye contact.Look straight ahead and keep your head held high.She will see that you are above any kind of interactions.
Step 3: There are sources of support.
There is a girl who is mistreating you.If you can't deal with the problem on your own, someone else might be able to.Talk to a teacher, parent, or trusted adult figure if you are being bullied by a girl in school.An adult will be able to help you and prevent the girl from being aggressive.If you're having a romantic or workplace issue, it's a good idea to seek the help of a counselor.
Step 4: Take the high road.
It might be tempting to be mean when a girl is attacking you.Gossip, yell, or cause drama are not allowed.You should be an example of good behavior.She will have to rethink her behavior if she sees you acting kindly.Explain what's going on to the other people if she tries to get them on your back.It is important not to spread gossip among 3rd parties.Say something like, "I don't know what Sarah told you, but here's my take on the situation."
Step 5: Don't get into a fight with a bully.
One of the best ways to ignore someone is to show that you don't care about them.Don't let a girl bully you.Try not to have a conversation that is offensive.She will have no choice but to leave you alone if you are as formal and polite as you can be.A girl yells at you from across the hall when you run into her at school.Don't reply.Say "excuse me" and keep walking.
Step 6: Don't try to take it personally.
They act the way they do out of low self-esteem.They are targeting you because they need to pick on you, so it's important to stay out of the way.Consider the importance of the relationship if you want to avoid taking it personally.Is this person you care about or who you don't?Is his or her opinion important?Is it possible that those who care about you will treat you differently?You can think about how this person treats other people.Is she telling the truth or is she picking on a few people?Why do you think she does this?Is she self-assured?Does she have a hard time at school?Is there something else that's making her angry?
Step 7: The humor can be found in the situation.
Laughing at mean comments will make you feel better about yourself, and will also confuse the girl.Bullies will stop picking on you if you respond with a positive attitude.
Step 8: Try to understand what the bully is going through.
Bullies act out because they feel misunderstood.The girl is hurting and dealing with her problems by trying to make you hurt, so try to see her as a human being.Don't allow her to do this to you.Don't allow the girl to get to you.
Step 9: Stand up for yourself.
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself if you're ignored.Don't yell or get too worked up.Say something like, "I don't like the way you're treating me."It's always disarming to say something honest.If you see the girl being mean and loud, quietly say "I'm really bothered that you're acting this way" instead of making an offensive comment.
Step 10: Take responsibility for your actions.
There could be a reason why a girl hates you.If you don't take accountability for the actions that caused her to hate you, you will spend the rest of your life ignoring her.It is best to confront her in a private setting.To apologize is the easiest way to take responsibility.I just want you to know that I apologize for how I treated you last semester, I know you are really mad at me.I hope we can work things out so you don't feel angry towards me.
Step 11: It's time to start a conversation.
If a girl hates you because of something you did or because she is a bully, it's a good idea to talk about it.You can work out what is bothering the girl by asking her to join you for a coffee or tea.If you don't know why you're being picked on, it's a good idea to get some clarity on the situation.It is a good idea to talk in a public place.I would really like for us to work out this issue together.Can we meet at Starbucks later this afternoon? Use "I" statements to avoid making her feel defensive.Say what you would like to have happen, like, "I feel sad when you call me names."If you say something like, "I'd like for you to stop calling me names", avoid threatening, advising, or assuming that you know what she is thinking.Say what you want and how you feel.If you are dealing with a bully in school, have an adult talk to them.
Step 12: Change your behavior.
You can control your own actions.Depending on the situation, there are a few ways you can change your behavior so that the girl doesn't see you as someone to hate.If you see that the girl is being bullied because of her pain, you should try to stop it.If you want to see if she changes her attitude towards you, invite her to sit with you at lunch.If you have hurt the girl in the past, it's a good idea to do something nice for her.If you want to be on better terms, buy her a coffee or a chocolate bar with a note attached.It might not make the girl like you any better, but at least you sent her a positive message.