It can be difficult to get to know a girl if you really like her.Work up your courage and get over it.Don't build the situation up in your head, fantasize about false expectations, and wait so long that you miss out.Walk up to her and tell her your name.What are you going to lose?
Step 1: Take a look at the situation.
Is she alone or in a group?Is she relaxed or absorbed in her work?When she will be open to meeting someone new, try to approach her.It's important to make a good first impression.If she is alone, think about what she's doing.You shouldn't bother her if she's in the library with her headphones on.Her first impression of you will be negative if you disrupt her work.She'll be more open to your introduction if she's doing less things like wandering an art gallery, texting, and having a coffee.The group dynamic should be considered if she is hanging out with a group.If a friend of yours is in the group with her, you can approach them, say hello, and introduce yourself to anyone else that you don't know.You can make yourself a part of the group.If you don't know anyone in the group, you will need to join in, either by asking a question or jumping into the conversation.
Step 2: Don't look at her eye.
She looks in her direction from time to time.Look away when she looks at you.She is open to being approached if she smiles back.You don't need to catch a girl's eye to get to know her, but it is a good way to find out if she is interested in you.Don't look at her too much, but be flirtatious.
Step 3: Go and talk to her.
Don't build it up in your head, just seize the moment and get it over with.Walk over to her and have a conversation.You can ask a simple question or try to be witty.It doesn't need to be a "pick-up line" to break the ice.If you are comfortable, approach her in a way that you would want to be approached.If you see her in a bookstore, you can comment on the book she's holding.The Old Man and the Sea is great.Did you read it before?If she says no, you can tell her why you recommend the book.If she's standing on the deck of a cruise ship, staring out at the ocean, walk up next to her and say, "Beautiful, isn't it?"Do you like the cruise?You should ask her questions about her experience.Listen to her.She may begin to ask you questions and then you will have a conversation.If you're eating lunch in a cafe or on a grassy lawn, you should approach her and ask if you can sit with her.If she has headphones in, don't approach her.Ask her about what she's reading, commenting on the weather, or if she comes here often.It may be easier to approach her at a party if you've had a few drinks.Walk up to her and say hello.What do you think about the party?Was the solo on that song amazing?The act of breaking the ice is more important than what you say.
Step 4: Don't be fake.
It's down-to-earth to be confident.Don't objectify her and treat her like a prize that you need to win, she's a real person with dreams and interests, and she can choose whether or not to be attracted to you.Don't try to rehearse a script, come in with no ulterior motives.As one person who wants to get to know another person, your heart will shine through.
Step 5: Introduce yourself.
Once you've approached the girl and gotten a conversation underway, you can introduce yourself as an opening line.Say "Hey, I'm Mike."An introduction doesn't mean that you're romantically interested in a girl, it's just a way to acknowledge someones presence and set the stage for further conversation.If it's the first day of class and you sit down at the desk next to her and casually introduce yourself, try to catch her eye as you get settled."Hey, I'm Mike."She'll usually respond in kind.I'm Julie."Are you new at this school?" is a good question to ask.I don't know if I've seen you before or if you're in Sociology 101.I think I know who you are from my discussion section.You don't need to mention your name in the conversation if you've already approached her and begun a conversation.Wait for a break in the talk and say, "I'm Mike."You can ask "What's your name?" if she smiles and says "I'm Julie."When you introduce yourself, try to shake her hand.Whether you're introducing yourself to a guy or a girl, this is a common ritual in the western world.It shows that the two of you are the same.Don't be too tight or loose with her hand.
Step 6: Keep talking.
The conversation can flow naturally.Listen carefully, ask her questions, and be interested in what she has to say.Ask her more about what she's excited about when she mentions something.Feed the conversation with questions.She will ask you questions if she's interested.If you're interacting with a girl in a group setting, make eye contact and ask lots of questions to make her feel like you are talking to her specifically.Most girls appreciate it when guys are nice to their friends, so make sure to include the other members of her group in the conversation.It will be easier to carry on a one-on-one conversation in private once the group leaves you two alone.
Step 7: Don't fear silence.
If you've approached a girl at a concert or a festival, you don't need to say much.If you're sitting next to a girl in class, you can let the conversation stop and pick it up again when you have a chance.Sit with her, listen, wander, and make witty comments as they pop into your brain.She enjoys your company, that's the important thing.
Step 8: If she is not interested, leave her alone.
She will give you one-word answers, she won't look you in the eyes, and she will not ask questions back.She will engage in the conversation if she is interested in talking with you.Being engaged in the conversation doesn't necessarily mean that she's attracted to you, she might just be up for a conversation.Excuse yourself if she doesn't seem interested.Don't make the situation awkward.Say that it was nice talking to you.Don't forget to enjoy your book!Before you approached her, return to what you were doing.It can be difficult to get a girl's attention if you've approached her in a group.It's a good idea to chat for a while and then move somewhere else.Make eye contact with the girl you were trying to talk to.If she's interested in talking more with you, this can be a good way to see.It's a good sign if she leaves the group and finds you.
Step 9: Plan to see her again.
One of you will have to leave even if your conversation goes well.This might be the best opportunity that you have.What are you going to lose?Tell her you enjoyed talking to her and that you would love to meet her for coffee or a drink.Ask her for her phone number.If you have a date in mind, now is the time to propose it.If you had a good conversation with her, say, "I really enjoyed talking to you."Would you like to meet up for a drink?If you didn't have much time to chat, ask her for coffee.I would like to speak to you more.Would you like to meet up for coffee this weekend?If you didn't get much one-on-one time with her in a group setting, wait until her group leaves.Tell her what a great time you had and say, "It was really great meeting you."I would love to get to know you better.Do you want to meet up for coffee?