Sometimes it is the best thing to do if you hear that someone you like doesn't have the same feelings.If a girl likes you, you can let her down without hurting her feelings.You may be able to remain friends.We put together a list of ways to let her down so she doesn't get her hopes up.
Step 1: It will be harder for her to hear if you wait longer.
Tell her that you don't feel the same way if she tells you that she wants to be more than just friends.It will be harder for her to accept it if you drag it out.If you want to stay friends with her, do not lead her on or wait too long to tell her you don't have romantic feelings for her.If you think she might like you more than just a friend, ask one of her friends.
Step 2: She needs to see the news face-to-face.
It's the most respectful way to tell her.She will be able to see your face and hear your voice, which will show her that you are genuine with her, and you don't want to hurt her feelings.She may be able to move on more quickly.If you can't meet her in person, try setting up a video chat or phone call so she can hear you.
Step 3: Tell her that you don't want a relationship.
It may not be what she wanted to hear, but it is important that you clearly communicate your feelings and thoughts.There isn't any confusion if it is clear and succinct.You could say something like, "I think you're nice, but I just don't see us being together" and then give a clear and direct no.
Step 4: Don't blame her.
She already told you that she likes you, so don't make it worse for her by pointing out any issues with her.For example, you could say, "I don't want a relationship" instead of " I'm not interested in you."
Step 5: People don't like being rejected, so try to be kind.
You should not dismiss her feelings if you don't feel the same way about her.When you let her down, be kind and respectful.If you don't make it a big deal, she'll likely be able to move on and you can even remain friends.You could try to make her understand that you don't like hurting her feelings, but you also don"t want to lead her on.You could say, "I'm really sorry I just feel the same way, but I hope we can still be friends."
Step 6: Why is it not working out?
Give a concrete example of why you don't think you're right for each other, instead of giving abstract reasons like "I'm just not ready for commitment"She will appreciate that you are telling the truth and not just making up an excuse.It is possible to say something like, "You're good friends with my ex and I just don't feel comfortable with it" or "I think we share common interests."You could say, "I just don't think we're compatible."
Step 7: It doesn't feel awkward if you stay as upbeat as you can.
It is not okay to tell her you don't have feelings for her.She already feels worse than she already does so stay calm and positive.Make the moment less awkward by keeping an upbeat attitude.If she wants you to leave her alone, you could say something like, "I really treasure the friendship we have and I feel like a romantic relationship could ruin that."
Step 8: If she is okay with it, you can remain friends.
If she takes the news well, try telling her that you hope you can still talk to each other and hang out.If you both have mutual friends, let her know that you still hope to spend time with her and be friends.Say something like, "I know this sucks, but I hope we can still hang out."I don't understand if you need some time, but eventually things will go back to normal, and you can spend time with each other without it being weird.
Step 9: A hug or an inside joke could make her feel better.
She may be hurt and upset after you tell her how you feel.Try not to end the conversation on a bad note or leave her alone.Try to give a hug.If you have a lot of inside jokes, try to make her laugh.Whatever you can to end things in a positive way.If she is really upset, it may be best for you to give her a quote from The Office, like, "I am ready to be hurt again" or "Oh how the turntables."
Step 10: Wait at least a week before you meet her.
Allow her to get over the news.Try to give her at least a week to get over it, don't ignore her or avoid her.If she is comfortable, you can spend time with her and things may be back to normal.She may not be comfortable around you.Give her space if that is the case.
Step 11: Things shouldn't be awkward for her.
You should tell her that you don't have romantic feelings for her.You may be able to return to the friendship that you had with her in the future.Don't force the issue if she's uncomfortable being around you.The space she needs is given to her.
Step 12: After you let her down, don't get her hopes up.
If you just told her that you don't have romantic feelings for her, kissing, flirting, or hooking up could really mess with her emotions.Tell her if you start to feel attracted to her.Continue to say that you don't want to be with her if you hook up.
Step 13: Use a short note to let her know that you don't want to go on another date.
You can send a text to her to let her know how you are feeling if you haven't spent much time with her.You don't want a romantic relationship if you type out a simple, direct text.You can text her something like, "Hey, I had a great time, but I don't think there's a connection here!"I don't think there is a lot of chemistry between us.
Step 14: Tell her that it's over.
It may be tempting to stop talking to her.It could hurt her feelings and it isn't the right thing to do.If she likes you, but you don't, just tell her.She may not like it initially, but eventually she will move on.If you have mutual friends, ghosting her can make you seem like a jerk.