It doesn't have to be scary to make friends in middle school.By being friendly and putting yourself out there, you can form bonds that will last a lifetime.Try talking to people in your class and hanging out with them outside of school.You will have a fun group of friends before you know it.
Step 1: People are more likely to talk to you if you use positive body language.
Stand up straight, make eye contact, and smile!Try to keep your arms out of your chest.People will want to know you if you are open and friendly.When you pass people in the hall, smile.
Step 2: The more you practice, the easier it will be.
There are a lot of ways to get to know people at school.When you compliment someone's backpack, ask where they got it.If you see someone reading a book, ask if it's good.Ask the person sitting next to you in class what they did over the weekend.Asking a question about someone is a great way to start a conversation.Talking to people you don't know can be scary if you're shy, but the more you try it, the less scary it will be.
Step 3: It's a good idea to give others a chance to talk about themselves.
When you're with someone, ask them about their favorite classes, what they like to do after school, and more.It can feel awkward to just jump from topic to topic.Ask a question and talk about it for a while.Move to something new when the conversation stalls.If someone says they're going to the skate park, it's a good idea to ask what kind of skateboard they ride and what tricks they can do.Even if it's just to say that you've never ridden, you should share your own experience.Asking questions lets the other person know you're interested in what they have to say.This can make them interested in learning more about you.
Step 4: There are tables with an open seat in the cafeteria.
Pick a table that only has one or two people at it.Ask if you can sit and join the conversation.If you like the people you sat with, you can join them for lunch the next day.It's normal to be a little shy at first.
Step 5: They may need a friend.
If you notice someone sitting alone at a lunch table or away from the crowd at the pep rally, ask if it's okay to sit with them.It's a great option if you're feeling a little shy, and you can chat about your classes, what they are wearing, or something that is going on around you.
Step 6: After games, hang out with your teammates.
Try out for the team if you like soccer, basketball, softball, baseball, or anything in between.You could become friends with some of the other people on your team over time.You can find a sports team at your local community center.
Step 7: Meet people who like the same things as you.
Pick one or two of the activities that you're most excited about and ask your teacher or parents for a list.When you attend your first club meeting, introduce yourself and have a good time.If your school doesn't have any clubs that you're interested in, ask your teacher about starting a club of your own.
Step 8: People meet at social events.
Try to chat with as many different people as you can once you get there, because it's fine to attend most of these events alone.If you feel strange going alone, ask your friend if they want to go with you.No matter what, you will have someone to talk to.
Step 9: There are people who share your interests.
Band, art, theater, newspaper, and yearbook are some of the electives offered by most schools.When you make your schedule, ask your homeroom teacher or guidance counselor what courses are available and sign up for the ones that are fun to you.You already have something in common with the other students in the class, so you may only be able to choose your electives at the start of the school year.It gives you plenty of time to think about what you will enjoy the most.
Step 10: If your friends want to hang out, let them know.
They can get to know you more if you tell them your name.If you have things in common, you can form a group of friends.Don't worry about not having any friends yet.You will meet new friends in time.
Step 11: It's a great way to make your friends more official.
You can talk with your classmates if you exchange numbers.Text them to find out if they want to hang out with real friends.If you cannot hang out in person, you can call them and chat on the phone.If you don't own a phone, ask your parents or guardian if you can use theirs.
Step 12: You can make friends if you put yourself out there.
You might be tempted to say no when people invite you to hang out.Spending time with people is the best way to make friends.You'll probably have more fun than you thought.
Step 13: Move on if someone makes fun of you or puts you down.
Don't put up with being treated badly if you want to make new friends.A good friend will listen to you when you talk, treat you with kindness and respect, and accept you for who you are.They won't be a good friend to you if you notice they are unkind to others.
Step 14: If you are struggling to make friends, they can help.
Let them know that you are trying to connect with your classmates, but it isn't working.They might be able to pair you up with another student.It might seem silly to ask a guidance counselor for help with friends, but they are there for that.