If you didn't want to break-up in the first place, it can be difficult.Don't despair if you're certain that he's the only guy for you.These ideas can be used to make him want you back.
Step 1: Accept the break-up.
Handle the break-up with care.Give him time to see things more clearly if he broke up with you.Handling yourself with dignity is something he will appreciate.The last thing you want to do is make a scene.He'll be more likely to run in the other direction if you cry or get angry with him.You are leveling the playing field by accepting the break-up calmly.He will be curious as to why you are not more upset, but he was expecting a different reaction from you.The first seed of doubt may be planted by this.
Step 2: Cut all communication.
People don't always make rational decisions after a break-up.It is advisable to cut all communication with your ex for a while.Don't call or text your ex.This will have the opposite effect.Wait until he contacts you.It will be difficult, but don't contact your ex for a while.Give him time to be with you.
Step 3: Give each other time to heal.
Break-ups can be difficult.Feelings get hurt when words are exchanged.You need to give yourself and your ex time to heal.It is only then that you should consider resuming the relationship.Getting back together while the wounds are fresh will cause the same old issues to reappear and your efforts to revive the relationship are sure to fail.You can speak to your ex without getting upset or angry if you wait until enough time has passed.
Step 4: Evaluate your relationship.
Think about what went wrong in your relationship while you take this time apart.Try to figure out if the problems that led to the end of the relationship can be fixed.If you believe that the problems in your relationship are fixable, and that both you and he are willing to put in the effort to make that happen, then the relationship stands a chance.If the circumstances that led to the end of the relationship are not likely to change, or if you or your ex are unwilling to modify your behavior for the sake of your relationship, then getting back together may not be the best idea.Don't use your heart for this decision.
Step 5: If necessary, apologize.
Towards the end of the relationship or the break-up, you might have said things that you now regret.It's never too late to apologize and be the bigger person.If the break-up was a result of your actions, then you should apologize immediately.Your ex will be more sympathetic to you as a result of the gesture.If you don't own up to your mistakes, you will never be able to move on from the past.
Step 6: Stay calm, stay calm.
It can feel like your world is spinning out of control if you've just been through a break-up.Don't panic.Keep calm and remind yourself that you are strong.Don't make rash decisions.Try not to do anything that you might regret, you are in a vulnerable state of mind.It's fine if you have your mind set on getting your ex back.Allow yourself some time to work on your own issues.
Step 7: Talk to someone.
It's probably a good idea to work out your demons after a break-up.Talking to someone you trust is the best thing to do.You can unleash your rage, hurt and tears with them.You will feel better after that.If you talk about the break-up with someone on the outside of the situation, you don't have to worry about damaging your relationship with your ex.Talking about the break-up will give you some perspective on the situation.From a different point of view, you might be able to understand where your ex was coming from.You can get back on the right track if you understand and empathise.
Step 8: Be your own person.
Even if the break-up is only temporary, use it to your advantage.People tend to forget how to function on their own in a relationship.You have a chance to recover your self.You won't regret it.Try new things, go places on your own.Doing things on your own will allow you to feel better.You can connect with your friends.People in a relationship are guilty of neglecting their friends.Now that you're free to do as you please, organize a girls' night out.You'll wonder why you didn't do it more often when you are laughing so hard.
Step 9: Don't forget to take care of yourself.
Take a moment to focus on your needs, because you've been through a rough time recently.Do things that make you happy.Get plenty of rest, eat healthy and do some exercise.You will look and feel better for it.Before you think about re-entering a relationship, you should feel good about yourself.
Step 10: Improve yourself.
Have you been complaining about your job in the last year?Find something better if you quit.Are you talking about starting a new hobby or exercising forever?The time is now!Become the best you can be by taking advantage of this opportunity.A hot new body is the best way to get your ex's attention, according to many people.Do it for yourself, not for him.You will get more energy and motivation from exercise and healthy eating.Getting a new job or taking up a long talked about hobby will allow you to focus your attention on something other than the break-up.Your ex might be impressed by your new attitude.
Step 11: You should put yourself out there.
Even though you want to get back with your ex, you can still have fun in the meantime.If you want to flirt with your heart's content, get yourself all dolled up.If nothing else, you will be reminded that you are attractive and interesting and that there are other options if your relationship doesn't work out.Feelings of jealousy and desire can be aroused in your ex if you let them see you with another guy.This could make him realize that he wants to help you.If your ex feels that you're perfectly happy with someone else, he might move on too.
Step 12: Allow him to contact you.
Allow him to make the first move.It may be hard to wait, but stay strong.When he contacts you, you will know that he's thinking about you and is ready to take a step forward in your relationship.He could pull in the other direction if you push him too soon.Don't play hard to get once he contacts you.Be sweet and polite when you respond in a timely fashion.It is possible to meet up to talk in person after he has made contact.If things take a turn for the worse, go for a neutral place where you can have a private conversation.A public park or cafe would be perfect.
Step 13: Explain to him why he was attracted to you in the first place.
All the good that came before can be overshadowed by the bad things that happen at the end of a relationship.Tell this guy why he fell in love with you in the first place.He will remember if you wore the same perfume or clothing on your first date.Take a moment to remember some of the great times you had together.When times were good, make him remember how he felt about you.
Step 14: Take things slowly.
Don't rush into the relationship.Make sure the two of you are on the same page by taking time to talk things through.Make sure you both know what you need to work on and are willing to give it a try.Try again.You can go bowling, see a movie, or go out for dinner.Spend some time together.Get to know one another again.History is doomed to repeat itself if you try to pick up where you left off.
Step 15: The past should be left in the past.
If the two of you have worked through your issues and you're both willing to make a fresh start, be thankful.This is a new relationship with no baggage.Don't remember what happened in the past, focus on your future together.