Sex is an important part of a romantic relationship.It is important for you to have sex with a person you love.It is possible to feel good about your sexuality with someone else.Busy lives can make it easy for sex to be put on the back burner of a relationship.Sometimes a lack of conversation around your sex life can add to some frustration and devaluing of the importance of sex in your relationship.Talking to your partner, creating an environment that increases the likelihood for sex, and making sex a priority in your relationship can improve your sex life with someone you care about.
Step 1: Sex should be scheduled.
It isn't romantic.Sometimes life gets in the way and you can't make time for it.It might feel awkward at first, but eventually you'll find yourself looking forward to that time with your partner.Discuss how often you want to have sex.Don't forget to mark the dates in your calendar.If this is a strategy that works for you, you might want to schedule sex for a month or two.
Step 2: It's a date night.
If you accidentally schedule sex in the early days of your relationship, you may be having a hard time getting used to it.You might have known you would see your partner on Friday night when you first started dating.You may have thought that you would have sex that night, which could have been exciting for both of you.Have a fun evening with your partner.Tease and flirt with each other.You should keep the excitement going until you can get to a private place.
Step 3: The TV should be turned off.
It is easy to get sucked into binge-watching TV shows or getting lost in the internet, instead of connecting with your partner.Make a pact with your partner that you will spend a set amount of time together each day or week, without your phones or another screen present.This can be a good time to get to know each other and not put pressure on yourself to have sex.Sex is great if it happens.Even if it doesn't, you are laying the groundwork for more intimate relationships down the road.Do you want to lay in bed and relax?We could just cuddle.
Step 4: Find energy for sex.
A lot of people are exhausted at the end of the day.Don't use your fatigue as an excuse if you want to make sex a priority in your relationship.It is possible to find ways to work it into your day.The two of you should wake up a little earlier in the morning.It is possible to have sex in the shower while getting ready for work or on your lunch breaks.It's a good idea to exercise in the evening.You will feel refreshed and alert.
Step 5: You should go to bed with your partner.
It will be difficult for you to make time for sex in the evenings if you are going to bed at different times.Try to go to bed at the same time as your partner.As your body adjusts to the extra sleep and new schedule, you may find yourself reaching for your partner before falling asleep.
Step 6: There is no right amount of sex.
Sex is part of the culture we live in.The right amount of sex for you and your partner is what you decide, not what some magazine says.If you don't want to have sex twice a week, you can have it once a month.Maybe you aren't interested in sex at all.If you and your partner are on the same page about your sex life, your libido is not a problem.
Step 7: Talk about it.
Discuss your desires, turn-offs, and feelings with your partner.Don't make assumptions about what they're feeling, as feelings, preferences, and life can change.It is important to keep communication open and clear so that resentment and frustration don't build up, because couples frequently fight about sex.If you feel uncomfortable having a conversation with your partner about your sexuality, try anyway.Even though I have sex with you, I still feel weird talking about it.I want to talk with you about our sex life as a couple and how we can make it better.
Step 8: Show your partner what you like.
It is sexy to show your partner what you enjoy.Place your partner's hands on your body and show them how to masturbate.If you and your partner don't know what you like to do, try it on yourselves.Masturbation is part of your sexual knowledge.
Step 9: Constructive criticism is welcome.
Whether you are discussing sex or actually in the middle of it, create an environment where you can acknowledge when one of you isn't enjoying something.Sex makes us vulnerable, so it can be hard to handle criticism, but being too sensitive to receive it will create tension with your partner.Say, "I'm sorry, I don't like it when you touch me like that."Don't take it personally if you can show me what you like.You will still have to learn about each other after a long time.
Step 10: Understand that you are consenting.
Sexual consent can be discussed with your partner.For an open, healthy sexual relationship, both of you need to understand what consent means for each other, and agree that consent can be withdrawn at any time.If you and your partner decide to have sex, you will be ready for it.All of the sudden, your partner says, "You know what, I don't think I'm in the mood tonight." Immediately stop what you're doing and ask if they want to talk about it.Don't argue or try to get them to continue.Even if you have been with someone for a long time, consent is still important.It is important not to assume a sexual act is okay even if you have been doing it for years.Make sure your partner agrees if you ask, "Is it okay if I do this?" or "Do you want me to do it?"
Step 11: The expectations should be eliminated.
If you want to improve your sexual experiences, you need to get rid of any expectations you have.It's important to be confident, playful, and excited to experience sex.These questions are related to the expectations you have about your sexual experience with your partner and they are usually born of.Asking these questions will take you out of the moment and away from your partner and experience.
Step 12: Establish physical contact with your partner.
There are jobs and other responsibilities that may keep the two of you apart.It is a good idea to be in close physical contact with the other person when you are together.Kiss, hug, and care for your partner.If you don't end up having sex, physical touch will help you get to know each other better.It improves your emotional and physical health.Set aside time each day for the two of you to spend time together.
Step 13: You should know what sets the mood.
Know your partner's turn-ons too.These turn-ons may not be physical or sexual in nature.If you can find a pattern in your lives when you are both more amorous, please do your best to duplicate those times.Discuss with your partner when they want to have sex.They might say, "After a romantic date," or "When we have a lot of fun together."You might want to take them to a new restaurant or play mini-golf.Incorporating flirtatious teasing behaviors into your day if your partner loves the thrill of anticipation is a good idea.You could start making out with them only to stop and say, " More later."
Step 14: It is possible to create a romantic atmosphere.
Think about what you and your partner like to do.You can still make your environment romantic and special even if you can't have a heart made of rose petals on the bed every time.Consider soft lighting, like candles.Overhead may be too harsh.Invest in some nice, soft bedding for yourself and your partner.R&B, jazz, or soft rock may be good choices, but it depends on your taste.Make your bedroom free of distraction by cleaning it.Remove clothes from the floor by turning off the TV.Straightening up the rest of your living space is a plus.
Step 15: They should take care of the chores.
Studies show that helping your partner with chores around the house can put them in the mood for sex, because they are less stressed with the household responsibilities hanging over their heads.Find out what chores your partner wants you to do for them.Do the dishes, clean the bathroom, or put the children to bed to relax with your partner.You expect sex in return for helping out, so don't hold it over your partner's head.It may kill the mood if you put more pressure on your partner.
Step 16: You can go on a weekly date.
If the two of you have busy lives, it may be difficult to find time to connect.It will be difficult to make time in the bedroom if you are not making time for each other outside.It will enhance your sex life if you have a standing weekly date.You don't have to have a big date.It could be as simple as walking for a long time.The important thing is that you are spending time together.A babysitter is a must.Make sure you have a babysitter for your kids.One partner may find it helpful to schedule the babysitter while the other partner finds a date night activity.
Step 17: You need to be ready with contraception.
If you are female in a heterosexual relationship and using the birth control pill, have it ready to go or already be using it.If you can relax and enjoy sex when the mood strikes, you won't have to worry about running to the pharmacy or getting an STD.Condoms are the best way to prevent pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections when used correctly.If you want to learn more about contraception options, visit a family planning clinic.