It's difficult to stop loving someone if you're trying to get over an ex or crush.Emotions can get overwhelming.You will get there with time, support, and self-love.
Step 1: Do you really love this person?
It might feel like you're in love with someone, but it's really just an infatuation or crush.It's unlikely that what you're feeling is love if you never spend time with them or they don't know you exist.Spending time with a person and getting to know their quirks and flaws is what true love requires.It's more likely that you're more in love with the idea of the person than with them.You will find it easier to move on if you convince yourself that what you're feeling isn't really love.
Step 2: Determine if there is hope for a relationship.
If there is a chance of a relationship between you and your loved one, you need to analyze the situation and figure it out.If there is a realistic possibility, like a single person at work or school who you just haven't had the confidence to approach yet, then all is not lost and you should consider asking them out on a date.If the person you love is your best friend's girlfriend, your English teacher, or Leonardo DiCaprio, then you should just cut your losses and move on.It's not going to happen.The sooner you accept the truth, the easier it will be for you to move on.
Step 3: List the reasons why it wouldn't work.
A list of reasons why a relationship wouldn't work can be useful when you're pining for the other person and need a reminder.It could be anything, from the fact that there's a thirty year age gap between you, to a person with a tattoo of a Celtic cross on their bicep.Your heart will thank you for it in the long run if you are brutally honest with yourself.Tell yourself that they don't deserve you.
Step 4: Developing relationships with available people is the focus.
Don't moon over someone, it's never going to work out with you, and start focusing on someone else.You haven't noticed that your soul mate is sitting right under your nose because you've been so busy loving someone from a distance.Are you aware that a male friend is always willing to carry your books for you?Are you referring to the girl who smiles every time she passes by?Don't forget to focus on him or her.It's always good to try to meet new people even if you don't have any romantic engagements immediately.
Step 5: You deserve to be loved by someone who loves you back.
Unrequited love is something that no one deserves to live with forever, especially someone as amazing as you.You should be with someone who loves you and wants to spend the rest of their lives with you.Forget the idiot who doesn't love you back and refuse to settle for anything less than pure, pure love.Positive Affirmations can be used to remind yourself of how great you are.Say "I am an amazing person who deserves to be loved" five times in the mirror.You may feel silly at first, but eventually it will sink in.
Step 6: Accept that it is over.
Don't try to deny the truth when your relationship ends.Don't think that she will take you back or that he will try to change.Accept the relationship is over.You can move on if you do this sooner.
Step 7: Allow yourself to grieve.
The end of a relationship can feel like a huge loss if you're still in love with someone.You have to take some time to grieve the loss of love.You should try to handle your grief in a healthy way.Don't let your emotions get the best of you.It is okay to cry.If you want to take out your frustration, try punching a bag at the gym or watching a movie on the couch.Whatever makes you feel good.
Step 8: Cut off contact.
The best way to get over a broken heart is to cut off all contact with the other person.Staying in contact will make it harder to stop thinking about the other person.The person's phone number is on your phone.When you are vulnerable and might say something you regret, this will remove the temptation to text or call.You don't want to go to places where you might run into the person.Seeing them will cause you to have feelings and memories.It's a good idea to cut off contact on social media.Unfriend them on Facebook.At first, it will be helpful.When you're obsessed with status updates, it's hard to move on.
Step 9: Get rid of reminders.
Photographs, clothes, books, toys, and music should be removed from the other person's house.If you think it will help relieve anger, destroy them.You won't have to look at it if you put everything in a box.Out of mind.
Step 10: Don't put yourself in harms way.
Don't judge what went wrong or what you could have done differently.It's not possible to change the past and punish yourself for previous mistakes.It might seem impossible, but try not to think about what could have been.
Step 11: Talk to someone.
It is possible to take a weight off your shoulders by talking to a friend, family member or even a therapist.Cry, curse, shout.Let it be known that you have ever had a mean thought about the other person.It's amazing how freeing it can be to express yourself.If you want to talk to someone you can trust, go somewhere private.You don't want your feelings to get back to your ex.Don't get too carried away.If you continue to mope for weeks on end you will start to sound like a broken record and people's patience will begin to wear on you.
Step 12: Give yourself time.
Time heals all wounds, even though it sounds like a meaningless platitude.It will take some time to feel like your old self again, but you will.Keep a journal to record how you are feeling.You'll be amazed at how far you've come when you look back at what you wrote.It's not a good idea to put pressure on yourself to be over your ex or start dating someone new soon.You'll know when you're ready.
Step 13: Sleep.
Ensuring that you are getting enough sleep is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.The quality of your sleep can have a big impact on how you feel.It is possible to wake up after a good night's sleep feeling calmer and with a new perspective on life.It's important to sleep well when you're trying to get over someone.If you're having trouble falling asleep, try to sleep for an hour.Take a bubble bath or read a book.You can drink a hot cocoa or a tea.Stay away from electronics and television.You will be ready to take on the day after a good night's sleep.You will look better and be able to concentrate better throughout the day.
Step 14: It's a good idea to exercise.
It's tempting to wallow in self-pity when you're trying to get over someone, but the best thing you can do is get some exercise.All of them have the same positive effect.Exercise will make you look and feel better.30 minutes of exercise a few times a week will create feelings of happiness and euphoria.Studies have shown that exercise can help depressed people.You'll feel happier and less stressed when you exercise outdoors.At a time when you probably need it the most, exercise will help boost your self-confidence.Regardless of weight, size, gender, or age, exercise can quickly elevate a person's perception of his or her attractiveness.
Step 15: Take a break.
It is possible to forget about unpleasant feelings with the help of meditation.It is possible to meditate for ten minutes a day.If you want to meditate effectively, you need to create a calm and peaceful atmosphere.Pick a location that won't be interrupted.Don't use your phone.You can choose music and lighting that calms and relaxes you.Put your props in place.While you meditate, yoga mats or cushions can make you more comfortable.It can be very soothing to have a small fountain with running water nearby.If you want to set the mood, light some candles.Wear clothes that are comfortable.If you're not comfortable, it will be hard to relax and forget about the world around you.The person is sitting in a cross-legged position.Don't slump if you keep your back straight.Close your eyes and concentrate on breathing.Breath through the nose.If you want to clear your mind, focus on your breathing.You will begin to experience a sense of inner peace and relaxation as your distracted thoughts diminish.
Step 16: Write something.
Writing can be very freeing.Putting your worries on paper can make you feel lighter.Writing a letter to your ex will help you process your emotions.Try to identify what is bothering you and what you need from a relationship going forward.Write a letter to yourself about why the relationship wouldn't have worked, regardless of who ended it.Remember both the good and bad times.Turn your thoughts and emotions into poetry or song lyrics if you're more creatively inclined.Some of the best art comes from a broken heart.
Step 17: Do something for yourself.
It's time to treat yourself.Do whatever makes you feel good.Have a spa day with your friends.The guys are invited to watch the game and drink some beer.Whatever you want to eat.Get drunk.The bottom line is to have fun.
Step 18: Let's move on from the past.
If you allow yourself time to grieve the end of a serious relationship or unrequited love, you should be ready to take on the world again.Accept this time as a new beginning and let go of the past.The best is yet to come!
Step 19: You should hang out with your friends.
When you were dating, you may have neglected your friends.Call up your friends from childhood, high school or college.You will soon have so many social engagements that you will wonder what you've been doing for the last few months/years of your life.
Step 20: Try something new.
You have more time on your hands now that you're no longer hung up on thinking about someone else.It's time to become the person you've always wanted to be.Take a Japanese class and develop a six pack.Try something new and you might discover a hidden talent or passion.
Step 21: Be single and embrace it.
You can take advantage of your new-found emotional freedom and the endless possibilities of singledom.You can go out with your friends, meet new people and flirt shamelessly.Did your ex not like dancing?Hit the dance floor!Did you not appreciate your best friend's humor?All you want is to laugh!You'll forget why you wanted to be in a relationship when you're having a good time on your own.
Step 22: Start dating again.
You can start to think about dating again once you've soaked up all the good that single life has to offer.If you've just left a long-term relationship, it's a good idea to take things slow.You will end up comparing your new love interest to your ex if you start dating too soon.Who knows what will happen when you enter your new relationship with hope and optimism.They might be the one.