It can be hard to not be shy around girls, especially when you find yourself standing in front of a girl who is absolutely beautiful without being able to say anything.If you show a genuine interest in the girl you are talking to, you will be able to have a fun, easy conversation with her.
Step 1: Do you know how many girls are shy around boys?
One way to prepare yourself for talking to girls is to remember that they are just as scared as you are.On the inside, many girls are nervous about talking to boys, even though they may look like they have it all figured out.You will be less self-conscious about talking to girls if you know that every girl is shy about it.It is likely that the girl you are talking to is wondering the same thing as you do.Making the girl feel comfortable is more important than sounding smart, funny, or interesting.If you focus on making her comfortable, you won't be worried about yourself.
Step 2: Pretend you are talking to a friend.
Talking to the cute girl in your grade may seem completely different than chatting it up with your best friend, but if you stop being so worried about everything being perfect, you will see that it is not so different.You have to come up with something to talk about and make the other person laugh.You will be able to fall into a natural pace of conversation once you relax and stop trying to sound so impressive.It's possible that you and your best friends have some inside jokes or a funny way of talking that may confuse a new girl you talk to.You can still talk about some of the same things and work on having an interesting conversation, even if you don't have anything to discuss.Even if you talk to one of your friends, you may run out of things to talk about or repeat yourself.It is not a big deal if that happens when you are talking to a girl.
Step 3: Don't worry about saying the perfect thing.
Guys who are shy about talking to girls tend to romanticize the situation and think that when they talk to a cute girl, they have to say something absolutely perfect or astonishing to win her over, and then the two of you can walk off into the sunset together.If you tell the girl you like her shirt or talk about the concert you just went to, you will be fine.Don't search for the perfect turn of phrase, just say something to keep the conversation going.If you are too hung up on every word you say, you will be more likely to make a mistake.If you keep talking and don't overthink it, you will be much more impressive than if you say nothing for five minutes and then tell a joke.
Step 4: You should come up with a few topics in advance.
One thing you can do if you want to be less shy about talking to girls is to come up with some ideas for things you could talk about in advance.You may be too busy being in awe of the girl to think of anything to say.Before you start talking, make a mental list of three or four things you could say to her.Even if it flows so naturally that you don't say anything, this will make you feel more confident when you go into the conversation.You can discuss what you did over the weekend, your favorite band, what she did in the summer, or a class you have together.You can discuss your plans for the evening, a mutual friend, or something you just saw on the news.It takes two people to have a conversation.The girl can think of things if you can't.You aren't doing a comedy routine.You can both get involved in the conversation if you find something that you have in common with each other.
Step 5: In the end, all you can do is be yourself.
If you really want to get to know a girl, then you don't need to impress her with a different version of yourself.You can act a bit more polite and polished, but you shouldn't go too far outside your comfort zone unless you plan on keeping the act up forever.While you may not be as goofy as you are with your friends right away, you don't need to put up a fake persona of the guy you think the girl would rather talk to.She wants to know who you really are if she is standing in front of you having a conversation.
Step 6: Don't try to impress them too hard.
It will show if you try too hard to impress the girl.If you want to tell her about your plans to become a doctor, or about how awesome you are at soccer, this kind of talk can turn some girls away.You don't need to brag about the things you love.Even if you know how to juggle or do a backflip, you don't need to show the girl how good you are.If you spend enough time together, the girl will realize you are skilled.You can let her figure it out, instead of talking about how great you are.Girls like guys who project confidence.You want to show that you are happy and not acting like a jerk.
Step 7: Work to calm your nerves.
It is perfectly normal for you to be nervous before you talk to a girl.There are many things you can do to make yourself feel better before you open your mouth.A few simple tricks can make your next conversation with a girl less scary.Before you approach the girl, count to thirty in your head.This can make you feel more at ease.The focus should be on your breathing.You can start to feel more relaxed by breathing in through your mouth and nose ten times.If you have a stress ball or something that you can squeeze in your pocket, this can help ease some of the tension.It will make you look less nervous.Make eye contact with her.If you look at the floor or around you, you may end up feeling more nervous.
Step 8: They should be given a compliment.
If you feel shy talking to a girl, give her a compliment.It should be simple and sincere.You don't have to tell the girl that she's the prettiest in school.Tell her that you like the color of her sweater, that she has a new haircut, or that her earrings are unique.It is possible to compliment her smile or sense of humor.A simple compliment shows a girl that you care about her.If the conversation is not moving quickly, you can compliment the girl.If you don't mean what you say, they might not seem genuine.
Step 9: Ask them what they want to know.
Getting to know girls is one way to not be shy around them.The girl will see that you really care about her and want to get to know her better if you ask some simple questions.A simple comment like, "I have two cats" can be used to ask the girl a few things about herself so she doesn't feel like she's sharing too much.It will make her feel more comfortable.You can ask her about her hobbies and interests, as well as her favorite bands, TV shows, movies, or actors.
Step 10: It's a good time to talk about yourself a bit.
Asking the girl questions and being interested in her life can make you feel less shy, but another thing you can do is share a bit about yourself.It will open the conversation up for her to share more about herself, because you will feel more comfortable while the girl gets to know you a bit.She wants to leave the conversation feeling like she knows something about you.If you start to feel shy when you talk about more personal topics, just make sure you stick to the topics you know and feel the most comfortable talking about, whether it is sports or your dog, as long as they are interesting to her.If the girl asks you a question, try not to give her a "yes" or "no" answer, but spend more time explaining what you mean, so she feels like you want to talk to her.It will make you feel less shy if you just say something.
Step 11: It's a good idea to laugh at yourself.
Learning not to take yourself too seriously is one way to be less shy around girls.The girl won't be worried about keeping your ego intact if you can laugh at yourself or even crack up when you talk to her.People who are comfortable with themselves are happy to acknowledge that they aren't perfect, and if you want to feel more secure about talking to a girl, laughing at yourself can be a good thing.It is okay to laugh at yourself when you realize you have been repeating yourself.It is okay to laugh and say, "Well, I think you know everything there is to know about the Lakers now, don't you?" if you realize you have gotten so nervous.The girl is looking for you to be comfortable enough to acknowledge what happened.
Step 12: Have good body language.
It's possible to feel less shy around girls by having more confident body language.This will make you feel more confident when talking to girls.Keep your head up, avoid slouching, and keep your shoulders and arms nice and broad.If you cross your arms over your chest or turn away from the girl, you will be showing that you are not comfortable talking to her.If you feel shy, it is okay to break eye contact occasionally.Don't stare at the ground the whole time.When you turn your body toward the girl, it shows that you are excited about talking to her.Don't use your cell phone as a crutch when talking to the girl.Give her the attention she deserves.
Step 13: When the conversation is going well, end it.
If you are shy about talking to girls and worry about having the perfect conversation, then you should make sure that you leave a good note so you can talk to the girl again.It is possible to say that you had a great time talking to her if you have said a few things to each other.This will make you feel more confident talking to the girl the next time.If you leave just after you are laughing and having an amazing time, this will make for a more awkward ending than if you wait until you run out of things to say and then say goodbye.When you say goodbye, make it clear that you're looking forward to talking to the girl again, and don't be rude or abrupt.
Step 14: Some awkward pauses are okay.
Silence is one of the things that you dread the most, if you are nervous about talking to girls.A deafening silence will fall over you both as the girl stares at you, desperate for you to say the most fascinating comment of all time, because you are terrified that you will be talking to her for a minute or two.It is perfectly okay to have some pauses when you talk to a girl.If you're comfortable with it, you can say something sooner.You don't need to say "Well, this is awkward" or make it worse.Allow it to flow.If there is a silence, the girl will be looking for something to say.You won't be alone with it.
Step 15: Improve your self-esteem.
If you want to not be shy around girls, you have to be comfortable with yourself.You can't build up your self-esteem in a day, but there are some steps you can take to be a more comfortable, confident person.If you want to build up your self-esteem, you have to accept the things you can't change about yourself.Take the time to address the flaws that you can change.If you want to develop a new skill, spend more time doing something that you are good at.Hang out with people who make you feel better.Take care of yourself.If you shower regularly and wear well-fitting clothes, you can improve your self-esteem.
Step 16: It's a good idea to talk to new people.
It is possible to talk to new people more often in order to not be shy around girls.You can talk to the new guy in school, the girl who works in your grocery store, or even the guests who are visiting your neighbor.Talking to a new person can help you gain confidence and discover more things about yourself, as well as to get rid of some shyness that is making it hard for you to talk to girls.Talking to new people can help you find topics that appeal to everyone.To be okay with the fact that new conversations can be a little awkward at first is something it can help you learn.Being comfortable opening up can boost your confidence.If you see that you can appeal to more people, that will make you feel better about yourself.
Step 17: Put yourself out there.
If you want to not be shy around girls, you can make an effort to be a more social person who has more things going on.If you sign up for a sports team, debate team or community service club, you will be more likely to meet a variety of people of different ages and background, which will make you more comfortable with being yourself in more situations.You will be less shy when talking to girls if you live a more social lifestyle.If you are used to being socially active in a variety of situations, you will be able to talk to girls, even the most beautiful girls.This will happen without you even thinking about it.You will gain more social skills if you know more people.It will be harder for you to be less shy around girls if you only talk to the same friends.
Step 18: New relationships should not be put under too much pressure.
One of the reasons a lot of guys are shy about talking to girls is because they tend to idealize them, and to think that every girl they have a crush on or talk to is the one that they just have to be with forever.If you want to be less shy and have a more natural conversation, then you should take the pressure off and treat each conversation with a girl as just a conversation on its own terms.You will miss out on the present moment if you spend too much time thinking about your next conversation with the girl or wondering where it all will lead.Treat the girl like a human, not a goddess.It will make you feel better about not being perfect.
Step 19: It's a good idea to really listen.
It is possible to be less shy when you are around girls by taking the time to really listen to what they have to say.This will give you a clear picture of who they are and will allow you to discuss more things with them.If you make eye contact, put your phone away, and let the girl talk without interruption, she will be impressed by how much you care and the conversation will flow more easily.You can follow up on what she told you when she sees you again if you really listen to her.She will be really impressed if you remember that she had a piano recital that weekend or that her cousins were in town.A lot of people wait until their turn to speak.Listen to the girl instead of worrying about what you will say.
Step 20: You should become aware of when you talk too much.
It is perfectly normal to start talking about the most ridiculous topics when you are around a girl.If you catch yourself doing that, you should try to turn your attention back to the girl and ask her a question or get her to speak more.You can laugh at yourself if you talk too much.You don't want to dominate the conversation or make the girl feel like she has to do all the talking when you talk to her.