You might head out with a mission in mind if you go out on the town with your friends.It's not bad to say hello and see what happens when you approach someone at a bar.If you want to pick up a guy at a bar the next time you are out and about, try to stay confident and break the ice with a flirtatious conversation.
Step 1: You can order a drink at the bar.
When you get to the bar, order something you like to drink.You can drink whatever you want, and you can chat with the bartender as you order.You can ask the bartender if they see any hotties in the crowd.
Step 2: There is a guy in the bar who isn't on a date.
Make sure you look for guys who don't look like they're on a date with someone else.They may be with a group of friends or on their own.If a guy is in a relationship with someone who isn't at the bar, he might reject your advances.
Step 3: From across the room, make eye contact.
If you can catch their eye, then give them a smile.They are most likely interested in having a conversation if they hold eye contact with you.They might not be interested in you if they don't smile or break eye contact.Give him a wave to let him know you're interested.
Step 4: Send a guy a drink to get his attention.
If you want to be bold, ask the bartender to give your guy a drink.You can either write a note or have the bartender point you out.The guy might come over to chat with you on his own.If you write a note with the drink, you could say something like, "Are we going to make eye contact all night, or should we actually introduce ourselves?"
Step 5: Break the ice with a flirtatious statement.
As you walk over to the guy, try to make him laugh with a joke or compliment.The guy knows that you are trying to flirt.You can say, "I noticed your outfit from across the room."You could say, "That jacket looks amazing on you!" or "A lot of oldies in the bar tonight, huh?"
Step 6: Ask the guy's name.
After the icebreakers are over, it is time for a formal introduction.Keep it short and simple, and ask what your name is.If you want to be cute and flirtatious, you can shake their hand.Say, "My name's Jennifer."I'm Robert. What's yours?It is really nice to meet you.
Step 7: Have a flirtatious conversation.
As you talk to your potential date, let your personality shine.Ask him questions about his hobbies and what he does for a living.Try to keep the conversation light, and stick to topics that won't start an argument or leave either of you feeling down.You could say "So what's a handsome guy like you doing in a town like this?" or "Don't you just love Fridays?"
Step 8: Let him know you're interested by touching his arm.
As you chat with each other, try to get your message across by flirtatious touching.If you are laughing at a joke, lightly touch his arm to make it funnier.Go for a bold approach and ask to feel his muscles.Don't push it if he shies away from you or seems uncomfortable.
Step 9: Eye contact and smiles are flirtatious.
Look at the guy's body language.Chances are he is into you if he smiles a lot and keeps eye contact.He might not be feeling well tonight if he seems distracted or short on answers to your questions.It is okay for you to exit the conversation even if you started it.
Step 10: If you are both feeling the same, exchange numbers.
As you finish your conversation, make sure to give each other your information.Try to get it into the conversation with a flirtatious quip.If you say, "I would better give you my number in case of an emergency", you might get a more direct approach.
Step 11: If you want to, ask him if he wants to leave with you.
It's fine if you want a guy to take home or go home with you tonight.If you want to take it a step further, you should leave the bar together and go somewhere a little more private.If you don't feel comfortable leaving with a stranger, always tell a friend where you're going.You can say something like, "It's pretty loud in here."I would love to take a tour of your house if you want to go back to my place.
Step 12: If he doesn't seem interested, go back to your friends.
It is okay to head back to your group if the guy you are talking to is not interested in you.You can regroup with your friends and try to find someone who is more interested in chatting.Say something like, "Well, I should head back to my friends now."It is probably not personal when you get rejected.Don't let it get you down, and move onto the next guy.