Being a mother can be a challenge.It's easy to get caught up in small details in the busy world of motherhood.Many mothers worry that they will pass on a stress mentality to their children.If you want to be a better mom, you should practice regular self care, spend quality time with your kids, and develop a sense of perspective.
Step 1: Self care can be practiced.
You need to care for yourself if you want to take care of others.Remember that your kids look up to you, and that you need the energy gained from good self care habits.A healthy lifestyle involves regular self care.Being a mother is seen as a game of sacrifice.In order to meet their child's needs, mothers are expected to give up luxuries.The approach can backfire.Kids will learn to let their own needs go unmet.Showing your child how to take care of himself is the best way to teach him.
Step 2: Try to breathe deeply.
Deep breathing can help keep you calm if you're feeling stressed out.If you're having a high stress day, practice this technique.Slowly breathe in.It's better to take air into your stomach than it is to your chest.Hold in the air, count to four.While counting to four, squeeze your lips and exhale slowly.Rest for four counts without taking a breath.Take two breaths and stop the activity.
Step 3: When you're stressed, admit it.
Many mothers believe that admitting to stress is weakness.This is not the case.It's better to admit when you're stressed than not to at all.All mothers get stressed and all aspects of life come with stress attached.It is okay to admit to being overwhelmed.It's easier to experience these feelings if you know that they're normal and okay.Don't hesitate to seek professional help if you're having trouble managing stress.You can get help from a therapist or counselor.Asking for a referral from your doctor is one way to find a therapist.
Step 4: You should know tricks to reduce anxiety.
There are small tricks you can do to reduce anxiety.If you need a quick and simple stress relief, keep the following techniques in mind.You should close your eyes.Close your eyes for 30 seconds if you feel overwhelmed by a situation and don't need to be vigilant.Shutting out the world gives you a chance to regroup.You should drink water.It's good to have a glass of cold water.The act of drinking and the clear nature of water help people relax.Listen to the music.Listen to some soothing songs on your iPod or laptop.It's a good idea to have a relaxing music collection on hand when you're stressed out.Try to be outside.People tend to be more relaxed if they don't have to stay in a house all day.A quick walk around the block can help you relax.
Step 5: Seek support groups.
A lot of mothers struggle from time to time.It can be comforting to seek out support in order to know you're not alone.People talk about mothering and parenthood on online forums.There is a group of moms in your community who meet to talk about their experiences.It is possible to become the best mom you can be if you seek out support and advice.
Step 6: If you need help, ask for it.
It's difficult to care for yourself.If you have young children and are the primary care giver in your household, this is even more true.Asking for help is okay.If your brother or mother can take the kids on an afternoon outing, you can catch up on sleep.Ask your partner or spouse to watch the kids for a weekend afternoon if you're co-parenting.
Step 7: It is okay to be imperfect.
School and extracurricular activities are becoming more competitive.Children have high expectations.It is important for a mother to remind her children that it is okay to make mistakes.Kids need to be happy.Encourage your child to explore his interests in things like sports and arts, but remind him that it's okay to take a break and relax as well.Tell him that his work at school and extracurriculars should be driven by a love of learning and a particular hobby.Allow your child to make mistakes.Even great athletes play less than perfect games if your daughter misses a shot.If your son doesn't become the first chair saxophone player, remind him that he should play because he loves music and not to be the best.Allowing your child to make mistakes will help them grow and become more confident.
Step 8: The focus should be on the positives.
It is possible to model a positive attitude for your child by focusing on the good things in life.A "glass half full" mentality will increase your child's sense of happiness and security.Try to look on the bright side of the situation and focus on your kid's positive attributes.It will help you and your kids relax.
Step 9: Don't compare yourself or your kids to other people.
It can be a very competitive endeavor.Many parents brag about their children and hold them to the same standards as others their age.Your child is a unique person.Do not compare him to other kids.Children have strengths and weaknesses and move and develop at their own pace.If your son is still struggling with basic math, he should be reading at a high grade level.Your daughter might excel at biology and not remember dates in history class."Everyone is a genius in their own way," was the old saying.If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its entire life believing that it's stupid.Don't encourage your kids to compare themselves to others.They might be tempted to compare themselves to other students who are more successful or advanced as they move on in school.If you catch your kid doing this, remind him that he's special and unique.Rather than holding himself to the standards of those around him, tell him to focus on himself and his work.Don't compare yourself to other people.Children are taught by example.Your kids will learn to compare themselves to others if you compare yourself to other mothers frequently.
Step 10: Help your child solve problems.
There are problems and setbacks in life.If you are a mother, you may be tempted to fix issues for your child.As your kids get older, it's more effective to teach them problem-solving techniques so they can be more independent.Both your stress levels will be reduced.When your child explains a problem, listen.Slowly show him or her how to work through the problem.Your daughter is frustrated that her friend Eve is always the teacher.Understand why your daughter is hesitant to tell Eve that she wants to be a teacher.The two of you can talk about effective communication strategies she could use to talk to Eve about the issue.You could say, "Why don't you ask Eve if you two can play teacher?"It's important to you if you haven't said it to her.She might think that you prefer to be a student.Going through problem-solving techniques with your child will help them to be more independent.They will be less dependent on you to help them with small problems throughout the week.They will be able to address stressors in their lives.It results in less stress for you and your kids.Your child may not always want your help.Sometimes he/she wants someone to listen.This is true for teenagers.
Step 11: It's a good idea to teach your child good sleep habits.
If you want to keep your household calm, you need to prioritize sleep.Poor sleep habits can lead to high stress levels.It is a good idea to have a regular night's sleep.The body adjusts to the sleep cycle we provide.Your kids will feel tired if they always go to bed at 9 o'clock.Relax at night with relaxing rituals.A bath before bed can help your kids sleep better.There are relaxation techniques that can help.Talk to your child about breathing.Ask your child to imagine a calm place.Encourage him to imagine the smells, sounds, and sights of a pleasant memory until he falls asleep.
Step 12: Encourage positive self-image attitudes.
Children should be taught to be healthy and eat right.They should be encouraged to be healthy for their own benefits and not impress anyone else.What constitutes a balanced diet and how to have fun while being physically active should be taught to your kids.They should be discouraged from comparing themselves to others.Try to work on your body image issues with a counselor or therapist.Kids pick up on bad eating and exercising habits from their parents.
Step 13: A healthy lifestyle can be modeled.
Take breaks from work.It is a good idea to stop to eat lunch at midday.It's important to get enough sleep at night.Go see your friends with a babysitter.Many mothers feel guilty, but you don't need to worry.Your children will not feel neglected or overlooked, but they will come to realize what a positive, healthy lifestyle looks like.
Step 14: Let go of things that are not perfect.
Learning to forgive small flaws is part of a solid perspective.It's not possible to be the perfect mother all the time.Accept that there will be things that don't turn out as expected.There are times when chores fall to the wayside.It's possible that you won't get laundry, dishes, and vacuuming done on the exact schedule you want.If you can, try to let it go.Dinner dishes can be washed in the morning or at night.It's possible you won't make it to every event.You could end up missing a family dinner night or a church meeting.Don't stress and remind yourself that you're doing the best you can.
Step 15: Reconsider priorities.
The stress of being a mother is often due to skewed priorities.Some mothers get caught up in small matters instead of focusing on what's really important.It's important to remember that time over money is what matters.Quality one-on-one time with your kids is what really matters, even if you can't afford the same toys a child across the street has.Think about how you spend money.Extra money is spent on sports equipment, art supplies, and other things to fuel a child's passion.It's important to encourage your kids to explore their interests, but remember that time is more important.Pay someone to help out with cleaning instead of buying a new piano for your daughter to practice on.You could use the time on the dishes and laundry to listen to your daughter play.
Step 16: Try to be grateful.
It can be hard to feel grateful when you're stressed, but gratitude can help put things in perspective.Even though things are hard, try to be thankful for your family and children.It can make for a more harmonious home.
Step 17: Ask for help.
Many mothers think asking for help is a sign of defeat.This is not the case.If your parents can take the kids for the afternoon, it's okay to ask the sitter to stay extra hours.Being a mom is hard and healthy to occasionally reach out to others if you need help, it's also good to teach your kids that asking for help is ok.