Breakups are hard, and they can be made even harder if your partner sends you a text about ending your relationship instead of talking to you in person.Your reply depends on how long you were together and what you've been through.You can either ask for clarification, respond with dignity, or show your partner that you don't care at all if you get a break up text.
Step 1: You should give yourself time to calm down.
You might want to text back when you get a break up.You might say something that you regret if you aren't in the best state of mind.Try to wait between one hour and one day to respond to a text.You might need more time to process your feelings.
Step 2: Talk to a friend about your feelings.
If you got dumped over text, you might need to vent to someone.Ask a friend or family member if they can listen to you talk about your feelings.If you can get your emotions out, it will make you feel better.They might have advice on how to respond to the text.
Step 3: When you are thinking calmly, respond.
It might take some time, but you should only reply if you are not letting your feelings cloud your reply.If your relationship lasted a long time, you might be able to think through your feelings quickly, but if it was short, it might take you more time to process your break up.It can ruin the potential to stay on good terms with your ex- partner if you respond too soon.
Step 4: Text them a message.
You may have seen the text coming if you were anticipating your break up.If you don't feel like you need to talk to your partner about why the relationship is ending, you can reply with your understanding and not ask for any more clarification.Try using short phrases.It is understandable.I see the picture.
Step 5: If you want to stay on good terms, wish them the best.
It can be done if you stay friends with your partner.Wishing the person well can help you stay on speaking terms with them.Try texting "I'm grateful for the time we had together and I wish you all the best."Thanks for letting me know.I hope you have a good relationship.I hope we can still be friends after having fun with you.
Step 6: While still being civil, express your anger about their text.
No matter what, being dumped over text doesn't feel good.You don't have to be rude or angry if you show that you are unhappy with the way things ended.I am disappointed in the way you handled the situation but I respect your decision.I understand that you did not communicate this with me in another way.
Step 7: To show interest, text back one word.
You can text your partner a one-word answer if you want to show they didn't affect you that much.If you want to stay together, you should only text back this way.There are some examples of one word answers.Gotcha.
Step 8: Show indifference with a funny goodbye message.
If you are okay with your relationship ending and you would like to just say goodbye to your partner, you can text them with a goofy goodbye message.If you want to stay on good terms with your ex- partner while still being funny, you can use this method.Use phrases like: catch you on the side of the road.You will see you later, alligator.There is peace out.
Step 9: Don't reply at all to show that you care.
If you want to send a message, you can read the text and not reply to your partner.When you don't mind burning a bridge with someone, it will not provide much closure for either of you and can leave your ex-partner with hurt feelings.This tactic is usually seen as immature, so be careful if you decide to use it.
Step 10: If you want to talk with your partner, you should meet in person.
You can ask your significant other if they will meet with you in person if you want more clarification from them.If your relationship was long, and you broke up over text, it's not out of bounds to ask to meet in person.Meeting in person can give you more of a reason to stay in a relationship.I would like to speak with you in person.Do you have time to meet me?
Step 11: Ask them to talk.
If your partner doesn't want to meet with you, you can call them and talk about your break up.It is better to talk over the phone than it is to text, because you can hear someone's voice as they speak, and give them more closure.If you want to get more information over the phone, say, "I got your text and I wanted to talk more about it with you."They are likely unwilling to talk it out if they don't answer your initial call.You can leave a final message.
Step 12: Ask them to give you more information.
If your partner doesn't want to meet you in person or talk on the phone with you, you can try to talk to them through text messages.Asking for clarification or more information over text is better than not getting it.Text "I'm not sure where you're coming from"I was positive that things were going well.Is it possible to explain a little more?Try to come to terms with the fact that the person doesn't respond to your request.If they're unwilling to elaborate, don't push for more information.