You're probably getting a lot of messages now that you swiped right.You're bound to find some great matches if you respond based on whether you want to get to know the guy, set up a meeting, or need help.
Step 1: If he sends a short message, send a brief reply.
If you want to show interest but are shy, reply with something simple.If you want it to seem friendlier, you can add a hand-waving emoji.You will get on his radar with this response.Tell Eric something like, "Hey Eric!It will be up to him to move the conversation forward after he met you.
Step 2: To keep the conversation going, ask a simple question.
If you want to steer the conversation in a certain direction, reply with a simple question.Try to get to know a little more about him by avoiding questions that are too personal in the beginning.If you want to start a conversation, you can write, "How's it going?"He has a chance to tell you about what he has been doing.A more targeted question would be, "How was your weekend?" answering that would allow him to share some activities of interest to him.
Step 3: To point out something that interests you about him, Comment on his biography.
Direct comments on his biography help the guy understand why you are interested in him in the first place and give the conversation a direction to go.You compete in triathlons.Wow, how long have you been doing that?I read in your bio that you have four sisters!He has a chance to talk about his family because he has spent a lot of time around women.
Step 4: Give him something else to say about you.
If you have an interest in the same things as him, you could talk to him about it.Stay true to your interests.You should only reveal what you are comfortable with.If both of you like sports, I bet you are tired from watching the overtime and penalty shots from the hockey game last night.Can you believe we won?Tell him that you are training for a half marathon and have a common interest.It will be my sixth.How long have you been running?
Step 5: To show you are interested, reply with a flirtatious remark.
Show interest after you've been talking for a while.Tell him you enjoy talking with him or tease him for saying something silly.You could say, "I enjoy chatting with you."Express to him, "I can't believe how comfortable I am talking to you, you seem really funny and sweet."We have known each other a long time.
Step 6: If you think it would spark a conversation, send a Gif.
The tone of the conversation can be set by this.Images are a good way to keep your response simple, but be different from the other responses he might receive.It could be funny, nostalgic or silly.It is possible to use these images to advance the conversation or share something about your personality.
Step 7: You can learn more about him by looking at one of his photos.
This will show you how long it took you to look through his pictures.Don't be afraid to say nice things.You can say, "Hey, I love the photo of you at the waterfall."Point out that you look really happy in that picture of you at the beach.What beach were you going to?
Step 8: If the conversation is lagging, respond with a wild card question.
This can show that you are willing to do things on your own.It can show him a new side of you and give him some insight into your personality.You could ask, "Have you ever been whitewater rafting?"It may seem random, but it can bring out more conversation.
Step 9: If you want him to know you have a funny side, send him a joke.
Break the ice with humor if the discussion stalls.If you want to get a laugh or smile, show a flirtatious side, a funny side or both.A funny joke would be, "What's the difference between a poorly dressed man on a tricycle and a well-dressed man riding a bicycle?"At the end of life.
Step 10: To gauge his interest, ask about his agenda.
If you're interested in continuing the conversation, you might want to know what he's looking for.If he is only interested in a call, you should give him your number.You could say, "I'm interested in meeting up."If you keep it light, you can get a read on what he is hoping for.If you want to be more serious, you should say, "So I'm enjoying our conversations but I am wondering what type of connection you are looking for?"
Step 11: Offer to meet after the call if you give him your number.
If you would like to meet him in person, give your number and talk about it.You can hear the tone in his voice to see if he's interested.You can say, "I'm really enjoying getting to know you, here's my number."If you give him a call, he will know that you are interested in moving forward, but you want to plan it together.If you want to talk first, you should say "Here's my number."I would love to chat with you.Maybe we can meet up.
Step 12: For your first face to face meeting, offer a casual, safe meet up location with friends.
Let him know that you'd like to chat over coffee or drinks.If you want to be safe, choose a location that is public and where there will be other people around.You could say, "My friends and I are going out for drinks later, I would love if you dropped by so that we can meet." or "There's a watch party for the World Series game tonight in town."I will be hanging out with some friends.Why don't you join us?
Step 13: If you're ready to be alone with him, suggest a traditional type date.
If you want a more romantic setting than going for drinks with friends, you could suggest a real date.For the two of you, this is still a public place for safety.There is a great park by the river downtown, what if I pack a picnic lunch, you grab something for dessert, and we go kayaking?Would you like to meet up for dinner this weekend?
Step 14: If you don't want to move forward, tell him.
It's not fun for anyone involved.It is advisable to be direct and honest.If you've been chatting with this guy for a while, it's time to move on.Let him know that you enjoyed chatting, but that it isn't going any further.Tell him that he doesn't think we have enough in common.I wish you the best of luck, but I don't want to waste your time.
Step 15: Tell him if he turned you off.
Sometimes you have to respond to someone who makes a bad comment.If he goes down a path you don't want him to go down, be ready with a response.I'm not interested in something like that.Good luck finding someone else.
Step 16: If he doesn't give you anything, you should stop responding.
You should stop responding if he ignores you or tries to get your attention after you have made it clear you are done.He will get the message loud and clear eventually.If he has made comments that put you down or made it clear that he can't accept you for who you are, stop responding and move on.He isn't worth your time.You don't have to respond to messages.Don't reply if they're off-putting to you.