It is possible that your boyfriend or girlfriend will start talking about having sex.Not everyone is ready for sex at the same time in their lives, and it's normal to want to wait.It's fine to tell your partner that you want to wait.It's a good idea to let your partner know that you aren't ready for sex.
Step 1: Don't confuse love and sex.
Sex and love are not the same issue and can get confused for each other.You can have a loving relationship with your partner.Sex doesn't have to be involved in order to prove your love.If you know that sex and love are separate issues, you can say no to sex if you don't feel ready.You shouldn't feel pressured to have sex if you're just dating a person.A loving partner won't force you to have sex.
Step 2: "No" whenever you want.
Teens who have already had sex with their partner may feel like they can't say no in the future.It is possible to say no to sex at any time.You can still say no at any point, even if you've already had sex with a former partner or current partner.You don't need to say "Yes" in the future if you've had sex before.Sex with a previous partner does not mean you should have sex with your current partner.
Step 3: Practice saying no.
If you are unsure about saying no to sex, you may want to practice.It's easier to say "No" when the issue presents itself, if you practice saying it in a way that you're comfortable with.Think about how you want to say no and then say it out loud.This can help you understand how to say no in a way that is right for you.Do you feel comfortable saying no?You can say no in any way you want.You don't need to make excuses.It's enough to say no.It's a good idea to say, "No, I don't want to have sex," or "I'm not ready for sex."
Step 4: Think about why.
You might not understand why you don't want to have sex.You don't have to explain your stance.Understanding why you might want to avoid sex can help you make a better decision.There are some reasons why you might want to wait before having sex.You are aware of the risks of being pregnant and what it would mean for your future.You are aware that contracting a sexually transmitted disease is a risk.You might be concerned about how you will feel after.You don't want to be pressured into having sex.You know it's not the right time.It is against your religious beliefs.
Step 5: Discuss your relationship with your partner.
The best way to let your partner know that you aren't ready to have sex is to talk.A caring partner will listen to your concerns and respect your wishes.If you don't want to have sex, your partner will only know about it if you tell them you're not ready.If you don't feel comfortable talking to your partner, you can get help from your school counselor.You can get advice from your parents.A good partner will listen to your feelings about sex.If your partner doesn't want to listen to you on sex, you may need to rethink your relationship.
Step 6: Don't allow pressure to get to you.
Your partner may try to convince you that having sex is the best option.Stand firm in your choice not to have sex and avoid giving into anything she might say or do.Listen to your thoughts and feelings before having sex.You need to honor your feelings if you are not comfortable having sex.Don't compromise on your own to meet her needs.Being pressured into sex can be a sign that your partner doesn't respect you.You don't have to prove your love to your partner by having sex with her.Sex won't prove anything.
Step 7: You should make yourself clear.
Setting clear boundaries can help you avoid future issues.Let your partner know what's acceptable and what isn't.Making your boundaries clear can make you and your partner more comfortable.It's okay if you're not sure of your boundaries.If your partner does something you aren't comfortable with, tell him to stop.You should be clear with your boundaries.Don't allow your partner to push or go beyond your boundaries.You can change your mind.You can tell your partner to stop if you decide you don't want to do it anymore.
Step 8: If necessary, break up.
It's possible that your partner isn't listening to you when you say that you're not ready for sex.She may try to get you to have sex or bring it up.A partner that isn't respecting your needs, feelings, and concerns might not be a good one.If your partner isn't listening when you say no to sex, the relationship might have to end.If your partner won't respect your decision not to have sex, it may be bad for your relationship.Values and needs are more important than the relationship.When it comes to not having sex, you deserve someone who respects your choice.
Step 9: Think about the responses.
There are a few ideas that your partner can use to get you to have sex.The ideas range from comparing your relationship to others to emotional blackmail.Knowing how to respond to these tactics can help you in your decision not to have sex.”If you really loved me, you'd have sex with me” is a sign of disrespect from your partner and is one of the more common persuasion tactics.If you really loved me, you would respect my choice not to have sex with me.I'm sorry you feel that way.Everyone else is having sex, so I hope you find someone else.You could say, "Our relationship isn't everyone else's."I will do what's right for me.
Step 10: You can go on group dates.
Group dates can be a great way to enjoy your partner's company and reduce the chance of sexual pressure coming up.You, your date, and your friends can all enjoy a night out together and not worry about anything sexual.Bringing other couples or friends with you on your dates will help you avoid difficult situations.You can go on a date with another couple or a larger group.You shouldn't be alone together.You should not leave public spaces or your friends.
Step 11: Do not drink or use drugs.
If you want to avoid situations where you might be pressured into having sex, you need a clear head.It is possible to have an effect on your thoughts and feelings towards sex by drinking alcohol or taking drugs.If you have been drinking or using substances, you are more likely to engage in sexual behavior.If you stay sober on your dates, you will be less likely to make bad decisions.
Step 12: Don't forget to wear a reminder.
Some people find it helpful to wear a token to remind them of their dedication to not having sex.If you encounter a situation where sex might seem tempting, these can help you stay focused on your choice.If you don't want to have sex, wear something that reminds you of your decision.If you don't want to have sex, you might wear jewelry such as a necklace, ring, or bracelet.Make sure your reminder is easy to remember.
Step 13: You should surround yourself with good friends.
Your friends can have a big influence on your decisions.You can keep your commitment if you have good friends who support you not having sex.Talking with your friends will help you say "no" to sex.Your friends can help you make a decision.Try talking with friends who share the same goal.Don't talk to friends who try to convince you to say no to sex.