Your crush is sitting across from you.It's so close and yet so far.How do you start a conversation with someone you barely know?It's not as hard as you think.The first step is to be on your way to kisses and hand-holding.
Step 1: Understand your crush's hobbies and interests.
It's important to pay attention to what your crush does.People enjoy talking about things they like.For topics to be discussed, look for common ground between you.Find out what they do on the weekends and what their extracurricular activities are.You can ask their friends or pay attention to what they say.
Step 2: Get to know your crush's personality.
Are they shy?Maybe they are very social.You can get an idea of how to approach your crush by taking cues from his or her social interactions.It's a good idea to avoid talking to them around other people or being very open with your affection if they're shy.
Step 3: You can get a rough idea of your crush's schedule.
You can't have a conversation if you're both in the same place.This information will make you more likely to have a run-in with your crush.If paying attention isn't enough, you can always ask one of their friends to help.Good friends will help their friend get a boyfriend or girlfriend.Make sure they are trustworthy.
Step 4: To feel good, look good.
To show your crush that you think they're worth the effort, you want to look your best.It will give you a boost of confidence if you feel comfortable with your appearance.Get a fresh haircut or style your hair in a nice way.It will look out of place if you go for a totally new hairstyle.You should wear an outfit that your crush likes.Make sure your clothes are clean and free of stains andwrinkles.It will go a long way if you wash, shave, and smell pleasant.
Step 5: Pick the time and place.
Depending on what you learned about your crush, choosing the time and place of your conversation could be very important.If you want to have a one-on-one conversation with your crush, start it when he is alone.The conversation can be casual if you are in a group.
Step 6: Start the conversation with confidence.
Make eye contact with your crush.Your body language is indicative of your interest.A smile wouldn't hurt.They are just like you.Even if things don't go as you plan, everything will be okay in the end.
Step 7: Open questions can be used.
These are questions that can't be answered with a simple yes or no.The goal is to keep them talking and create a real conversation, because this will give you the most opportunities to respond.Open questions usually start with "why" or "how", or deal with complex subject matters.You could ask what it was like to grow up in New York and then have to move here.Why did you want to take that class?How are you enjoying working with _____?
Step 8: Pay attention to your crush's body language.
Ask your crush follow-up questions on topics he seemed interested in.Tone of voice and body language can show you how the conversation is going.You should stop if they seem disinterested or distracted.You don't want to make them think you're awkward.I was supposed to call my aunt for her birthday, but I forgot.Try again.
Step 9: Allow your crush to do the same as you.
When the conversation starts, give your crush space to express their interests and opinions.It's important to focus the conversation on them in the early stages of getting to know each other.You don't want them to think you're self-centered.
Step 10: Talk about school or work.
Depending on how you know each other, you can start a conversation by talking about school or work.Have you taken math with Heiser?I'm not sure if I want to take it next semester.Did you hear that the break room will be renovated?I need a new TV.What do you think about that?
Step 11: Discuss something happening around you.
While standing near each other, you can comment on something that's happening nearby.Since this will give your crush the wrong impression of what you're like, just be sure it isn't critical of or insulting to other people.Did you see that?I would like to see more people like that.It's great to see.It's a shame how he is talking to her.She is deserving of more respect.She works very hard.
Step 12: Something about them should be commented on.
Ask a question about the origin or story of something they're wearing.Badge pins, nice shoes, and tee shirts with band logos are things that they are clearly proud of.That is a cool Burning Man shirt.Have you ever left?I have always wanted to go.The button is sweet.Who's your favorite character?
Step 13: Ask a question.
You might want to ask them a question about something.If you want a conversation to continue, the subject will need to be changed quickly.Do you know where the Smith Building is?Do you know how to open this?I can't tell if I'm dumb or weak because of my wrists.
Step 14: Ask for help.
It takes less than a minute for them to give you a tiny favor.It will give you a way to start a conversation with positive feelings because people like to feel useful.I don't think you could help me get to the stuff on the upper shelf.The chairs are not safe to stand on.Can you hold this coffee for a second while I put this away?I don't want that to happen.
Step 15: Ask about their past.
Ask them about where they are.Ask how they know the host at a party.Ask them if they've lived in the area before you go to school or hang out with friends.
Step 16: Discuss a recent event.
Talk about something happening in the news in your area.If you want to get to know them as a person, this is a good way to start.Did you hear about the protest rally this weekend?I was considering going.Did you hear the city is going to tear down that highway?Traffic is going to be bad.
Step 17: Talk about a show or movie.
Comment on or ask about a recent movie or TV show, either one that you like a lot or one you haven't watched yet.Get their opinion and use it to start a conversation.You can turn the conversation into a usable topic even if they haven't seen it before.Have you seen the new Spider Man yet?I'm trying to figure out if it's worth seeing.I need someone to be excited with, so please tell me you watch Game of Throne.Do you not?It's awesome, you should!", etc."
Step 18: Applause for them!
It's a great way to start a conversation.Try to compliment them on something they control, like their clothing choice, instead of something that they don't like.It's not unique to them to compliment things like hair and eyes.
Step 19: Tell the truth.
Tell them that you want to get to know them and that they look interesting.Many people will appreciate honesty, especially people who are on the attractive side and are used to people trying to be coy in order to talk to them.