A key part of a wedding is speeches.Usually, the best man and maid of honor give speeches for the bride and groom, but sometimes the couple's parents give toasts.If you've been asked to give a wedding speech, it's important to make a good first impression.You should find stories and memories with the people getting married.Introduce yourself and thank the couple for including you in the speech.Set up a transition into the rest of your speech by remembering a few memories.
Step 1: Before the wedding, write your speech.
A successful wedding speech requires preparation.It takes time and some rewrites to make sure your introduction flows with the rest of the speech.Take some time before the wedding to write your speech.If you don't like it, then edit it.If you start early, you will not have to worry about running out of time.The time for writing a speech varies from person to person.You should think about the wedding at least a week in advance because you may be busy preparing.If you are a slow writer, you should start planning a month in advance.Don't write the speech on the day of the wedding.
Step 2: There are brainstorm memories with the person you are toasting.
It's important to reflect on your relationship with your friends and spouse at a wedding.The best tip for writing a speech is to remember the person before you meet their spouse.Reflecting on your memories makes you more creative for the rest of the speech.Pick two or three of the memories to include in the speech.You can include a selection if you write down multiple stories.You don't have to use all of them.This makes your brain work.If you are the maid of honor and the bride is your sister, there could be times when you helped each other out.The story of how you met the person, as well as a funny or profound experience you had when you were younger, are included in wedding speeches.The meeting story should be included in the introduction.
Step 3: To keep everyone entertained, plan lighthearted jokes.
While you shouldn't approach the speech like a stand-up routine, starting off with a few jokes is a great way to keep the mood light.A few good joke ideas will make the audience laugh.All humor should be clean and lighthearted.Don't make fun of someone.Pick one of your favorite jokes and start the speech with a laugh.A harmless joke for your introduction could be, "I have to thank the bride and groom for including me on their special day and providing the drinks, because otherwise I wouldn't have the courage to give this speech."1 or 2 inside jokes are okay, but get rid of any more so the whole reception is in on the joke.If you use inside jokes, make sure to explain them to the audience.I'm here to toast Skinny now.Do you know why I call the groom skinny?Back in high school, our football coach threatened to bench him because he didn't go to the gym enough.
Step 4: You should match the humor to your personality.
It is important to remember that this speech is personal to you.Don't do what you're told to do.You can use humor, phrases, and inflections.This makes your speech more real.If you are a best man, you should tell a lot of jokes about the groom.If you are a stern person and don't tell jokes, forcing some out will not look genuine.If you want to stay consistent with your character, opt for a few wholesome jokes instead of frat boy-style jokes.If you are a laid-back person, don't try to be more serious.Put your personality in your speech.
Step 5: Do you know if your jokes are appropriate?
Not all of the people at a wedding share your sense of humor.You should get a few other people's opinions on your jokes before the wedding day.Eliminate the joke if someone tells you it's offensive.You do not want to upset someone at the wedding.You should try to reach out to other people for opinions.If your friends share your sense of humor, you may not know if certain jokes are appropriate.
Step 6: It's a good idea to avoid offensive or inappropriate content.
Some topics are off-limits for wedding speeches.Light humor is expected, but never try to offend the bride and groom.If you have doubts about a joke or comment, get rid of it.Past relationships, sex, racial or ethnic jokes, and stories that you know embarrassing the bride or groom are some of the key topics to avoid.Don't talk about topics that might be a secret.The groom might not know that you took an impromptu vacation with the bride while he was away on a business trip once.It's a good rule to avoid jokes about the spouse.If you are the maid of honor, don't tell any jokes about the bride or the best man.If you have a good relationship with the person, you don't want it to look like you're making fun of them.
Step 7: Don't use words that are hard to say.
You have to say the words out loud while you are writing your speech.There are some things that sound good on paper.If you read your speech back to yourself, you'll know if it flows well.You should revise any parts that trip you up.If you say 2 vowels that quickly, you will look like a tongue twister.It is much easier to say "I'm so excited".If you always trip over a word or phrase, keep that in mind.It is easier to just eliminate the word that is giving you trouble if you are practicing and getting tripped up at a certain spot.
Step 8: Go to the reception and introduce yourself.
It is unlikely that you will know everyone at the wedding, so start with a brief introduction.Say your name and who you are at the wedding.You can connect with members of the reception who have not yet met you.You don't need a great introduction.Sarah is the best friend and maid of honor of the bride.If you can, use a little bit of humor in your introduction.Someone decided it was a good idea for me to give a speech and say hi to everyone.
Step 9: Thanks to the bride and groom for including you.
This is an expected part of all wedding speeches.You have to thank the bride and groom for putting the wedding together before you can move on.There is still a bit of humor in this part.For added points, also thank the guests for coming and making the event possible.
Step 10: When you first met the person at the wedding, count.
It's unique to you and your relationship to the person getting married.A funny or moving story about meeting the person you are there with will start the speech.Guests can see the depth of your relationship by establishing the bond between you two.Rather than introducing it out of nowhere, try to make this a natural part of the speech.I first met the bride in our freshman year of high school, but I never thought I would be standing here ten years later.Think about your first memory of the bride or groom if you have known them your whole life.My first memory of my brother is when he poured spaghetti on my head.
Step 11: You should transition into the story you are going to tell.
A main story is the center of most wedding speeches.This usually includes your friend or family member meeting their spouse, and how you knew this was the right person for them.The introduction should set the story up with a consistent theme or tone.A good sentence will flow into the story.It depends on your relationship with the person.You should spend the introduction talking about how you met the groom in college and thought he would never get married.When he met his wife, he started talking about having a family.The rest of the speech should cover how he changed for the better.In stories that don't involve a lot of change, this tactic will work.John always knew what he wanted in life.It is a good transition to say that I knew Kristin was perfect for him.
Step 12: Wrap up the introduction in a few minutes.
Don't say anything in the introduction because you have the rest of the speech to give.Give your thanks, make a few jokes, and tell a quick story.It takes about 3 minutes for your intro to finish.If there is a situation, adjust your approach.If you are the only one speaking, you have more time to introduce yourself.If there are more than one speaker, finish your speech in 5 minutes.Your introduction should be no more than 2 minutes.Remember to speak at a fast pace when speaking at the wedding.
Step 13: The rest of the speech should be written.
Get on with the rest of the speech after you nailed the introduction.Make your speech consistent by remembering the themes and stories you set up.Keep the jokes light, congratulate the couple, and toast the bride and groom.After you write the rest of the speech, go back to the beginning and see how it goes.If you have to make revisions, make them match the rest.Go on to the rest of the speech if you get stuck on the introduction.Some people prefer to write the introduction the way it is supposed to be written.