If she's someone you're interested in, talking to her on the phone can be nerve-racking.It's just like talking with a friend on the phone.If you want to ask her out on a date or just get to know her better, staying calm is the key to a successful phone call.
Step 1: You have a reason to call.
You need to know why you are calling before you pick up the phone.It is possible to ask a girl out if you already know her.It is possible to follow up on a conversation that you have already had if it is a girl who you are hoping to get to know better.It is important that you have a concrete reason.If you aren't ready to ask her out on a date, you might call her up to invite her to hang out with other friends.If you aren't ready to ask her out and just want to get to know her better, think back to your last in-person conversation and find a topic you can revisit.If she recommended a book, you could call and tell her how much you liked it.You might ask about a recent project if you are in the same class.
Step 2: It's a good time to call.
You want to make sure that she isn't rushing to get off the phone.Try to call her when she is free, such as after school or during a lunch break.Don't wait to call the girl if you just met her.If you can get her phone number within a day or two, you will be fresh on her mind.
Step 3: First, send a text.
Texting first can help if you don't know when a good time to call her is.She might be asked if she is free later that day or if you will call in a few minutes.Take advantage of the opportunity if she texts you for any reason and you happen to be near your phone.You will call her in a couple of minutes if you send her a text.
Step 4: Take a deep breath.
If you like the girl and want the conversation to go well, it is normal to be nervous before you call.If you want to keep yourself from talking on the phone, try a deep breathing exercise.It can help calm you down.
Step 5: She should be greeted warmly.
You want to make a good first impression when she answers the phone, so it's important to have a solid greeting ready to goSay hello and identify yourself if you know each other well.Say hello, give her your name, and remind her where you met her.If you know the girl, you might say, "Hey Kristy, it's John."If you just met her, you might say, "Hey Kristy, it's John."We met at the library.
Step 6: Discuss subjects that she's interested in.
Talking to her about the weather is not going to impress her.She will know that you pay attention when she speaks if you Tailor the conversation to her interests or hobbies.You could say, "You mentioned you're a baseball fan."You can ask her about what she thought about the game.You could say, "You had a test yesterday, didn't you?"How did it go?
Step 7: There are questions that require more than a yes or no answer.
It is best to avoid questions if you want your conversation to go as smoothly as possible.Open-ended questions can help keep the conversation going.Instead of asking if you liked the movie, you could say, "What were your favorite things about it?"
Step 8: Listen to her.
It can be a mistake to do most of the talking over the phone.Listen carefully to what she has to say and give her a chance to speak.That will let her know that she matters to you.Let her know that you are paying attention if she is telling a story.She knows you are following along if you say "really?" when she pauses.Don't be afraid to ask her questions.That is another way to let her know that you are paying attention.
Step 9: Get to the point.
It is a good idea to talk to her about her interests and what is going on in her life, but you don't want the conversation to go on for too long.Tell why you called after the initial pleasantries.She will appreciate your being direct.You could say, "I was calling to see if you wanted to hang out tomorrow night."It's possible to say, "I was calling to see if I could get that pasta sauce recipe we talked about."
Step 10: Take your voice to the next level.
You want to sound confident if you are trying to flirt with her.It can be helpful to lower your voice a bit so it doesn't sound timid.She can hear everything you say if you speak loudly.
Step 11: Speak slowly and clearly.
You may have a habit of talking quickly when you're nervous.Slow down your speech and speak clearly if you want to sound flirtatious.It's important when you're flirting that you sound confident.
Step 12: Affirmative offer.
It is possible to win a girl over by making her feel good about herself.You should compliment the things that you like about her, but be honest and not sound too cliche.When you compliment her, don't just focus on her physical attributes.If you like her sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, or other qualities, tell her about them too.
Step 13: The topics should be light.
It is best to avoid heavy topics when you are trying to be flirtatious, such as your sick friend or the layoffs happening at work.You can stick to fun, happy subjects such as your new cat or the trip you recently took to an amusement park.
Step 14: Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her.
You want to make sure that she knows you appreciated the time she spent with you.Let her know that you enjoyed your conversation and would like to talk to her again in the future.You might say that talking to you was enjoyable.Let's do it again.It's possible to say something like, "This was a really great conversation."We might be able to continue it tomorrow at lunch.
Step 15: Don't make any plans.
Go over the details before ending the conversation if you called her for a specific reason.If you asked her on a date and she agreed, make sure you know when and where you are going.It is a good idea to mention when you will see her again before you end the call.You could say, "I will probably see you this weekend at Jake's birthday party."Let's talk more.
Step 16: Offer a hug.
You will want to say goodbye when you are done with the conversation.If you end the call at a certain time of day, you can say, "Have a good night" or "Take care."