How To Tell Your Lesbian Friend That You Are Straight and Not Interested in Her
Do you think your lesbian friend likes you more than just friends?If this is a new person, you may need to find out if she is attracted to you.If it's clear that she is, then you should tell her that you're not interested.Make your feelings known to your lesbian friend by being kind and respectful.
Step 1: Don't make assumptions.
Don't assume that your lesbian friend has a romantic interest in you.Not everyone will be attracted to you.It's the same between men and women.It's about love.You should avoid prejudice towards your lesbian friend.
Step 2: Body language is what you should look for.
As with anyone who feels butterflies in their stomach, your lesbian friend may give off signs that she's interested.If the following signs are strong, you should assume that your friend is into you.Having strong eye contact is important.Smiling, laughing, and hanging on your words.It's possible being more shy or awkward than usual.
Step 3: Listen to what your friend has to say.
Some friends have a close bond because of friendship, but there are other signs that your friend may be attracted to you.When you hang out with guys that you think might want to be more than friends, think about it.Does your friend compliment you often?Something like, "You have beautiful eyes."Does she try to spend a lot of time with you even in large party situations?Do you feel like you communicate more with her?Do you text or chat with her in the same way you do with guys you're interested in?
Step 4: Don't lead someone on.
You know you're not interested in your lesbian friend, but at the same time you like the attention she gives you.Just like with guy friends, don't play head games and lead her.If someone is attracted to you and you aren't, be respectful.In the beginning, honesty will help to avoid drama in the future.
Step 5: Ask about her feelings towards you.
Unless your lesbian friend has already asked you out on a date, you may not know what's going on with her.If she's into you, talk to your friend to understand her feelings.If you've already kissed or gone on a date, your relationship is already outside the friend zone.You should be as kind and caring as you have been in the past.
Step 6: You can talk with your friend in private.
Don't talk about your relationship with your friend in public or in a group with other friends.You should only have this conversation with your friend.If you are going to reject your friend's advances, avoid talking in public.If you text or message your feelings about the situation, it may make things more confusing.Talk to your friend over the phone or in person.Direct private communication is better for you and your friend.
Step 7: Turn her down.
If you reject your friend, make sure you are not rejecting them as a person.Be kind and gentle.You should be clear that you are not interested in a relationship with her, and you're not bisexual or lesbian.You should be respectful of your friend's sexual orientation.I respect your orientation, but I'm not into you."You're a great friend, and hope to keep it that way, but I'm straight and just don't feel the same way."
Step 8: It's a good idea to avoid awkwardness.
It can feel awkward after being rejected.Don't be immature and keep your head up.You may have rejected someone in the past.The transition phase may feel weird, but you and your friend will get over it.Don't make this a big deal by doing the things you usually do.
Step 9: You should keep your friendship strong.
The friendship can go through ups and down.If you want to be friends with your lesbian friend, make sure she still feels included in activities that you and your other friends are doing.Don't exclude her because of the awkward feeling.Even after difficult times, friendship will remain.Make sure your lesbian friend knows what makes her a great friend.Don't compliment her in a sexual way, instead focus on her strengths as a friend.A good friend is reliable, trustworthy, and caring.
Step 10: Homosexuality is part of biology, not a lifestyle choice.
Homosexuality is a part of human biology.Your lesbian friend did not decide to be gay.Gay or straight, a person's sexual feelings are formed before puberty.You should be respectful of your friend's sexual orientation.Since society is often centered around heterosexual relationships, it's a good idea to talk to your friend about what challenges they are facing with being a lesbian.Understand her point of view.
Step 11: It can be difficult to come out as gay.
Lesbians are less accepted in many cultures so it might be harder for them to talk about their sexuality.Talking about sexuality can be hard for some people.You should be gentle with how you react to your friend's actions.Don't be critical.
Step 12: Allow your friends to be who they are.
Being a real friend involves acceptance, no matter if you have a lot of friends who are gay or not.Feelings of awkwardness about someone's sexuality or your own biases should be avoided, while unwanted sexual contact shouldn't be taken lightly.Your friend has a right to be who she is.Your friends can express love regardless of their sexual orientation.They have a right to feel those feelings, even if you don't reciprocate.