First you learn about yourself.It's an enlightening experience to find the real you.For the first time, you become self-sufficient and do things for yourself.It's hard to put into words when you don't know who you are.It's worth it to find yourself.Ready?Let's begin.
Step 1: You can create your own life timeline.
Write down all of the goals that you want to achieve.Write down the events in your life that have affected you.Life brings problems and misfortunes that shape our belief system and make us think differently, but it also makes us.These things are not a reflection of society.This is not an exercise in wallowing.Clarifying and identifying issues is what it's about.These issues might be keeping you from reaching your full potential.It's a good idea to clarify the past in your timeline.A timeline is an incredibly objective method for marking down past occurrences in your life that you consider to be major.It is possible to see them as formation blocks and as changing experiences along your timelines without getting too emotional.It's a good idea to keep it simple, real, and focused on the lessons learned from each incident.When analyzing past experiences, focus on what you learned.Everyone has blips in their timelines, but exaggerating or ignoring them won't help.You should recognize that these experiences shaped you.
Step 2: Don't think of others in the same way.
Life is easy for most people, we get a road map for how reality works, and it's more common than you think.Hope you had a good time when you went to school, got a job, and got married.It gets the job done, but it doesn't allow room for you.You should sit down with yourself.You can come up with a few beliefs that aren't based on logic, but on what you've been told.We all have them.What do you think?Society gives us the "misfits", condemning thelosers, idolizing the beautiful, and alienating thestrange.These words have no basis in reality.What do you think about the world around you?Think about what you think is good and bad.You can think more concretely.Do you agree with your parents' beliefs?Is it important for you to have a career?Do thick, black glasses make you feel cooler?It's great if the answer is no.There are no problems with not conforming to the norm.All you have to do is relearn.You must relearn this time, based on your gut.
Step 3: You should start relying on yourself.
Finding yourself is dependent on confidence and reliance.If you don't have a good sense of self-worth, you'll listen to what others say and be swayed by their insistence on what is appropriate.Trust your own feelings and believe in yourself.You will come up with a structure to base your new self on.Be patient with yourself and be confident in your abilities.Everything will come soon.If you have been a victim in the past, you should confront these issues.They are not going to leave on their own.They might be making you live up to other people's expectations instead of your own.Trust your own judgement and decision-making processes.We all make mistakes, but we learn from them.Take responsibility for budgeting, household matters, and planning about the future.People who lack a sense of self tend to disregard the "details" of life, believing that things will all work out.Things don't always work out.Taking responsibility allows you to be self reliant and self determined, no longer being carried along by the waves of fate.
Step 4: Prepare for a clean slate.
Stick to your moral conduct and develop your own.The first thing to do is overcome bad habits.Stop drinking and smoking.These are examples of habits that will prevent you from being at your best.They let you off the hook by ignoring the analysis of why you use crutches instead of finding better ways to improve your life.It won't make it go away if you put it into the hard basket.If you stare through your rear-view mirror, you can't drive your life forward.
Step 5: Take care of your world.
Having all your other affairs in order will help expedite the process of grabbing a firm hold on your identity.You should clean your room.Do your homework.Don't fight with that friend.The path to "me" time will be clear if everything is out of the way.We all have excuses for why we're not growing in the direction we want to be growing, it could be money, school, a job, relationship, you name it, someone has used it.If you're a busy bee, you need to clear your schedule so you can tackle this problem head on.It won't get done if it's always priority #2.
Step 6: You should immerse yourself in solitude.
Give yourself some time to get away from it all.Take some time each day to think.Take a park bench and look at it.Take a long road trip.Whatever you do, move away from things that distract you from thinking about your life and where you want it to go.You should not feel lonely, needy or afraid in solitude.Whether they're single or in a relationship, every person needs time alone.It is time for rejuvenation and self-talk, for utter peace, and for realizing that solitude is not a bad place to be, but rather, a liberating part of your overall existence.Alone-time may help stoke your creativity if you are a creative person.It's hard to be creative when you're surrounded by other people.When you step back, tap into your creativity.
Step 7: Look for a passion.
No matter what anyone else thinks, you should do what you believe in.If you find something that is worthy of your best efforts, sacrifice, and tears, then you have found the most important pursuit in your life.It can often lead to something fulfilling.It doesn't matter what it is, that's the key.It could be painting or preventing child hunger.When it comes to passion, there is no scale.You can either feel it or not.Don't let something zap you out of bed in the morning.You will bloom from there.
Step 8: A mentor can be found.
When you hit those unavoidable bumps in the road, having a mentor will be an incredible resource.Someone you trust has a definite sense of self.How did they do it?Let them know what you're doing.It's your journey, but would love to use their strength as a guide.You can take a look at them objectively.What makes them who they are?How did they find that?How do they stay true to themselves?A support system is important for self-improvement.A lot of people don't understand what you're going through and will brush off your broaching the topic as a flash-in-the-pan moodiness.For what you come up against, use this mentor as a sounding board.The outlet will be useful.
Step 9: Take care of your career path.
Chances are you aren't happy inside if you're wandering all over the place looking for the right fit.The job-changing could be an excuse for not realizing your true potential.Take an interest in what you love to do.If money wasn't an issue, what would you do?How can you make money from this activity?Allow yourself to be free-associating.Think about other ideas that pop into your mind when you're associated with something you like and don't like.You should keep a record of these things.Look at the free associations when you return to the career question.The things that excited, moved, and really stimulated you from the free-association exercise seem to gel most with the type of career you choose.The exercise is about looking for "beeps of joy" amid the noise of must-do's, shoulds and expectations.That work may not be where you want it to be.If that's the case, you'll need to work out a work-life balance that allows you to pursue your true self more outside of the workplace, even if it means less income.It is possible if it's in the pursuit of finding and sustaining your true sense of self.
Step 10: It's time to let go of the need to be loved by everyone.
Accept that people will think poorly of you no matter what you do.You can't please everyone so it's important to forget what everyone else thinks.People close to you should want you to be happy.You will never know who you really are if you continue to exist just to fulfill other people's ideas.Raymond Hull said that the man who trims himself to suit everyone will soon be gone.When a person grows more mature and self-loving, some people will become jealous, afraid, or overwhelmed.It's a threat to the relationship you've always had, and it forces them to take a hard look at themselves, which they may not want to do.The people may come around in time.Leave them be if they don't.You do not need them to be you.
Step 11: The negative should be abandoned.
It's not difficult, even though it sounds abstract.Don't judge others, objects, and yourself.Positivity can bring in a sense of happiness which is being "lost" masks, and opening your mind to new experiences and new people will show you a whole new world that may be better than the one you wrote off.If you tried to do something every day that was weird, illogical, or just plain uncomfortable, you would've brushed it off.Getting out of your zone will teach you something, but it will also force you to get to know you and what you don't like.
Step 12: Do you want to question yourself.
Record your answers when you ask difficult and far-reaching questions.It's easy for these thoughts to slip to the back of your mind when you're not around.Every time you reflect, you can review your notes and take it a step further, instead of answering the same questions over and over again.You can continue to measure your growth through life if you keep them in a notebook that is easy to access and update.If I had all the resources in the world, what would I do with my life?You could be painting, writing, farming, or exploring the Amazon rain forest.Don't hold back.I want to look back on my life and say that I never regretted.Have you ever traveled abroad?Would you regret not asking that person out?Do you regret not spending more time with your family?Do you regret not sharing your view of society with friends?I don't know if I conformed or stuck out beyond the level I wanted to.This question can be hard to answer.What words would I use to describe the kind of person I want to be?Is it Adventurous?Accepting towards a few?Is it open?Honest?Is it hilarious?Is it optimistic?Unreliable?Don't be afraid to choose words that are considered negative because that proves you're a real person and not a bunch of parts other people want to be known for.Being bossy is a trait that can become useful in emergency situations.They can be useful to the job you're meant to do.If you acknowledge that you have a negative trait, it will give you the motivation to change it.Try to channel that bad habit into a hobby.Don't wash your clothes often?Maybe you'll like camping.Pole dancing could be your ticket to fame.Are you lazy with certain tasks?You might be able to find another task that doesn't bother you."Who am I?"The question is not static.It should be something you keep asking yourself.A healthy person is constantly reinventing themselves.By asking this question frequently, you can understand who you are and how you change.Keep it focused on who you actually are, because in all likelihood that's a very good answer, even if you think you should be.
Step 13: Act upon and use your newfound knowledge.
Pick up some watercolors.A short story can be written.It's a great place to plan a trip to.You should have dinner with a family member.Start cracking jokes.Open up.Tell the truth.Whatever it is that you have decided you want to do, start doing it.You can come up with excuses such as "no time," " no money," and so on.Plan around the hurdles in your life instead of using them as excuses.If you make time to plan and find the courage to ask for things, you can free up time, find money, and get a break from duties.Sometimes you are too afraid to face the practicalities because you have limited yourself by.Start planning what you really want to do and investigating what needs to be done to get you to that point instead of throwing excuses at them, stopping the goals and dreams dead in their tracks.
Step 14: Be prepared for the worst.
Finding yourself is not a destination.There is a lot of trial and error.It's the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you get, and more often than not, you hit a bumps in the road.Prepare to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up.If you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you will find fulfillment and security in your pursuit.Most people will treat you kindly when you know yourself.Your light will shine on both you and others, making them feel more certain about your sense of self.
Step 15: Give others a helping hand.
Mahatma Gandhi said that the best way to find yourself was to lose yourself in the service of others.Being introspective without reaching out to others can cause you to shut yourself off.Service is the ultimate way to find purpose and a sense of place in the world.It's a wake-up call when you see how hard life can be for those in greater need than you.It helps you to see what you don't have and what opportunities you have.Suddenly everything can fall into place for you and you realize what matters most.Try it.You will like it.