The people you bully have a negative effect on themselves.If you habitually hurt other people, it's time to break that habit.The following steps will help you figure out why you bully and how to stop it.
Step 1: Know what it means to be mistreated.
When you tease, mimic, name call, and insult someone, you are a bully.When you hit, kick, push, shove, punch, pinch, or physically hurt someone, it's called physical bully.When you emotionally bully someone, you take away their power and confidence and make them feel shame.Gossiping, backstabbing, isolating, and leaving people out are included.It is when someone intimidates others physically or emotionally.Repeated behavior toward the same or different victims is what it is.
Step 2: You can learn to identify and understand bully.
There are online videos that show the problems and how to stop it.Inform yourself of the many cases of victims becoming victims of bullies later in life, deaths, and suicides.Depending on the severity of the situation, it can lead to suspension, expulsion, or even arrest.If you learn more about the people you dislike, you will be less likely to bully them.You can make new friends that way.
Step 3: Know what causes the other person to bully you.
There are different reasons to bully.They may have learned to be aggressive towards others from the environment in which they lived.The saying "misery loves company" suggests that they may have suffered from trauma.If that is the case for you, forgive yourself and learn better ways of dealing with it.
Step 4: Be aware of the patterns of bullied in your life.
Do you hurt other people because of it?Some people bully others because they learned how to do it from someone else.Think about how other people deal with their own feelings of powerlessness.Ask people you know about their thoughts on your behavior.If you are being bullied in your home, seek the help of a school counselor, a therapist, or someone you trust immediately.
Step 5: You should identify your fears.
Many people bully others because they're not happy with themselves.Consider if you are being bullied to cover your weakness.A common reason to bully is to hide your powerlessness.Do you bully to show off?Maybe you're trying to stay afloat by putting on a show of power.Do you tease someone else about something you don't like about yourself?It's common to bully someone else who shares an unwanted trait.Are you hurting other people because you're unhappy?Some people act against each other because they feel powerless to change their circumstances.Consider taking a personality test to get a better understanding of your personality.
Step 6: Think about how it feels to bully others.
When you hurt someone else, what goes through your mind?What are the most common events that lead to the bully?You stand a better chance of stopping negative behavior if you understand the pattern that happens when you lashes out.
Step 7: Take the victim's perspective.
How would you feel if you were in that situation?If someone else hurts you, don't give them pain.You would want to be treated in a certain way.
Step 8: How do the victims feel when you bully them?
To stop yourself from being a bully, you need to be able to communicate how you feel to the potential victim.It may be helpful to clear up the misunderstandings if the person was once your friend.
Step 9: What is the reason for the bully?
People don't bully for no reason.There needs to be a reason for the problem.Is it because you were bullied in the past and you feel superior?Is it because of the environment you've been in?Do you want something from someone or do you envy them?Is it because you are trying to fit in?
Step 10: Take a moment and think.
Think before you act if you bully other people because you have a temper problem.If someone says something that sets you off, take a deep breath and then respond.You have to realize that with every action you are making a decision.You have control over your words and behaviors.Rate your anger or strong feelings on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being the highest.Don't try to engage with others when you feel yourself at an 8, 9, or 10 on the scale.Take a moment to relax.
Step 11: Don't be a part of groups of people who reward you for being a bully.
If you hurt other people in order to gain status in a group, that group is having a negative influence on you.Chances are you don't want to hurt others, but you feel like you have to in order to survive.Don't be a bully and remove yourself immediately.Inform someone you trust that you need help handling the situation if the group threatens to bully someone else.
Step 12: Empathizing with others is important.
Maybe you're mean to other people because you don't think about things from their perspective.How would you feel if someone hurt you this way?Get to know people on a deeper level by spending time with them.Everyone is equal, and they are not better than you.Don't judge each person for their differences, instead appreciate what makes them unique.
Step 13: There is a change of outlook on things.
Changing the way you feel about victims or potential victims is based on the reason for being bullied.Positive things in others are more important than reasons to bully.Think about how you could be even more popular if you were kind to others.It's possible to find the best in every person you meet if you highlight their good features and don't pick on their worst.It's a better way to deal with others than being mean.If not friends, it may gain you lifelong allies.
Step 14: Get help from a person who knows what they're doing.
Talk to a counselor or therapist if you feel you can't control your bully on your own.She or he will give you tactics to change your behavior.
Step 15: You should apologize to the people that have been bullied.
You have a long way to go to get people's trust back when you've gained control of your behavior.If you want to offer a sincere apology to those you have hurt, start by thinking through the entire part you played in the upset.Be brave and vulnerable.The focus should be on what you have said.Let the person know what you can be counted on for in the future, and be wedded to the words that come out of your mouth.The victim will have less reason to dislike or fear you if you admit that it was wrong to bully them.The relationship between you and the person may be less abrasive if you become friends with them.Don't apologize until you really mean it.If your words are not genuine, people will be able to sense it.If you've hurt someone, they may not want to talk to you.Understand that your relationship may be permanently damaged if you don't respect their space.
Step 16: You should forgive yourself.
You can forgive yourself if you want to move forward with peace.
Step 17: Treat people well.
Until it becomes a habit to treat people respectfully, practice new ways of understanding and relating to them.Don't act if you find yourself thinking angry thoughts again.To appreciate people's humanity, focus on what you have in common with them.You can control yourself, even if you can't control other people.