Both parents and children can be hard on adolescence.The transformation of sweet, loving children into seemingly prickly and oppositional teenagers can be hard for parents.Teens become frustrated when their parents don't understand hormones, pressures, and independence in which they find themselves.Understand what your teenager is going through during these times.Adopt a variety of tactics to encourage your child as he or she grows up.
Step 1: The impact of hormones on mood is significant.
Your child has a good temperament.Your child's brain is often overwhelmed by puberty hormones.In teenagers, hormones present in adults can operate differently.THP is a hormone that adult brains experience as a calming influence.
Step 2: Remember that your teenager's brain is still evolving.
The brain responsible for impulse control, judgment, and decision-making doesn't fully mature until we are in our early 20s.Your child's brain is still being built, even as the rest of his or her body begins to look adult.
Step 3: You should remind your child that he isn't enjoying being sad.
The confluence of hormonal change, body changes, developing identity, pressure from friends, and a developing sense of independence is making it difficult for your child to cope.He or she is acting out.They may be confused by the changes in their lives.Even if your child is telling you something different, you need to provide stability and support.
Step 4: Look back on your adolescence.
It's a good idea to remember what it was like to be your own person.Consider how your parents experienced your struggles and triumphs.
Step 5: Stay calm and consistent.
Teens can be rendered emotional by hormones.The intensity of the emotions they experience may make them feel uneasy.Your child needs you to be present in his or her life.
Step 6: Clear boundaries for communication and behavior are needed.
Your child should be involved in developing the rules.Doing so gives you the chance to remind her that she helped develop these rules and must now live by them.Teens feel safe if they know their boundaries.Make your list of rules and consequences short and to the point.Your top priorities should be prioritized.Pick your battles.Minor annoyances such as shrugs, raised eyebrows, or bored looks should be ignored if your teenager is basically behaving.Teens may be disrespectful.Their brains are growing.Ask about their intentions, for example, "That comment came out sounding pretty offensive."Did you mean to be rude?
Step 7: Your child's behavior is more important than his or her personality or character.
If you want to make your disapproval known, focus on what your teenager is doing, not who he is.Your child isn't dumb even if his decision to slam a door in frustration and trap his sister's fingers was less than brilliant.As you explain why his behavior was unacceptable, affirm his worth as a person.
Step 8: Have time with your teenager.
When your child is interested in talking, make yourself available.Offer to give your teen a ride and then use the time in the car to chat; sometimes sitting side-by-side can offer a more comfortable venue for conversation.
Step 9: Stay involved with your teen.
It will be easier if you ask questions about activities and events.Attend his performances or follow his sports team.Some common ground can be provided by learning more about one of your child's interests.Start following your daughter's favorite league if she is a die-hard soccer fan.One area of common ground can make everyday conversation much easier if you allow your child space to develop her interests.Encourage your child to play sports or watch a funny movie.
Step 10: Give your child some time alone.
Teenagers need time to process the many changes they are going through.Encourage your child to write.Allow your child to figure things out on his own.You will show that you trust his judgement and that he is capable of making appropriate choices.
Step 11: Affirm.
Positive reinforcement helps teenagers form their own identity.When you are proud of them, tell them.Praise positive behavior.In the midst of a heated discussion, using positive terminology can be helpful.Let's figure out how we can agree on a schedule that will allow you to continue acing those exams and enjoy some time with your friends, too.I really liked the way you helped your brother with his jump shot.You did a great job of helping him feel like he could improve his technique, and I could see his pride when he made that basket.
Step 12: Seek a mentor for your kid.
If your relationship with your teenager has become difficult, this tactic can be very important.A trusted adult such as an aunt, uncle, or family friend can help support your child during this difficult time.Extra support can be provided to your child by a mentor even in situations where your relationship is strong.
Step 13: You should show your love.
Your teenager may be acting out.Your teen may feel like he or she is not good enough.Your job as a parent is to love them no matter what.Leave a note, give a hug, or speak words of love to your child.
Step 14: You are a role model.
If your child sees you treating others poorly or engaging in destructive behaviors such as heavy drinking, smoking, or drug use, you will have little recourse to criticize his own poor behavior.
Step 15: Attend to the basics.
You will be able to handle the stress of raising a teenager if you are well rested, eat healthy, and have time for regular exercise.
Step 16: Take some time to rest.
Make sure you have enough time to relax and take a break from your children.Wake early, take a brief walk, or let your kids know that you are taking a few minutes to read a chapter in your book and will check back in with them once you have finished.As you model good self-care for your children, you will keep yourself balanced.
Step 17: Seek the help of others.
Discuss child rearing with friends or your partner.The old adage that it takes a village to raise a child really does carry truth; others will offer valuable insight, advice, or simply a listening ear for you to vent concerns and frustrations.If you are struggling, look for a support group or other source of help.Find out how to find extra support from your child's school counselor or family physician.
Step 18: Don't forget to be aware of your mental health.
Depression or anxiety can be caused by stress.Please contact your doctor if you are concerned about your health.
Step 19: You can learn to distinguish between angry behavior and moody behavior.
A lot of teens are struggling with changes in their lives.Teens sometimes experience more serious anger.If you notice any of the signs of dangerous anger, you should immediately contact a mental health professional.Extreme identification with one group.If your teen wants to go to war with other groups, he has crossed the border into dangerous thinking.There was a complete lack of communication.If your child stops talking to you or her peers, the situation can become dangerous.This is a sign of weakness.There is violence.If you pay attention to the behaviors of hitting or vandalising, they can escalate.Dropping out from activities your child used to enjoy.A teenager who stops identifying with others may become capable of doing them harm if he decides to stop playing soccer.Substance abuse is combined with any of the behaviors.Substance abuse can include misuse of household items such as sniffing glue or stealing prescription drugs from your medicine cabinet.
Step 20: It's a good idea to know when your child is depressed.
Most of the time, a depressed mood or feelings of sadness is a sign that your child needs treatment for depression.There was a lack of energy.There is no interest or motivation.He couldn't enjoy activities that he used to enjoy.There is a withdrawal from family and friends.There are feelings of anger or anxiety.An inability to concentrate.There are significant changes in weight.There are significant changes in sleep patterns.There are feelings of guilt or lack of worth.There are thoughts of death or suicide.Failing grades at school.
Step 21: When you have serious concerns take action.
The gravity of your concerns will affect the form of action you take.If you are concerned that your child is engaging in destructive behavior that is not dangerous anger or depression, approach her with information rather than a challenge.Provide links to literature.It shows respect for his ability to make better decisions in the future.If your child is a danger to herself or others, you should seek help immediately.Talk to your doctor, a mental health professional, or your child's school counselor.